A4A : Searching For A Playmate
If you are searching for a potential playmate you will often search for one with characteristics and desires similar to yours. However, sometimes you may want a playmate that is distinctly different because you want a new adventure with a fresh charge of sexual energy!
Many A4A members state their specific preferences while others leave much of their profile vacant suggesting the unknowns may discourage lengthy texting for basic information. Unknowns can be intriguing—or may not be worth the effort. Some guys don’t mind having conversation for long periods of time while others may want to get to a conclusive point of interest—or disinterest—with a minimum amount of time consumed.
To find what you’re looking for faster, start by the NEW MEMBERS tab and check out the new profiles added recently in your area. If you use the feature that allows you to share your location, you can often get a GPS calculation of the estimated distance between you and the profiles you view. Don’t be misled if the profile suggests being hundreds of miles away, because it may indicate the guy is away on a trip!
Another tip to find what you’re looking for is to use the SEARCH tab where you can filter guys available on A4A by age, cock size, body type, ethnicity, etc. This will help you get what you desire with a minimum amount of effort. Our goal is that you find a man that wants what you want whether it is love, sex or friendship.
Dave
One thing that works real good for me is the search tab.. I travel a lot , so when in town I check out A4A go to search look for what I’m after big hung black top.. If I’m lucky find 1or 2 and the good time starts Thanks a4a
ive been searching for a playmate for the past 4 hours and cant seem to come up with nobody I’m interested in. I’m young, slim, handsome and virile yet all that seem to come at me on adam4adam are grandpas and old great uncles. I don’t have anything against them on the odd occasion when I want a gum job however for a good tumble in the bed I want a young hot black as coal lover with a huge dick to wear my ass out. is that too much to ask for?
I search for a guy that just wants to be serviced. I love to drop throat a nice clean cock and feel the guy tense up
Yummy
number one rule for finding sex: don’t be fat
mike: MANY people like heavier guys by the way. I’m sure I fuck less than some heavy dudes.
I try and be honest and up front what I am interested in (NEED), when placing an add or profile. It could be to much information and on the other hand. If someone knows what I am looking for they contact me. When exchanging emails or chat, if They don’t give me a name by the 3rd. exchange,I delete them!!!!
yeah some of people are just down-out rude..on hear.I’m an easy going guy.Not pushy.very down to earth guy..but it’s all good.
Every time I put in search criteria and hit submit it comes up with ” sorry, no members found”. What am I doing wrong??
bijockforfun2: make sure u didn’t hit something crazy like cock size 14 inches….
or age 102 years old…
We all have comfort zones. At 47 and hosting a rather arrogant and aggressive 20something, he took his age bracket off the table. I’ll stick to people within 10 years+/- my age. The wife loves to watch, but sometimes you gotta say no. But whatever makes you happy, right?
Who wouldn’t want a full gummer? Twice the workspace and no rough edges? I’ll take one.
Also, when you’re narrowing your search, try picking the main 3 or 4 attributes you’re looking for, instead of insisting on all 37.
LOL. So you want to find a playmate? First thing you need to do is set your standards, Second thing is to write a profile that is honest and clearly stat what playmate your looking for. Post honest pics.
Old and wise can be fun. They may teach you something.
Young and dumb? They are full of cum.
Just remember this. Nothing says Whore then a profile that says safe sex only. Then sending a message that says ” I will take your load if your clean”.
Looking for a playmate? Set your standards first. That way no one waste time on flakes.
I forgot to add. Read before you send a smile.
24kplay, is certainly searching for a Sexy, Clean, Real Bottom Boy. He don’t have to be feminine as a matter of fact. I like for him to be masculine in the Street’s. But give that sexy, clean Ass and mouth up to me. I don’t care about his race, creed or color. Because Sexy Cums in every shade and hue of the Rainbow.
24kplay
First things first. My profile is direct and to the point. I’m not a mind reader and I don’t expect you to be one either.
Secondly: I’m a big older guy. Maybe it’s the safety factor that the younger crowd likes, maybe it’s the role play of the father or uncle factor, but I’ve never had a shortage of partners even if some find my fat old ass to be less then desirable, others stand in line for a chance.
To each their own. But in the end I can’t stand skinny little punks that are full of themselves with thin profiles. I just really never see the need to say it upfront. Just my own preference.
I get tired of the seekers claiming to be 8plus when the pics are clearly 6ers or maybe at the most 7. I’m honest and don’t pretend to be what I’m not, my pics are recent, I’m loosing weight and working out in the gym, but guys don’t seem to want a guy that can change his body, I’ve dropped 50lbs in two months with a strict diet and gym routine, sad that gays are more intolerant than republicans. I guess when my ass looks like a model I can tell all the jerks where to go.
I like the Search function too, but one thing about it drives me nuts. For some reason the location setting always reverts back to my specific location, not the location I left it on last time. When I search I want to search the whole city, not just my area. And if I started to enter search criteria and realize the location needs changed, when I change location all the stuff I entered down below is wiped out. Would be nice if that could be fixed to not do that.
I like guys that look more or less just like me. Young, slender, hairless and beautiful. Not a lot of luck. elisalasthethird
Why are some many guys always looking for a new guy to play with? What happened to guys they’ve met and played with past? Were the guys who are doing the looking so bad (arrogant, selfish, egotistical, etc.) that none of their previous playmates will play them again?
My profile is direct and to the point as to what I am looking for. I don’t use the filters as so many people lie about their stats. If the stats and photo don’t match, that is a definite red flag. I live for TODAY, not yesterday or tomorrow, so be honest, get to the point and make it happen.
I didn’t think when I came to A4A that Searching For A Playmate would be such a journey through time 🙁
I place my profile on A4A and it is upfront, honest and direct as to my desires and passions to be with another person. Sadly in the time I have been with A4A I have yet to meet anyone let alone enjoy the pleasure of their company.
But I keep hoping the Muse of A4A will smile upon me and bring the gentle sexually Playmate this gentleman way.
As the poet once wrote:
“The clock of life is wound but once, and no man has the power to tell just when the hands will stop, at late or early hour. Now is the only time you own, Live, love, toil with a will. Place no faith in time–for the clock may soon be still.”
GnRSM : Your username doesn’t convince me that you are looking for love, sounds more like you are “generous”.
It’s like some guys looking for sex and their username is LOVEandAFFECTION….
GnRSM – lovely piece of poetry and so true!
I read a profile a few day’s ago of a young guy – less than half my age – he wrote about “respecting others and being inclusive regardless of color, religion”, and so forth. He stated that, we are all lovely beings who’s “dignity should be respected by others”… I sent him a brief message telling him “great profile, I share your sentiment and that it had touched my heart, giving me hope”, etc… He blocked me. lmfao
Thank you for the kind word to Janus2005
I apologize to ‘Blog’ for the name I used did not convey what I had written.
To Utfool123Tim
“Respecting others and being inclusive regardless of color, religion, we are all lovely beings who’s dignity should be respected by others”
What great thought of being and of hope.
If it were only true in the community
I’m new to the scene. I look for Clean masculine men who are interested in teaching a guy how to make love to a man…its not easy finding that right person…. you have to be willing to go the distance and not leave him hard and wet….you have to be willing to hug and kiss him for experience he gives….there is no shame liking or making love to another man….
I put exactly what I want in my profile so there is no confusion. When I guy asks me what I’m into, he obviously didn’t read my profile. I literally cat and paste it in my response.
I agree with others that the search feature doesn’t work that well. Too many times it says “no profiles found”, but if I go city area by city area, I find people who’s profiles fit that what I’m looking for…..& that’s INCLUDING when I put THE ENTIRE CITY in my search engine.
SouthernboiSB : it works perfect on my side. Contact [email protected] if you have any problems.
Mentioning A4A search feature, is there a settings feature on here to NOT show you profiles that you’ve selected to omit – no matter if you’re looking for new profiles, on-line profiles, people near me profiles, etc.?
I’m fairly recent to this site and created a profile listing as best I could what I am looking for and my accurate stats, pics and description of myself. Realizing that there are all types of guys and circumstances that post here I am curious if anyone in a partnership or marriage has posted an add and at some point ended up chatting with their significant other without realizing it? Or maybe you end up chatting with a great guy that comes to your home to meet u and you find out its not his first visit because your partner ended up hooking up with him first? These may sound like strange questions but I’m asking because my partner and I (we recently legally married last year after 16 years together) posted an add looking for a 3rd and at the time the rules we set for our relationship were that we only play together. Prior to that he had been playing without my knowledge and it got me to thinking that at some point depending how long we looked for a 3rd, the chances of someone he had previously had an encounter with was bound or at least could send us a message. We do not share our face pics anymore as we had a troubling experience years prior so we give as much info as we safely can and pics that we feel at least protect our privacy. Still I can’t help but think that it could happen. We haven’t had a 3 way in forever but it’d something we look for every now and then once every couple of years. Anyway has anything like this ever happened to anyone and if so how did you handle it?