Gay Stuff : How To Be a Better Bottom
First of all if you guys want to have the “how to be a better TOP” version, one of you should submit the blog post to me, because I am 100% bottom. I could suggest “how to please your bottom” though….
Prepare that ass!
So first of all bottoms, it is important to be prepared. What I mean is that you need to douche and shower before getting the cock inside your hole! Now I won’t be discussing this here, because it is kinda gross, I don’t wanna talk about how to evacuate the meat pie and Strawberry shortcake you ate last night. If you don’t know how, simply google “anal douche” and it will show you how to do it. Then click here to get all the tools you need to do it in our store!
Communicate your likes and dislikes
By letting know your partner what you like and what you want, you’re not taking away from his experience, you’re simply enhancing it. I’m not a top but I know that tops like to please their partners too! I know there’s a psychologic game of “I’m the bottom and want to please my top” but the top won’t get full satisfaction if he fucks you and you get no satisfaction. By communicating what you don’t like, you will also make sure he doesn’t say these fake “fuck yeahs” or “take it boy” that they learned by watching too much porn. Let him know that you like real groans, expressions, moans and bites and you will return the favour if he does his job properly.
Grooming
Grooming is important to discuss with your partner too. If you are single and meet guys regularly, simply groom your pubes the way you personally like it, emulate the crotch of your own fantasies. If you have a regular fuckbuddy or a boyfriend, discuss it with him. How does he likes it? Does he like trimmed crutch, shaved ass? Full bush front and back? Peach smooth hole and elephant trunk?
Positions
You like it doggy style? You wanna sit on it? He likes to take control? You like to submit or also want to take control? Those are all things that you can discuss with your partner. If his dick is curved, some position might hurt your hole some other positions might just hit the spot and bring you to 7th heaven. Obviously, there are countless of positions you can try, but rather than thinking about how it physically makes you feel, think about how it makes you and him feel. Whoever has the control is probably going to be a bit more comfortable at any given moment, twist and change the positions along the way!
Learn how to chase the pain away!
Yes some big cocks hurt! A bit of pain is good though, don’t get me wrong! But you need to learn how to chase the pain away. Relaxe your ass. Breathe heavily. If you want to be a better bottom, you must shift your focus on the body. Open up! We are all different inside, so I cannot give you specific tips but instead of getting fucked by a cock, think about coating or “swallowing” the cock with your hole. When he is in and it is more comfortable, you can also squeeze your hole tight, then relax into it, allowing yourself to sink deeper onto it rather than letting him break into you.
You’re the boss!
You are the master of the game! If you don’t feel clean inside, you didn’t have time to douche properly and don’t feel good about it, it is your ass, you will bottom only when YOU want to! If you are not ready, tell him to wait 10 minutes to clean up or to make sure you are confident and ready to play! He will wait for you!
Alright guys? I hope these little tips helped you, if you have questions for me, let me know below!
Dave
The picture of that hot bottom was the hottest thing about this blog!
Dillion : It’s ok, it’s an informative blog post.
I wonder if there are people out there who like kissing, nipple play, caressing, oral, ball play and anal touching and rimming without actually having a penis inside them or putting their penis inside another? I must be strange, I don’t actually care for being topped or topping someone else. But I do like everything else!
Dave – think that’s strange?
janus2005: not at all!
I rarely have anal sex myself too.
Totally normal. Anyways, what is normal? There’s no normal.
@Janus2005 – That seems to be such a rarity on here. That’s all I’m interested in doing but it doesn’t matter how you put it in your profile or explained you’re almost always declined. I’m not sure why, keeping it light is the safest and can be the most intense. What do I know though, I’m just a guy who is curious and inexperienced
or it’s explained**
I’m not into topping or bottoming… I’ve tried but it was not for me… I like the other stuff though… Love my men
Bless all those bottoms out there. I salute you, and think all of you should get medals. Way to go, Bottom Guys!
Are you kidding me. I’ve gotta be the best bottom ever in the history of bottoms. Your post seems to be writen from a school girl perspective, perhaps. Not knocking it, well maybe I am, Dave. 95% of guys I’m with could care less if I’m groomed. Which is a shame, cause I always gonna groom. I agree, most don’t want poop on their pee pee or in their lap. But as they say, shit happens.
Portcitybi: yeah all the bottoms think like this, until you ask to the tops who fuck them. As for the “school girl” comment, feel free to leave ur ass full of shit if u want, but I find it gross, I’m a clean boy and the kind of tops that fucks me too. Not into raunchy or “kinky” stuff here. Sorry
Thanks…I kind of feel that the information passed on in the blog although useful is really common sense, and most caring men would consider all this without advice. As far as “Googling” ways to clean out and up, there tend to be so many different opinions written in sterile form. It would be nice to know what other members do to prepare for anal sex, what works for individual members and so forth. Like how do porn stars get so super clean? I think it would be bennifical to know what other ordinary guys do to prepare?
Thanks for the informative blogs!!!!
Oh, I just love it when a man/boy moderates me, I truly do, boys.
Didn’t read the boiler plate can I post a number? Powers that be please give me an answer?
I am a versatile male. I love to bottom as well I love to top. I have become a better lover because of this. My body is a weapon, and yes I use it well.
First of all 😉 the topic of this post is how to be a better bottom, not do you like to bottom.
Second of all, I’ve seen profiles by tops who have actually had to specify “no sewer bottoms” so you’d think bottoms who believe hygiene is not important would get the hint.
So, yes — informative post, straight to the point, gotta love it! Thanks, Dave!
Thanks Tony!
Now recently thus has occurred to me….i was getting fuckd face down ass up….i rrlaxed and reached back and spread my ass to th point he and I felt him breaking deeper into my hole which turned both of us on tremendously….and i started cumming from th back ao he knew it was all his then
Tip for bottoms: If you know that you can no longer “take it” after busting your nut, then stop jacking off when a top is fucking you. I always laugh when a guy (bottom) says, “you’re gonna make me cum” when he’s busy jerking his cock while being topped…and then asks you to pull after he cums. Major pet peeve, and one of the few times when I’ll tell a guy that I’m not interested in a 2nd session – regardless of how hot he might be.
Great blog, but I think including your prepping tips would have made it better. As Collin said, it would’ve been good to read how you take care of that part, even though you find it gross.
I personally prefer my bottom Boy’s clean, sexy,and freaky as fuck. No foul smells of any kind. That’s what keeps my cock pleased.
No, shit does not just happen. That’s an irresponsible bottom right there. If I’m fucking you and it gets messy I’m going home no questions asked. It takes 10 minutes to clean up so that we can have fun fucking your holes. There’s no excuse for being dirty.
I am a top. I can say I completely agree with Dave. I truly appreciate when a bottom takes the time to be clean and I let them know that. Also, nothing is a bigger turn on to me then knowing I am pleasing my partner.
Anal douching is good, but there are also dangers with it. Yeast infections
Is there a thing called a pussy spot?
hi….i met a guy with a really thick cock…long also…that not a prob but the thickness is. i get him in me but my ass wants to contract before i want it to! i really want to please him so to keep him wanting me. any thing out there to help my ass to stay relaxed? like lubes and such.
Yeah getting clean for your partner is a big deal. If you are vers and into flip fucking and sucking it sure makes it more pleasant,lol. If you don’t feel any bowel pressure and you already had a bm hours earlier all you likely need is a rinse with a small amount of soapy water squeezed in with an ear syringe,about 4oz in the lower anus will be find as long as you aren’t doing farm animals. If you are with a 5 star stud for hours on end then a high colonic enema may be the thing for you. I like a nice warm soapy and after a few times you will know when you are empty totally of the water you infuse if you will with an enema bag. Don’t take more water inside than you can with comfort until you know how your body reacts. You need to be patient also as often the water and soap mix will take a good deal longer to exit completely than it did to insert and sometimes water in the upper colon can just sort of hang around for a while so relax, grab a book,lol! Once I feel “empty” I rinse with clear water to dampen the laxative effect of the soap. It’s nice to know that I’m not making a mess of my partner, or my sheets, lol! On to actual fucking……. If your top isn’t a sub/dom control freak find out what makes him cum. Does he like you to ride him and squeeze him as you slam up and down on his cock? Does he want you to relax as he takes you on your knees from behind? If he likes you on your back wrap your legs around his waist and ride him from underneath with your ankles locked. If you both match your timing it’s major hot and hits the prostate perfectly. Does he want you to cum while you fucks you? That’s a major compliment for a top. ( Especially if you make it look out of control ) A lot of tops like to feed their load to you after a nice fuck session. It’s handy to have a container of WetOnes on the bed stand, especially if your top uses extending condoms with mild desensitizers. While the cock might be clean that stuff will numb your lips and tongue and tastes terrible….. What makes him cum? replay your firt time together and try to remember what he was doing to you, adn you to him when his loaded came shooting out. Finally, talk a little and find out if he had fun besides just shooting a load. HAVE FUN!!!!
dave .. i was once a total top until i got flipped..i use my experience of being a top on how to always improve my abilities of being the perfect btm..i agree with everything u say about being clean and groomed..its very important..no top likes a unclean btm..knowing what a top will do allows me to position myself for maximum pleasure for both of us..as for you dave..ill top you anytime lol
Don’t see too many little schoolgirls giving tips on taking it in the ass. Of course someone thinks they’re the best bottom in the world. I think preparation and communication are very important. But if you’re in the business of just taking any random cock, then maybe it’s not. But as they say “No matter how good you are, there’s always someone better”
Oh hell yes I like my holes cleaned out and ready to play, and when I do find a guy to fuck me, I am always cleaned out and ready to go. but lately I’ve been doing all the topping, and I understand if you get to a extended session of power fucking you might get a little bit of a mess, but it you it stick it in a little bit and it comes out covered in shit I’M DONE RIGHT NOW
There is no way you can please everyone… Guys just analyze the topic and give your opinion… Dont complain for this or should someone should say that… Geez!
As for the topic: yes I want my bottoms on natural/untouched fur but freshly clean.
Men don’t douche. Women with vaginas douche.I really wish you would refer to it as an enema, which is what it actually is.
i do not bottom or top i do like what JANUS2005 said ,never enjoyed being penetrated and i do not top by i love my man!
Great information for anyone who wants to be a better Bottom. It’s only with experience, and someone to help you learn, then you’re on your way to becoming a well sought after Bottom.
I can “get off” perfectly fine without being penetrated or penetrating someone else or without oral sex. Through rubbing, naked grinding, deep kisses and nipple sucking is all I need. And it’s hard to find a man who is exactly like that.
I’m versatile, but do prefer to be bottom. I try to keep myself clean, and will go with what my top guys like. One thing I have found out is that if I take some ibuprofen about 1/2 hour before I get fucked, I can take it easier. I like my guys bigger than average, so every little bit helps. A little pain is okay, but a lot of pain leads to a very short session where no one is satisfied.
I have a bulb type as well as bag enema…and if I’m going out to meet a regular fuck buddy, I will make sure my innards are cleaned.
I have bottomed since I was 16, I love to be fucked and fisted, cleaning out is very important, relaxing is the next most important part, guys who use crystal and tell you what a good bottom they are can’t usually get a finger in their ass, but they think they are a good bottom while they are all tensed up, I can take a pounding from a fat 12 or 13 inch cock no problem, I like to mix a five or six drops of clove oil into my lube, it helps my hole warm up and relax, when the guy is over 9 inches a little poppers can help… avoid too many stimulants but muscle relaxers can help:~]
I also use one table spoon of baking soda per gallon of warm water in my 2 gallon enema bag, I like to take a warm bath when giving myself an enema and laying in my left side I can get a 20 inch long red rubber enema tube into my colon and use about 1/3 the bag and then stop the flow and wait about 3minutes and then release into the toilet, I leave the seat up and just give the rim a good clean before using because squatting down that extra couple inches helps me to expel more, generally I do this three times and come completely clean, in case I am not I refill the enema bag and do it again till water comes out clean … Poppers can help beginners in the clean out too…
There are also guys from other counties that have a different sense of this and other thing (I know you’re Canadian). I have a thing for Australian guys, and they are so much more casual about sex, clearing out, knowing what they want, and what matters, and what doesn’t. I wiponder if anyone else has noticed things along those same lines.
I so love being fucked and I am super clean as I love being rimmed.
I think the most important part was forgotten:
‘Submit you ass to the top, push your hole at his cock, stick your ass up, not arched under like a cat in fear and your body tensed up.
I’ve had to train many!
LOL
This will also get you ‘on the way’ to experiencing anal orgasm.
AND as far as being super clean like a porn star goes…
If you are on a poor / fast food diet, douching will be challenge.
A proper ‘constant stream of water’ type douche works better than those arduous squeeze bulbs.
If you can wait, fuck first, eat food later.
There is also a specific epsom salts routine, but you must start well in advance.
You should consult medical info before doing it.
Accidental shit-fucking might sound kinda dirty and hot, but the friction and the smell puts me off.
🙂
i can’t believe how insecure people are of their naturally bodily habits. Here’s a few tips on how to be a better bottom:
1. EAT HEALTHY
Eating healthy is important for so many common sense reasons, it provides us nutrients! The same people who are scared of a little dookie when they stick their cocks in assholes, are also probably very attentive to their appearance/body image. Hey guess what, eating plenty good foods will make a difference. FIBER BOYS NOT MCDONALDS
2. POOP THE RIGHT WAY
Our bodies were designed to be in a squatting position. Grab a small stepstool, the tub or bathroom waste basket and put your feet on it that way your body is in squatting position while you’re still sitting down on the toilet (though actually knowing how to do squats is one of the best workouts for your body and gives you that nice ass you want! HEY This common sense thing is startin to make sense huh?). By squatting you more freely evacuate the bowels due to the alignment of the colon…meaning…no turds left behind and that’s what makes messes happen sometimes! Something left behind!
3. PROBIOTICS
Yogurt, Apple Cider Vinegar, Kombucha, and many other fermented and accessible foods provide healthy gut bacteria. It’s all around good for you to have those things in your gut for proper digestion. Excessive use of Enemas can flush that out!
AND THEN FINALLY, if you feel the need to douche after implementing these things into your daily habits…
Douching is like liposuction, it’s a quick minor fix but nothing that is set to better the long term. I do not understand why any of the things I mentioned above are never mentioned in these ridiculous articles written by whoverthefuckthinkshe’sanexpert? I mean, you have an article about being a bottom and can’t even muster up the balls to talk about the reality of the matter that you are fucking an asshole and not a pussy. But I think you’d be surprised that less men care than you may think.
Here is the way I clean out as a bottom who likes and persues big and long thick dicks. after using my shower-douche attachment thoroughly, I use a dildoe specifically for continuing the thorough clean for those like me who prefer long dicks, which of course go further up into your anus. i take my dildoe which is about 9 inches and push up inside deep to unclog what i call ;’water-caves’ that usually occur with shower-attachment cleaning devices like mine which btw, is made by COLT. I then push it up w/dildoe pointing to the front of my body several times at least 30 times. then i take it out and insert it towards the back of my body,pointing towards the rear, pull in and out at least 30 times ,then insert cleaning device shower-head attachment and squirt water in my ass about 30 squirts, then clean this way, alternating betwen the dildoe cleaning method then switching to the shower-attachment method until when u insert the dil-doe and nothin at all comes out, u are clean enuff to take at least 12 or 13 inches. then last butt not least i put lube in my ass hole as it may be a little dry from the extensive cleaning proccess. the end . hope this helps those who know they need to be extra clean to take the big long ones! btw, i am not a doctor, just another gay man. do so at your own free will.
It seems to me the theme if this blog is communications. Good advice for all bottoms AND tops.
Sex Isn’t Sex Without A Dick Drilling A Nice Ass And Leaving That Hole Dripping Wet With Cum, Everything Else Is Just Cookies Without Milk. But As You Said, “Prepare That Ass” And I Agree With You 1000%. Who Wants There Thing To Look Like “The Thing’s Dick”(Fantastic 4 Joke). As For Me A Top Has To Leave My Hole “Dickisfied” If He Wants Me To Come Back For More, If There Were Only Decent In My Neck Of The Woods. Dave, Please Send Some Tops My Way Via FedEx, UPS, DHL, I’ll Pay The S&H Charge (LOL)
How to be a better bottom? PRACTICE.
Don’t let anyone pressure you to do anything you don’t wanna do.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to have your hole worshipped but not penetrated.
A bottom is what you say it is.
I’m not a compensated endorser, but my Streemaster mini does the job in less than 10 minutes. Perfect for traveling, too.
If you don’t want to know how to clean out your hole, just look for guy’s with brown bandannas. But that’s another blogpost entirely.
I like to think of myself as a Considerate Top. I feed off my bottom’s pleasure and like to think of them as the Boss. Although I have favorite positions and activities, I let them set what they’d like to do and instinctively give them what I feel they need based upon their body language. When I get the ‘noise’ out of them that tells me I can go all the way to my climax (safely, of course). Grooming/hygiene is important from both sides. If a guy doesn’t like my fully hairy body, pubes etc – well, I can’t fix that, but the inside stuff is a health issue for all of us. If a bottom tells me he was unable to clean out satisfactorily I know he won’t be comfortable during the act and we only do what’s comfortable to him. If it’s someone I care about (I have Buddies) I want to be invited back. Yes, the above blog was a lot of common sense but what I hear from bottoms is that not everyone knows how to use their equipment and even bottoms who like to be dominated want to feel like the top cared enough to please them too…
janus2005, I am just like you. I love everything you stated and have a great time without anyone being penetrated. Sad that most people seem to think if you like assplay, you automatically are a bottom. So wrong! Guys open your minds up and stop putting people in such strict roles.
Thanks Dave for this blog…can’t understand why so many gays have to leave such nasty comments aimed at you or this blog on this or many other subjects…jealousy I guess. Like they say…” If u can’t do it…you become a coach!” Always interesting reading on here. Everyone has to remember…not everyone who reads this blog are “experts” in male to male relationship issues. As far as googling anal cleaning…like collin said…to many opinions and suggestions. It would be helpful if the guys on here would share their techniques for cleaning up your love hole.
Pageboy50: I’ll write a post about it then:)
We need a blog on how to be and how to find a top. There’s way too many bottoms these days.
Rich : I agree, Montreal is 90% bottom
yeah, douching is not good for your colon.
eat lots of fiber and shit 4-6 hours before your session and don’t eat after that.
health inspector : a haha oh and u think getting stuffed by cock is “good for your colon” ?
I suggest to use water enema, not chemical stuff that they sell at pharmacy
I would like to say, as a Professor of Geophysics, if you’re a bottom you own it. Douching, grooming, and flavoring the hole with vanilla extract and splenda makes a damn good time. Please him to make him rim.
When he penetrates, he needs to hit your prostate. It’s all about being cleaned out, getting a good rim, amazing lube and hitting my prostate in any position.
That said, tops need to know what they are doing.
I’m just saying.
I am a bottom and don’t like to top it took me several years to learn how to enjoy it though. But now I really enjoy having a big dick inside like Dave said it really puts me in 7tn heaven its something only you can get from a man LOVE ME SOME DICK
I think I’m a bottom guy, That’s the position I dream about when I’m watching porn. And must of the guys I’ve date have been tops. I like both but in my heart I like to bottom.But the whole bottom thing worries me. I find the blog great and I loved what this guy had to say. I know for me the grooming depends on the guy. So guys look hot not groomed and others look hot groomed. For me it’s more about the emotional connection and how I feel with my top guy. If I don’t have that I can’t bottom.
For those of you baffled about cleaning yourself out hygenically and thoroughly, it’s not rocket science. You can buy enemas at any pharmacy. You empty your bowels first. Then you give yourself an enema until the discharge is clean. (I re-use the bottles but you can use fresh ones every time as they are cheap…less than $5 for a two pak) Also, if you’re having a prolonged session, you should take a break every now and then to clean your self up. Always shower thoroughly afterwards. My BF likes his bottoms to be completely smooth, show emotion and be slightly verbal. Different strokes for different folks. All I know is he rocks my world every time when I put forth the effort to give him what he likes.
Thanks for this post! Now, I know I am actually bottoming right! I did a great deal of reading and just figured it out.
Douching was a no-brainer for me. It only took a few times with a dildo to learn I don’t want that to happen with a Top.
Collin: I douche with an anal douche bulb. About three rinses and I’m ready to be fucked. I have used the Fleet enema too. It works good.
I love being completely smooth. I use Nair on my legs, arms and ass. I shave my pubes, pits and nipples everytime I shower. I don’t have much hair on my chest anyways.
I always shower and douche before hooking up with a guy. So, no hygiene problems here.
I have been fucked by cocks of all sizes. I still have a bit of pain when the cocks are around eight inches and larger with my feet up around my head. Basically, folded in in half with my ass up in the air. I simple tell the Top and we change positions.
One last thing, I’m a very loud Bottom, especially when the Top is hitting “The Spot” making it feel OH SO GOOOD!. So, he is getting plenty of verbal feedback from me.
sick of folks trying to tell others how to be a better bottom. hell a lot of so called tops need lessons on how to be a better top
freakzoid : why did you read the post then?
Dave – Thanks for the reply!
@CuriousATtimes – Thanks for you reply. Sexuality is such an interesting, fluid thing.
Experience will come. It always does. For you I hope all of your experiences go well! Play safe!
@janus2005…I think all of those are just perfect. Like others have said, putting that into a profile doesn’t seem to help…nothing seems to help, but that’s another story. Kissing, touching, intimacy, oral, j/o, sexy clothes, all add to the experience and fun…at least to me.
@Foreplayer, – Totally agree about being placed in strict roles and boxed in especially without being asked. Thanks for that!
@JET314 – You know, I just started doing a self taught course on basic massage (bought a “how to” book and began practicing) and I have to say, it has bought a whole new dimension into intimacy and lovemaking! Try it if you would like to. Very interesting and eye opening how it affects your partner and relaxes and connects him to you intimately!
It goes back to that awesome email/blog that a real life A4A member sent you a few months back that generated over 100 comments…. http://blog.adam4adam.com/2015/05/speak-out-to-douche-or-not/
And he is right… Always Douche If You Are Going To Bottom!!
And the model in the shower enema picture is pornstar Tyler Morgan if I am not mistaken.
@Janus2005 – Thanks!
Can anyone please share as to what precautions can be taken to remove foul smell from ones mouth/bad breathing. Also how one can tackle ‘warts’
The information shared in this blog was quite informative but I have question as to when too much presssure comes while taking a cock sometimes there are chances of one tends to fart. How can such an uncomfortable situation be controlled. What is the remedy to that?
This is for a comment by Collin. I normally do not bottom if I haven’t cleaned out first but sometimes it happens in the heat of the moment. If I am planning on bottoming I make sure I don’t eat anything for a few hours before and I will shower and make sure I am flushed out and I have a small dildo that I will stick on the wall and ride it for about 5 minutes then flush out at least once more.
Seems I have found that by doing this I am slightly open and there is a little clear fluid still in me that has made it easier for an above average thick cock to enter me with little or no lube and when he’s done fucking me he is clean when he pulls out.