Gay Stuff : Lovers and Roommates
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How many times have you experienced difficulties with lovers who eventually became roommates OR roommates who became lovers?
Many A4A members have experienced issues with lovers and roommates that required finding solutions. Older guys who have made “wrong turns” on roommate road are usually more familiar with related problems than younger guys who have just begun traveling down the road.
When two guys enjoy each other’s company and their physical relationship is torrid, moving in together often enters the picture! This may happen without one party having to change his lifestyle or address, but will require his lover to make changes—sometimes substantial. Because of changes involved, a roommate rental agreement should be considered to clarify 1) what is about to happen; 2) what will be the result; and 3) what if the pair decides later to separate. (Just because you are not getting married does not remove the need for documentation.)
Housing costs have increased significantly during the recent past and continues today! A higher proportion of disposable income is now required to sustain housing and utility costs. This leads many young adults to seek compatible roommates to share those costs and offers a higher quality lifestyle through having a roommate or roommates. Therefore, if you are considering a joint rental/lease of a housing unit (apartment, condo, or house) you are advised to prepare a “roommate agreement” that will cover the specifics of sharing the housing unit. There are templates on the internet that can be downloaded for your use.
A4A members, what are your experiences with roommates/lovers who cohabitate with you?
DAVID M in Texas
First one, not so good. Left holding the bag for full rent/utilities when I booted him out for going to bath houses 3-4 times a week. I was in a financial mess.
2nd one, we ended up making no distinction between my money and his. We made no distinction between his stuff and my stuff. Everything was our stuff.
Bought several homes together. Everything belonged to both of us…and we stated that in our wills.
I’d advise not doing that until you’ve been together at least 5 years…and the relationship is on solid ground. Until then, don’t commit financially to something you can’t handle on your own.
I don’t have a roommate story but I did have a friend I knew since 4th grade and during our ninth grade year he was openly gay and we were experimenting. we fooled around for many years but just fwb relationship and have for may years up to this year and now he decided he is a Christian and its a sin to be friends with me because he cant resist being around me to fool around and im just me. the fwb friendship made us closer but also made us argue and bicker like a old married couple
I recently met a 19 year old guy and he immediately moved I in with me two days later. We share everything from the bed to my car, clothes ECT. This guy isn’t gay but we are very much in love with one another. We made no agreements as to who would pay what. So far we haven’t had many problems with each other and like I said we share everything. Me being 22 years older than him feel more like good dad than friend or lover. We have takes about if something happens to me that what I have will go to him.. Car house and all.. Good luck to all of you that have any experiments like this..