Gay Stuff : Fellatio Focus
Some profiles focus on Fellatio as the sexual activity they enjoy. For whatever reasons, the profilers don’t want to engage in anal action and instead want to get off with playmates limited to explosion of passionate streams of cum from hard cocks!
Limiting sexual activity to cock sucking is like a half a loaf of bread to some guys—but is all other guys want to experience. The reasons may be many, but the first thoughts about the limitation is that the profilers place restrictions on their sexual activity because of factors such as wives/girlfriends, same-sex partners with whom they are having anal, or simply they don’t enjoy it!
A4A members, what are some of the reasons you limit activities to oral without anal?
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I Luv anal. Luv oral. Luv kissing. Luv… I like to try anything that is safe. I think part of the hesitation with anal is time and clean up. Easier to suck and go.
What I actually find more is the reluctance of guys to play period. Seems like if you want to suck cock or get sucked then do it. Why make it so complicated. I Luv those rare guys who you can text, meet up, get off with and go. And do this regularly. So nice and so much better then masturbation.
It is what they want, but I prefer
Someone who wants it all. I want it all because i don’t cum well with being sucked off. I hate jacking off unless I can’t cum inside someone etc.
But, I love having my prostate massaged, and massaging prostate with my dick, I like mind blowing sex, I’ll still play around, but I’m all about the business, so that may separate sexual desires.
-STDs, etc are a factor for alot of
Bi males, inexperience, and girl friends. So, i even had a guy who wanted to put on a condom just for me to give him head, i was turned off. Because his dick was not even all that big….
I love the sight of a man’s cock! Playing with a nice hairy cock is so sexy and masculine that I just want to devour it in my mouth, watch it slide in and out of my mouth with my lips enjoying every inch of his hard dick. I don’t enjoy anal that much and having a dick in my ass pales in comparison to seeing one and playing with it up close and personal.
While it is true in my case I far prefer to have my cock sucked then to top. My reasons vary. Mainly I’m turned off by an unclean ass. Few bottoms understand this point, and pounding home his hole and compacting terds aren’t the same.
I have a nice thick cut 7.5″ cock that might make you cry out on entry, or suddenly change your mind, but it always slides right into a hot waiting mouth without issue every time.
Then there is always the availability factor. While I am a top, I far prefer oral over anal but I’m not opposed to anal, but jacking off always fits into my schedule and in the end is far more drama free.
I personally need to be attracted to the guy and feel comfortable with the dude to do anal sex. I never have let just anyone bone me, or I them, has to be some sort of friendship involved, not a random kind of guy. With all the drugs so easily obtained today and used, people are not in there right minds to care who is boning them much less being safe about it. Call me a prude about sex today, that is okay, but I am not on meds because of my compromised easy play lifestyle.
Yesterday, here in my downtown Phoenix hotel room, a young Hispanic guy emailed that he wanted only “to get oral.” When he showed up — and unveiled his massive 9-incher — I sucked it for all it was worth. Soon, he was grabbing my hardon, putting it in his mouth, and then on the bed guiding my hard dick up his ass. Guys sometimes say they want “only oral” but end up getting fucked. thaddeus172000
Anal simply does not interest me. I’d rather have dick in my mouth.
I love it all, but I have no problem with a guy who only wants oral giving and receiving! I’m happy with whatever I can find as long as it’s safe! During the years when I had a relationship with one special guy and he was only with me, I loved to do it all, any way he’d do it ! Now, I have to be much more careful !
Oral is safer….and with a talented service provider, the pleasure is unparalleled.
I’m new to bottoming, and have to agree it is a time factor with me. I want to make sure I’m completely clean. Usually don’t eat for at least 16 hours before hand. Any st louis guys need a bottom hit me up. socoman
For me,I am one of these married guys who thought my affinity for guys was something I’d grow out of…got married….then it didn’t go away…I reserve intercourse for my wife, though I think I would love topping a short, hung guy. Also, to some extent it helps lower some risk involved with sexual activity, and so I feel it is a safer play for me, my partner, and my family.. I know,I know, torches and pitchforks for the married guy.
A quick and easy suck and go…mutual or not…is easy to pull off whether in a stall or the ABS or even in the car or even a dark corner. It gets that urge met for both participants that are simply looking to bust a nut. Meeting for more than that adds complexity though believe me sure like to meet to take it further just as much as the next guy…but for a good top or bottom session I want the availability of a shower ideally before and likely after as there is so much more to it than a quickie. Nothing worse than a mess…so despite the claims of cleanliness and readiness to take it deep I for one pass unless a shower or at least decent bathroom is close by.
i’ve have wanted to suck cock since the first moment I laid eyes on one…& i have sucked many! I want to do anal but have been unable to get past the pain. I know I want it. As soon as i get a cock in my mouth my ass begins to tingle & want a cock to fuck me. My greatest desire is to suck cock while being fucked.
I love sucking dick to completion and I also enjoy getting fucked in the ass on occasion. Love the feeling of my hole being stretched and the head of dick hitting my prostate bulb.
LOL, call me old fashion, i would rather give up the anal on the wedding night! a special gift to receive or give.. Oral on the other hand and mutual masterbation is suck, be sucked and get off and jet!
I find myself agreeing with M4M. Why are so many guys afraid to engage with what they seem to treat as a most intimate activity? Especially if the other guy claims he is bi and is married?
“In for a penny – in for a pound” as the saying goes. Unless you don’t trust yourself; in which case you probably shouldn’t be having sex with anyone but your wife anyway.
I love the kissing and the touching. I’m enjoy giving head. Some guys I run into will only suck if it’s hard. Not me. Lol… I love the feeling of making a soft cock turn into a raging hard on. To feel it grow in my mouth it’s extremely hot and satisfying to me… Any takers from Barstow, Ca. Message me MUAH!!! XOXOXO
For me, I enjoy watching a guy getting off while I perform oral. I do enjoy being a versatile/top. Oral is quick pleasure. Anal should take preparation to have a clean experience. Plus you should have the talk about protection. In oral you do need to inform the receiver how you want his load.
Well for me personally i wouldn’t top unless i trust the other individual, alot of ppl lie about who they are and their personality so once meeting and talking we click u would move on from there, its alot to do with trust. Respect and sexual attraction
I seek out oral because of the fact that I love sucking dick. I love to use my tongue. I love the sensation of a nice hard dick in my mouthas I lick the shaft up and down and jiggle their balls in my mouth. i don’t mind getting oral in return but I prefer to suck, reciprocation optional. As far as actual sex, I don’t have much experience with topping and I only want to go there if I’m comfortable enough with the person and the chemistry is right. So that would mean an ongoing encounter, which hasn’t really happened here yet. I have bottomed before but honestly, it’s a lot of work. All the maintenance of the cleaning process and watching what I eat in order to be ready takes a lot of time I actually don’t have. If I had someone I was comfortable enough with that was ongoing then maybe. But with hookups, I prefer oral.
I’m a top and a confirmed assaholic. If a guy tells me he wants to perform oral only I’m typically not interested. The act feels good enough, but I rarely cum from being sucked. It may have happened 4 times ever, and I’ve been blown many times. Mots guys aren’t that good, they tire out, or become frustrated when they realize their actions won’t produce a mouthful of cum after 25-30 minutes of hard work. As for those guys who say they want to blow me and remain fully clothed and don’t even want their ass or cock played with while they’re sucking mine…no thanks!
I find oral to be the most enjoyable, both giving and receiving. I only top for anal, but am pretty thick and it is hard for many to open up. I also have trouble coming if it is too tight. Oral always makes me cum.
I really love to suck cock and can’t get enough. I love to be fucked and will bottom. Sometimes I’ll top, too. Mostly, though, I want to suck cock!
All you guys looking to suck hit me up!!
Love a good BJ. A good sucker is worth his weight in gold!!
Where are you… Hehe I’m good
I had desperately hoped to see a comment like urs @onlyoneandy I haven’t seen oral protection like condoms. So i’ll be needing proof as to how very safe oral sex is compared to protected anal sex
You have to start somewhere, so if it is oral, that’s fine. The best sex occurs when you’re in tune with your feelings and the feelings and urges of your companion. As Thad notes, sometimes you’ll start with oral but move on to other things if the mood is right. That unexpected twist makes it even more fun!
It’s a success if you meet someone you enjoy, you get the clothes off, you’re hard and all sexed up and leave happy. Just keep answering the messages and have fun!
Nothing better then sucking a nice cock and feeling to shoot across my tongue and down my throat. Anal sex is fine when time permits but I’d rather be on my knees sucking until I get the reward for a blowjob well done.
Because anal is, well…repulsive.
Most men (sadly) have ZERO idea on how to fuck down
a willing hole. Jackrabbit style anal is such a turn
off when that is all they know how to do.
There is a time and need for rapid fire thrusting,
usually just before you cum, other than that, anal
is just waste of time for me.
I think giving head to a dude,
I can control his reactions more. If they are uncut,
They can expect some of thee best head they have ever
gotten in their lives. It’s the sensitivity factor.
I usually prefer to just give and get head.
Overall, anal is just too damn much of a disappointment.
Cocksuckers and cocksucking rules my carnal mindset.
And now…i need and want to suck some good dick.
Damn…..
I’m an oral seeker on here. I love sucking dick. I love to use my tongue. The sensation of having a nice hard cock in and out of my mouth turns me on. I prefer oral. I don’t mind receiving but prefer sucking. Reciprocation optional for me. I don’t have much experience topping. In order for me to do that it has to be someone I’m comfortable with and have en established friendship at the very least. So far I haven’t found that at all. I’ve bottomed before but it’s too much work. The whole preparation and clean up process takes a lot of time I really don’t have. I’d much rather suck dick, 69 and get a guy off with my tongue.
I love anal, but sometimes I just want to feel a man shoot his nut in my mouth!
I love anal and oral. I’m a BTTM, getting head does nothing for me. Sexually, I need to be penetrated to come to full climax. I don’t mind sucking a load or two 😉 out of someone, but if you want to please me….. Top me.
Some men aren’t into anal, stigma, dirty, unclean, whatever it may be everyone has their own vice. Play safe please!
Anal just has sufficient durational pain and discomfort that it isn’t enjoyable, even if the emotional connection might want it. For an older top age is a traitor such that a too-tight hole can’t be penetrated by a not-hard-enough cock anymore. However, face fucking works fantastically, especially if the receiver likes a vigorous throat pound.
I am a guy who wants another guy to have my cock in his mouth all the time. Being sucked on by another man is the sex act I’m drawn to. I’m only really relaxed when my cock is in my cocksuckers mouth, and I get hard for that all the time. I think about it all the time. I have absolutely no interest whatsoever in anything at all to do with anal. Never been fucked and never want to be. Am uninterested in fucking another man, or woman for that matter. This isn’t something I’ve just chosen, its what I’m drawn to naturally. And my childhood was fine, nobody abused me in any way, my sexual experiences were age-appropriate as i matured. When I was grown I was invited to try many different sex acts, and I tried some, including ‘topping’ a few times, as it was the only part of anal that i could even think about doing. But I never really got into it, it just wasn’t my natural thing. I’ve had ample opportunity and invitations to try many different sex acts and i’ve tried some to make sure i wasn’t missing something. But for me, for some reason, my body and my psyche is drawn towards cumming in another mans mouth as ofetn as i can and for my cock to be in his mouth, hard or soft, at all times, all possible times of every day possible. I can sit and read the paper or watch tv or drive or on computer and i’m fine if my pants are pulled down and my cock in my buddy’s mouth. If i dont get that often enough I am drawn to getting it even more. And i’ve found there are cocksuckers who seem born to do exactly what i need, suck on me all the time cause they need to do that as much as i need to be sucked on. These are the men I look for, and the ones I have the most fun with and return to. As far as anal goes, you might think of my disinterest in it like this: many gay men have no interest in fucking a pussy even though there are plenty of people in the world who would also classifly that as you’re missing something, like if you just fuck ass and not pussy to, its like only a half loaf of bread to them too. In fact, what i’ve learned is that everyone has their own set of personal preferences where sex acts are concerned, and their own personal psyche which helps them choose what interests them and what doesn’t. Some, like my self have a narrow range of desired sex acts and some have a broad range. I think that sex is different for each person and whatever they’re drawn to is simply what they’re drawn to. Gays are just drawn to the same sex more strongly than straights. And within each sex realm there are people who want this or that, there really isn’t a standard of sex for anyone anywhere. Lots of people like similar things, but no one is exactly like another person where sex preferences are concerned. To believe that a gay person who doesn’t want anal is missing some part of the gay experience is like a straight person thinking that same thing about not wantinb pussy. People should really be encouragoing each other, well adults should be encouraging other adults, to have the courage to ask for what you want and to try and find others who you will have a good sex fit with, who like what you like or fits you like a cocksucker fits me. I’m not drawn to anal and yet i’m still gay. Nothing about ass interests me in the least. Its hard to keep having men try to press me into top service all the time assuming i should like it. what i do like is my cock in your mouth and thats that. if you like my cum and my cock in your mouth and anal isn’t important to you either, lets fall in love man. And, I do like some other sex stuff, but most people would classify it “vanilla”. But I enjoy it nonetheless. Every human wants slightly different sexual things. Everyone. Lets encourage each other to feel unashamed to ask for what we want and when you are asked by someone if you want to do a particular sex act, if you do great, if you don’t, instead of thinking thats queer, instead encourage them to tell you about why they like it and the kind of person they want to find, and then keep that in mind and if you meet someone who would be interesting to that person then introduce them. And maybe someone will do that for you when you let it be known all you really want. Cause there is nothing wrong with any sez act performed by consenting adults who have all consented freely of their own free will and we not conned into it either, who chose it cause it was truly something they knew about and wanted to do. There is nothing wrong with any sex acts among consenting adults. Nothing. I’m looking for a dedicated cocksucker. What are you looking for?
Nice read Sam. You really pushed my buttons. I having fantasies of being locked up in a small room with you.
When I was in my 20’s I bottomed regularly – never had to “prepare”, etc. I met my ex-partner in 1984 and it became apparent that anal was not going to be a part of our sex lives, which was fine since we both loved giving and receiving oral, kissing, body contact. I did not miss anal at all. After we broke up in 1991, I began going out to the clubs again, and of course, having sex. I tried bottoming a few times but found that I just could not relax enough and it was extremely painful. I have not bottomed for almost 20 years – however, I am beginning to think about possibly bottoming again (because I remember how incredible it feels). First I have to get some “lessons” from a friend about prep, etc. and start practicing. I know the one obstacle I do face if I start bottoming again is the large percentage of tops who prefer barebacking, and being a survivor of the AIDS epidemic, I would be a hypocrite if I allowed anyone to top me without using a condom.
The preparation time would probably be the only factor which would keep me from bottoming on a regular basis if I was to start again.
Oral is a good pre game or a full show. Fucking should be a main event for all the prep it takes. And if it is with a special someone it changes the entire dynamic of the relationship. My cock is not a ” starter dick” and stopping upon entry is not usually gonna happen unless ive blown a few loads down previously.
I love it all. No gag reflex and love cock deep down my throat. Anal play feels incredible but must be clean! I get very turned on eating a clean, gaping hole. And when I bottom I like it bare and for ass to mouth. Pull it from my hole and let me finish you with my mouth.
I enjoy it all especially with my regular fwb. Do anyone know what that position is in the picture above? Very hot!
As atop I love watching a guy really get into sucking my 8 inches right down to the balls. There’s nothing better the seeing a guy that loves to swallow my cum enjoy himself as my loads shoots out on his tongue and watching him suckle out every tasty drop a knowing he wants more. Love a guy that wants to repeat so he can learn how to please me for his pleasure.
as a versa/top I love oral as a warm up to anal, I live in IOWA the land of bottoms. I have a FWB latino nice uncut cock also versa and he gets so wound up when i’m sucking and rimmin. We recently did a 69 rimming session and I was the one begging to get fucked and he did a hell of a job. we both love to suck I love to watch him squirming around while I suck him. He is one of the few men that have ever been able to get me off while sucking me. Never had a problem with him as far as anal because we both understand the meaning of anal prep. Most young guys don’t have a clue. If I get a wiff of a unclean or unprepped ass i’m done. I think oral is great if the guy knows what he is doing…. DDDD
I want both! And at risk of sounding greedy…..I want both at the same time! HMU if anyone is Collin county!!
“What are some of the reasons you limit activities to oral without anal?”
The question seems to imply that any gay guy that doesn’t do anal is somehow “limited”, not a real gay, not worthy of bearing the gay brand.
A fair question is “what are some of the reasons you limit your activities to being “a total top” or “total bottom”? Why don’t you like being sucked? Why don’t you like sucking another guy? Why are you so willing to pound a another guy’s ass, but never let anyone near yours?
Those limits are acceptable it seems when it comes to the gay brand.
What’s great is that gay guys come in all shapes, sizes, nationalities, colors, religions, political preferences … and yes … with all kinds of sexual likes and dislikes. In the end (pun), there’s someone for everyone if you’re honest about what you’re looking for and patient and discerning in the search.
What is not needed is senseless labeling and division, especially from within.
I need to meet Sam or a guy like Sam. Luv to have a cock in my mouth as much as possible, or at least have a my face in a man crotch as much as possible. Luv to feel both cum and piss in my face.
Most important thing for me is pleasing the other guy. I love getting fucked with two conditions: a) I need time to prepare. It’s lots of work to flush out multiple times to ensure I’m clean for my partner, and b) my partner must enjoy the experience of fucking my ass and really get’s into his nut. I don’t want to suck or get fucked by anyone who is not into fucking me.
My partner, of 12-years really gets into fucking me and this is why I really get into it as well. When he no longer gets into pounding my ass, then it will be time for him to go. I love sucking his cock and balls, but he prefers that I don’t because it makes him cum too fast.
I love anal. I love oral. Oral requires no preparation. Any questions?
(and there’s nothing like the feeling of a long dick snaking down your throat..)
And Sam.. wherever you are, you would be a dream come true! To have a cock in my mouth all the time would be heavenly…
Another vote for finding a guy like Sam who wants his cock in my mouth every minute of the day. My ultimate fantasy.
I have in my profile that I am looking for oral mainly cause it’s just easier to do right now. I prefer to top and very new to bottoming. But, in my last relationship, I didn’t get any oral and really started to resent that so right now, all I want is oral but not opposed if it goes further than that.
Preparation is part mindset, part memory, part sensitivity, part expressiveness, part maturity, and part cooperativeness, between the two. Know your physiology. I used to bottom, never douched, but did make sure I was entry clean. I knew what spots to touch to relax the entry, what techniques to retract the opening, and how to deal with the first pain of the transverse folds, which some people mistakenly call the inner sphincter (which is actually right alongside the outer one). The trick is lube, enter, feel resistance, slide out, repeat. On about the third try, push past the resistance of the inner fold, and let the bottom’s reflex push it back out. A pause, as the rectum relaxes and feels a cool breeze sensation, then reinsert the lubed member and it should be like butter. It’s all reflex. Pain is your body trying to empty the bowel. Once the object goes, muscles relax, and resistance disappears. And using a nice poly condom is slicker and more naturally warm and not draggy, like latex. Just saying. I typically top now, but I thoroughly enjoy oral as foreplay, giving and getting. Sometimes the anal gets forgotten. The point is, enjoyment and cooperation is the goal, not a particular demanding act. Rarely, I meet a bottom who refuses to be given oral too, but usually, it’s a mutual ice breaker and a refresher in between. But regardless, set your own pace, so you enjoy whatever you do.
When I read this post, I had an expectation of a bunch of negative comments.. I was actually really surprised at how many of you put up good valid reasons. I honestly just love sucking cock. I’ve been told many times “That’s the best head I’ve ever gotten”, and I love that. I’m also way more into hooking up than settling down, and head is just a lot easier to pull off during a spur of the moment encounter at a party/bar/whatever.
I’m not totally against anal. I like it. But these days it’s something I prefer to do with someone I’m familiar and comfortable with – and someone who knows what they’re doing as far as prep. I don’t eat ass for anyone because I can’t stand the thought of putting my tongue where shit comes out (and for some reason a top who won’t eat ass gets leper status from some of you) – but what made me swear off anal with hookups was the time I pulled out and there was a piece of turd stuck to my cock, and all I could smell was shit. It was seriously gross.
I am like this but with anal. I am a bottom and when I play I want to be penetrated. Sure I’ll do oral, but if my playmate cums before penetration I am disappointed.
My regular fuckbud/friend is 23,str8 way more than anything remotely gay. He just likes to suck my cock for hours while I rim the hell out of his ass and suck his cock and balls. Just doing oral on me is something he gets great pleasure from and we need to do nothing more. No drama, just guys doing guy things and having beers afterwards.
What Mike said I couldn’t agree more! He said exactly what I and many other guys feel,why some of us refrain from doing anal with another dude.Though fucking a dude is very sexy,feeling him give up his manliness to you is hot. What he stated in the latter portion of his comment describes the very “turnoff” senerio that alot of us shutter to encounter. That’s just as bad as having dog-breath! Yea,getting “shit kisses”. You being a sex pup doesn’t mean to make it feel like we’re having sex in a kennal! Fortunately most of the dudes I have gotten to be with enjoyed the making out,jerking,sucking,and frottaging(no safer hotter way to enjoying each other’s manhood)!
Eh- anal sex doesn’t have the same appeal to me as it does to other guys. If it happens, fine (and it’s something that I never initiate in any given encounter, though I play topside when things do go that route), but if it doesn’t, it’s not a big deal. I’d much rather engage in long, hot, makeout and fellatio sessions- that’s what really gets the motor going. I love to suck, I’ve been given numerous compliments about my head game, and I love watching the other guys facial expression when I go to town on him in that regard. And for those that have never gotten into frottage: trust me, it’s a very safe and pleasurable way to enjoy each other’s masculine bodies.
KJ, about your closing statement, you betcha! There’s no hotter way of guy to guy bonding!
I personally can’t stand oral – giving or receiving. An ex of mine said I was a natural, but it was the last thing I wanted to do with him.
On a side note, cum anywhere above the neck (esp. in the mouth) makes me want to vomit!