Gay Stuff : Age Is But a Number
Age is but a number….OR IS IT? When an older subscriber is surfing for a playmate, he may encounter comments that seem rude or condescending, but sometimes can present a surprise, “age is but a number!” This suggests various responses that range from “interested” to “not interested.”
If you are an older male seeking playmates many years younger, your success rate will never be as high as when you are near their age. Some subscribers desire playmates much older/younger than themselves, but the head count is not very high in proportion to the number of surfers. Sugar Baby/Sugar Daddy arrangements are also happening, but do not dominate the market.
If the chemistry is right between two guys, a wide variety of potential playmates, lovers, and long-term relationships can flourish. If realistic about your expectations, you will discover younger guys are primarily divided into two groups: 1) Younger males desiring playmates within ten years of their age; 2) Younger males looking for Sugar Daddies, Uncles, and others for relationships whose ages are many years apart from younger playmates. The latter group may include financial support, lodging and a committed relationship of some type.
There are many examples of young guys with older men whose relationships have grown into full-blown commitments! Example: A 20-year-old male living with an older male age 65 for several years and still have strong affection for one another. Example: A 24- year- old that has lived for several years with two older men who are brothers. The fact that these relationships exist at all suggests there will always be HOPE for older males in search of much younger men!
Have you experienced the results of reaching out to younger guys?
DAVID M in Texas
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I’m 30 years old i had my first encounter with an older man when i was 19, he was 57 at the time he’s now 68 and we still do things together (non sexual now his call) and i still enjoy meeting men who are 20+ years my senior because i enjoy the comfort and passion older men give,there is no arrangement i work full time support myself and have my own car and home I just really enjoy being with an man that’s much older than me
One young man took me for $300 before I caught on. Really had warm feelings for each other, or so I thought. Oh well, live and learn. Young slim guys send me in orbit but its like they say, I already have a dad.
I do like to think that “age is just a number”. As a 23-year-old, all my serious relationships have been with men significantly older than me, I am just not attracted to guys my age. My current bf is 48 and for the last year and a half, things have been going smoothly. You’re only as old as you feel.
I am 42 and have noticed that that being older also has alot to do with what kinda shape your in and looks. I have had much younger hit me up but profile says no older guys or no one over 30
That’s funny, I’m having the exact opposite problem. Because of my age (23) I’m normally categorized into the “kids/party boys” type, so no one older than ~4 years than me seems interested to even chat, which is annoying to me because I don’t feel attracted to the stereotypical college twink/hunk but to older men, preferably bears around their early 30’s to late 40’s…guess I’ll just have to wait till I start my 30’s to look for a serious relationship.
Well I like younger, but find older guys seem to like to take care of someone younger more sexual then the younger guys. I have had some younger guys that would meet up but want payment in return, they call it ” helping out” but I dont pay for sex, it bhai would be no different than prostatution . And the younger seem to like teasing guys more then older. Lot of talk online an end up not meeting anyone.so I seem to do better staying around my own age (41) or with older guys.
I have no problem with younger guys (I am 59), but younger guys have a problem with me. Sometimes they think that I am desperate enough that I’ll pay for their companionship. In most cases, I’m appreciated more so out of the state that I live in (Arkansas) when I travel to other states.
With the world focusing on youth more and more it saddens me to read that for us older guys there might be” hope”! All though I’m sure that this was either meant to makes us old guys feel better,or to lay out a plan to hook a young dude! This guy can assure you neither is needed or appreciated firstly there are a ton of older guys who are in way better shape than there younger counter parts. When it comes to finding some one for fun it is what it is if a hot guy( wether young or not) and they want to play great! If not,shit happens,if I’m treated rudely by a kid, I consider the source,they just want something fast,they can’t think past themselves,and they all will get older( if there lucky) but I’m not going to cry in my cereal that some young pup didn’t want,or like me,there’s so much life experiences that have made me who I am,my days will not revolve around getting laid by someone younger..”hope” they understand! Lol
Who is the beautiful man whose picture you have at the top of your blog?
I get with older guys semi frequently, but I’ll digress, I prefer them to pay. I don’t do it because I’m into prostitution, but at the same time why shouldn’t I? They have one of the highest amounts of spending money in the world and I’m 21 making squat after my bills! I’ll definitely contribute to the same when I get older.
Some guys get offended about this, but I prefer to do this because knowing my performance counts makes me let my boundaries down and forces me to try something new
I have had fuck buddy type thing with guys 10-15 years younger then me. Some with guys that I made show me their I.D. before driving away. I would like to have a twink in a LTR but not sure I could see him as an equal partner for from the get go could move there as he matured. I’m not against older men either I have been with guys 15 years older. It has to do with who there are and if they age well. Let face it we all start with physical. Some may like the gray hair and chicken neck. I just don’t. I know I will some day be there in age and thank God there are guys that like daddies. I think it is just what you prefer I guess age is a number but in know what I like so I usually ask for a pic. When they say they are discrete and won’t send pic I asked for stats including age by asking age I can gage my odds of being attracted. Also can they perform. I was with a guy 53 decent enough but he was going to top so I did really need to get hard well I got there and about time to get fucked and he can’t get it up. I hope that doesn’t happen to me until my libido goes but who knows. So age is just a number but is also a gage for a number of things.
I don’t know why a4a bothers to put “Age” as a profile element; NOBODY tells the truth. But I figured out how to tell someone’s TRUE age:
Take the age it says on the person’s profile, then:
1. Multiply that by 1.15
2. Add Pi (3.1415)
3. Add the total number of email EXCHANGES (back + forth) before you see the person’s facepic. If their facepic is public, then add “0.” If they unlock immediately, then add “1.”
It’s kinda scary how close this formula works as often as it does!
I have to say it TOTALLY agree with this one
That is as long as they over the legal age and for me that’s 20
I love to get hit on by younger guys, but am totally not interested in having sex with them. I prefer guys my own age simply because for me, being able to relate is more important than being able to just get off. Don’t get me wrong – I wish I was still twenty-something, but since I’m not I’ll grow old with dignity and self-respect. I’ll have friends of all ages, but I don’t want to look at the guy in the mirror and think, “He’s desperate!”
I have had a fwb type of guy for over 10 years, it has worked out well for the both of us, he is bi and in the closet, of course.He is in his early 30’s now, I am pushin 60. Not bad, ha guys? Lol He has had few experience with other men, and the ones he has had an experience or 2 with wasn’t all that good for him. I don’t make any demands on the guy, and I believe that is what has kept our friendship going all these years. But relationships like his are few and far between, after all, men are men (dogs by nature).
As a 65 year old, fit and endowed gay male, I have generally found that the younger guys want something in exchange for the sex. Gas money, out right payment, some form of compensation.
Ummm I feel older guys are creepy lol but that’s just me I know a few friends that love older guys but personally I think people should date within ten years of their age it’s like why do you want to fuck a guy who could be your son or grandson something very disturbing about that
I’m 30. Which I’m quickly finding is gay-middle-age, apparently. Sometimes I want a younger guy, but I mostly like the guys in their late 40s or early 50s.
Trust me, age is not just a number. It is physical change, experience, loss, acceptance, a different outlook, planning, maintenance, and a glimpse of mortality.
Lucky for me, Im not interested in young guys. They creep me out and remind me of my kid friends. I’m 42 and only like guys age 35 – 55 in decent shape. I get attacked at times for not playing with young guys. I’m so happy that I don’t have to deal with playing those games…
@Greg – well said. +1
I am 45yo and loving it, I dont want men 30 down.I love men around my age specially bi men.y r some many young guys bottoms roday, I get hit up all the time by them.
I think it is weird how people have all the requirements in their profile. Age can be just a number if its ten years one way or the other. Obviously if its 20+ years you aren’t looking for another father or grandfather. That may be too old depends on the person I guess and what you find attractive. What gets me is it sounds like people are ordering a pizza not a man. Must be this age , height, weight, race…whatever. If you are looking for a ltr people change age etc. Its crazy. Even some people think someone older should pay. Stupid really and arrogant.
Fit is fit, and a fit bottom boy hungry to be bred and ready to submit to how I want breed is always hot. I’ve bred 18y.o. twinks and mature 60y.o. men who can take the best brutal pounding I can dish out. At 42, the college boys might view me as a “daddy” or big bro… and I enjoy dominating guys my age or older.
Now for relating with guys beyond mere sex, I’d be generally more comfortable with a guy within about 10-12 years of me, though with a skew to him being a few years younger.
I was blown away when I first came onto this site at age 60 and got so much attention from 20 and 30 somethings. I thought they were looking for gain but all they really wanted was “daddy play.” I’m athletic and in much better shape than most in my age group but it was still something new to me. Who knew this was going on?
I’m in my early 20’s, and I absolutely love getting plowed by older men. They are so fucking hot. Salt and pepper, a nice semi-hairy bod, aged muscle, a big fat cock.
Too delicious. I’d let them fuck me 24/7 if I could.
Bobby L You are making assumptions about truth telling. I am 50 and my profile says 50. Even though I do not look my age I always tell the truth. You may lie to others but, not, as you say, everybody lies.
When I was younger I was into older men. Now that I am older I am into younger men. Its not a deal breaker if I find a man older and attractive. I have had better luck with the younger men on A4A that the older ones. The older ones around my area are stuck on themselves and are ONLY looking for younger. So I don’t bother with them. The funny thing is, is I have a nicer body then them. Over the past year and a half I have been meeting a thin 24 year old Latino man. No games or b.s. with him. He knows what he wants and I know how to take care of him. A few times a week when he wants and we enjoy our time together.
Many older guys around my area think that cause they are hung all the young guys will jump on it. LOL If your not fit most young guys don’t want to hook up. I am 50 130 5’9″ with a trim athletic body. Get a lot of young men wanting to hook up but I ain’t no damn taxi or a bank. I have been with more younger men under 30 than guys over 30. But then it is a college town.
I believe age is not an issue to a large extent, but agree that it is in some ways. When I was younger, I was not interested in anyone my age, but I liked the older guys – but now I realize that it wasn’t the age that attracted me, it was the look – a more polished, confident, mature look and behavior. I have seen younger men that I find very sexy, and old guys, too. But likewise, have found young guys and older guys that I am not attracted to. I am attracted to the whole picture. I have younger men hit me to be their daddy – I am not a daddy – and others that hit me up with “generous?” – I tell them “Yes, with family and friends, but I don’t know you, so, no.” I understand a factor that you are attracted to, but do not get not allowing anyone outside of that. I was a twink and looked like one until I was in my mid 30s, but do not find that look sexy – opposites attract??. But I would never rule out someone for being one – it is the bigger picture, but I am not into a quick hit and run. I will compliment someone of any age and say thank you when I get complimented (not often), but just today, I was blocked by a A4A member when I said he was attractive and good luck in your search. His loss, lol.
I do prefer older men, but in all reality the age gap does matter. At the end of the day the larger the gap in age difference the more issues tend to arrive (i.e retirement). No matter if both are financially stable and self sufficient they will always be in 2 different areas of life. Trying to incorporate all aspects of like from social circles, family, retirement, and total life experiences. Those ugly words ” WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE” gets spoken, totally grinds my gears. When it comes to a relationship, I want to grow old with my mate not have them there 20 years before hand.
I entered the marketplace late in life. Live in a 1,000,000 southwestern urban community. Hell, if I didn’t have sex with 20-somethings, i fear i would rarely have sex at all. and no, i don’t get asked for money. late fifties here, but lift 5-6 times per week and take care of myself. would be glad to meet up with guys my age, but seems the good ones are already taken. Rest of the fifty-somethings have let themselves go. forty-somethings seem scared to death of aging so want nothing to do with older. 30-somethings all dying to get married and have a family. 20-somethings? Just wanna have fun. some have become my best friends. And I don’t contact them first online…..i’m one of those who waits. ha. anyway……to each their own.
I am a 46 year old white male. I have always been mature and responsible.Even when I was younger, in my early twenties, I was always attracted to older, wiser men. Now that I’m in my mid forties, I do notice that I am attracted to guys my age or younger because I tend to not take myself too seriously and live life one day at a time and without much stress.
I am older and have always stated my true age but because of my job and having to travel a lot I more then just a few time like a major amount of time I am not able to find play mate the to biggest excuse I get are either I am to old or not old enough lololo
So I just look and keep trying to take to the guys and either get ignored or blocked after 1 or 2 chats
Now that I’m over 50 and still in relatively good shape I am amused by the much younger guys that hit me up.
As a young man I preferred men older than me but never the age range that I get now.
It always hits me that a guy is in his 20’s, is young enough to be my kid (if I had one) and that is just a little too odd for me (though there are ALWAYS exceptions). It’s extremely flattering but I guess I prefer the men to the boys.
I’ve always liked older guys of every race
when I was younger I got a special feeling watching star trek NG looking at Patrick Stewart
I”m attracted to mature and sexual, maybe because my first time the guy kinda looked like him ; )
Even now I look more at older guys for relationship/fwb type situations but younger are cool for friends and maybe the rare hookup
I’m 56 and have never used age to discriminate. I will say that things have picked up dramatically in the last 10 years. The fact that quite a few guys have had no daddy in their lives may be the reason. Absentee dads are creating men needing male companionship and/or more intimate relations. Just saying its working for me. But I have never acted my age so I guess I can relate to them. And they get no different treatment financially than my natural nephews.
I’m 30, and have found that a wider range of people now message me wanting to hook up, including a lot more guys 18-22 than when I was 29. I don’t understand this, but I’ll take it. I thought ticking over to the dreaded ‘gay middle age’ would hurt me, but it opened up a bunch of floodgates instead.
Also, I have discovered that no one on A4A is actually 39… So when I turn 39, I’m just going to change it to 40 so I don’t look like all the liars. 🙂
AGE MATTERS !!!!
My 1st relationship of 5 yrs was with a 36 yr old man – I was 21 and the Top. I wanted to be with a Man not a boy.
I’ve had an active sex life – but 50 was the big change,
put that on your profile and you might as well eliminate
95 %
I thought that I would be fine because as I aged my interest was in Men in my age group. WRONG!!!!!!!!!!
The men my age are looking for boys – even though they are paying for them.
The gay community needs to add another color to the gay flag – GREY – for a community that claims diversity the
“mature ” gays are discriminated against Absolutely.
We all like to think she is just a number , sadly this is the real world and age does come into play !! A man of 50 is far different than one of 20 !
My self I tend to go for younger (45) , at least where I live , men at my age have gone fat , bald and nasty ,,, the ones that haven’t usually want a far younger play mate !! But be realistic , a guy in his 20s isn’t looking for love ,, they want to have fun just as we did at that age ,, I feel guys actually mature at 30 and know what and where there going to do… Lucky for me , I have 20 something boos that like to play on occasion & I date a cpl of guys my own age .. But sadly it appears at least I’m Hawaii guys under 40 are all bottoms …. I myself never liked a title and have always been “vers”,,, a rare breed this day an age !! I am also learning that 90% of guys under 30 do not practice safe sex or even ask if poz or neg ,, they just want dick in their ass and who cares , there’s a pill for it … Relationship wise id prefer my own age group but finding one who is in shape , healthy or not an addict has proven to be reaching for the moon again this is in Hawaii
I don’t know who you older guys are talking to, but I love older men. I’m 29 and I want 40+ for no other reason than to get pounded by a hot daddy cock. Twinks and in-shape college guys have never done it for me.
I like older guys there maturity and passion tend to be on a whole differant level there much more willing to look past the demands of physical perfection younger men look for and so on. Some dont but ur always going to have that crazy minority, On an intellectual and emotional level older men are probably the best. Physical depends on the man and his own abilities but again that effects all ages.
My one problem is SOCIAL. I am a gamer/cosplayer/animehead this is definitely a young mans thing I’m probably on the older side of things at 26 most people at comicons are younger guys at least the ones that can socialize in an out of costume I am a geek not a nerd there is a difference. explaining this interest to a potential partner is extremely complex if they are over 20+ yrs they dont understand what gaming has evovled into the culture that surrounds it heck its hard for someone over 10 yr older to understand it. its like a nuerosurgeon explaining his work to a high school student hes going to use terms that no one outside of his profession are going to use and that can take years of education to appreciate it.
Ive taken to bringing this speed bump up early in our conversation and seeing how they react usually its not positive to the ones that understand to the ones that dont they say thier ok with it then u wear something geeky on a date and see how they react.
I talk to guys 25 to 47 no older no younger i dont care for young guys they tend be annoying n trendy i hate trendy ass ppl not all young guys are that way but most are
Age is just a number??? BullS#@%!!! If you are not hot, muscular, rich, or otherwise have something younger guys want, you are out of luck. After 35 in the gay world you are old folks home material…..
I’ve been lying about my age since I was 20. Adding a few years more or less depending on what I’m in the mood for. As I got older I only lied about the age I thought I could easily pass for. When I was 43 I easily looked 10 years younger so I didn’t mind lying at all. Its not like I was selling fake mortgages or something.
As I got older I realized that I could not do the 10 year spread lie anymore. So I got plastic surgery and have been hooking up with men under 40 again. I am 55yo now with lean body and young looking face (via plastic surgery). I also had liposuction to deepen my 6 pack.
However, oddly enough I still pay for sex as well when I’m hungry and not in the mood to cruise online. I never go to bars because I can’t be direct as I am online. The oddest thing is I prefer to pay hot hairy studs from like 35 to 45.
I still think guys younger than 30 are hot but for some reason sexually I am not attracted to them. I never was really. When I was 18 I was sucking off all the hottest 30-50 year old guys in a 100 mile radius for years.
I’m in my 50’s and prefer men close to my age. However, in my city, men my age only want guys in their teens, 20’s and 30’s. I never make first contact and when I do get a message from a guy much younger than me, he is an escort or wanting money for gas or drugs. I hope I am still around 20-years from now, so I can go back to those escorts and say “hey daddy, wuz up wit u?”……lol.
When I started messing around with guys when I was 21, I tended to talk with guys who were 15+ years older than I. I wasn’t in the best shape but working out more than I was before. My thought was that older guys would not be as harsh to me since I wasn’t rocking a 6-pack and ripped from head to toe as most of the young guys want. Besides having someone older when I had no experience in the bedroom made for some very interesting sex! After I moved to Indy after college I started hooking up with this 50yo I met on A4A. He certainly did not fuck like he was 50 (and he would cum a LOT!)
Not only is it experience in the bedroom that attracts me to older guys, it’s their life experiences. Listening to crazy stories and watching some relive a memory is a wonderful thing to see and can be a learning experience for the individual listening as well! And salt and pepper hair looks sexy on some daddies!!!
The age thing really fascinates and frustrates me. I see guys say on their profile “No one over 42” or some other random number, and I just laugh and shake my head. What happens at 43 (or whatever the cut-off age for that guy is)? It’s about a vibe and expectations and chemistry.
That said, although I’ve hooked up now and again with young guys (as in those in twenty-somethings), I much prefer a partner to be at least in his mid-thirties, and in his forties or so is even better. That’s my age, and I’ve found that we tend to “click” more physically. I’m more about taking my time and enjoying sex than about getting off as quickly as possible. I find men around my age are more likely to see it similarly.
Plus, quite frankly, I find the intelligence and curiosity of men 30 and up typically is much more interesting to me. In short, they are more likely to get my sense of humor.
I’m 50 and I’m attracted to younger men. Most of the guys I’ve been with in recent years have been in their 20’s. I’m a generous and caring guy, but on principle I make it clear up front that I’m not a Sugar Daddy. I don’t want that kind of relationship. And the young guys who understand that are looking for something deeper too. I treat him as an equal, and enjoy getting to know him. Your 20’s is a great age, full of challenges and opportunities. The sex is fantastic as my tenderness, experience and stamina and his energy and playfulness blend together perfectly.
I am currently 18, but I have been on this site for a few years. I always found myself being attracted to the profiles of men in their 30’s, 40’s, or even 50’s. At the ripe old age of 16, I had my first real sexual experience with a man who was 57. Now I was pretending to be 22 so no foul on his part, but I am just trying to point out that the age is not what does it for me. It is about a deeper level of connection and sense of comfort. I feel more comfortable with men much older than me and we usually connect on a level that I feel is hard to find with guys my age or even a little older. At first, it was hard letting go of the fact that there were many years between me and the men that I was attracted to, but alas “AGE IS BUT A NUMBER.”
There’s my little bit…
Age is just a number but a weeks work of dealing with men that were in their 20s has lead me to conclude that they are all and still immature
Im a younger guy I think that age is just a number. if there is mutual chemestry it will work. I find that some of the older men be in the same mental place im at, got their stuff together like me, and not about the games if you decide to be sexual or not. And the ones that keep up with themselves really got alot of sexual appeal.
A man comes in all shapes and sizes and ages. If the cover catches yo eye and the inside keeps yo attention I say go for it.
The sexy mature kats can always get love from me.
Bullshit–age ISN’T just a number in the gay community–it is the national currency. unfortunately, the higher the numbers, the less the value. over 45? might as well be dead.
Well after reading all the comments I feel the need to put what I think about the situation out there. I’m a 20 year old and I like older. I have my own car (shitty as it may be) purchased by me, I go to college, pay for my own gas, pay for my own food on a date etc. the point I’m trying to get across is I’m not some pissed off mooch trying to defend the whorish younger guys, I’m just saying the shitty acts come from both sides. Once again I like older guys, it use to be because I thought there was a level of maturity there that people my own age didn’t possess, however I figured out really quickly that just because you grow up doesn’t mean you’ve “Grown up”
blah blah bitch, moan, complain.
Age is just a number and both younger guys and older seem to have problems in general that somewhat disgust me.
The younger guys being that they feel the need to act like whores to get an older mans attention and the fact that a good deal do indeed try to solicit money.
The older because they usually want an unequal “equal” relationship. In my experience they usually ask
For everything. You might wonder what “everything” entitles. To sum it up in short they want an Adonis that will cater to their every whim. Whether it’d be fucking them
Or getting fucked. They usually don’t want an equal partner despite the fact they say they don’t want to take care of anyone (and this is in my experience) they are more than willing to have sex with you but are always ready to talk to you like you’re a child. And that, to me, is not okay.
There was a longer version of this but it’s been edited. It’s 2 am and I’m tired so forgive the grammatical errors and weird shit.
TL;DR
Yes, Age is a number.
A lot of younger guys are hoes.
A lot of older guys use younger guys and treat them with no respect.
Pretty sure I missed the point of the article in my rant. Ah well, I’ll try harder next time.
I think it’s more about how you look than your actual age. I’m 45 and always have my real age listed; but I constantly get hit up by guys in there early 20s. Most times I figure it’s gotta be that they want some pay or something but I have never paid any of them. They just want someone who has more class and maturity than someone around their age. Most ppl tell me I look about 10-15 yrs younger, and that sure helps.
I’ll date/sex a guy with a nice bod and great personality at any age, but it’s always flattering to have the young guys interested and available to me.
This whole subject was best summed up by two comments above by “Greg” and by “Man-myth-legend”….I’m 55 and I mostly get noticed by 20 somethings, which I have ZERO interest in. On the rare occasion that I get noticed by a guy my age, it’s never my type (I’m turned on by the scruffy blue collar look with facial hair rather than the clean shaven business man look.) I’ve never had a lover but I would definitely love to find a husband to share life with and get legally married. You have to have a lot in common for it to work long term, and that means being close as possible in age….Any scruffy mid 50’s or older guy out there under 6ft. with facial hair, give me a buzz!
blah blah blah, age is not important as long as you look good and hot rest is all bull…you are a hot older man you still get lot of messages and offers
I don’t hit on twenty somethings…on a rare occasion one hits on me…usually i come back of why they are interested in someone in there early 50’s vast majority are just playing a game, though my current fucks are actually in there 20’s…though we have history. I laugh of the stand-by every body, uses, ” age is only a number”. As stated, I tend to advoid younger, it’s really based upon there ability, to know their body, and appreciate the art of sex. Few are physically interactive, and talk about how they are bottoms, butt when push cums to shove, there ass is sealed shut. As for anything in common, it’s video games, drinking, and meeting for a smoke at 420. I tire of the immaturity, of the common what up, sup, the Idk’s, im into anything…ya right on the later…and so many want that instant pic…so, when i am hit upon in the recent yrs. I really put the young men through the paces, and will there ass out on proving somehow they are sincere. I tire of the like drama, they don’t have a car, they expect rides. U get with them, and there fixated on there phone. They can’t conceptualize that just yesterday, ( 20 yrs ago ) electronic cruising wasn’t available, and you had to meet face to face, Thank god Im getting older, and not desperate. Oh and one other thing, I find they think Im vulnerable, desperate hard up, lonely and willing to do anything just because their young and Im’ older…So the saying age is just a number true, true , true, though maturity only cums with higher numbers. THen again met some older pathetic men that are just as immature and needy!
as a older guy i’m enjoying my role as the daddy uncle what ever,i’ve met and played with several younger guys from 19 up to 59 and never had any complaints just make sure you both have fun and get off, my 19 yr old has since turned 20 and still coming back because he gets what he wants, a good hard fucking.But for a more longer term thing i’d prefer a guy 30-60,i’m in decent shape and getting better every day nicely hung and can still get and keep a good hard erection, I don’t mind paying for dinner and drinks but pay for play FORGET IT those are mostly black guys thinking cuz they got a 9″ dick i’m gonna pay LOL NOT GONNA HAPPEN.and the entitled attitude is not gonna help them in the future. Have had many younger guys hit me up saying thay want to play then like somebody said they block me after they hit me up WTF is up with that guys if not interested don’t hit me up, I’ve blocked a few young punks for just that…. DDDD
Age is not a number, it’s a vintage. Even being in my 40’s it’s hard to find a guy younger or older
I always respect any age preference stated in profiles. Sometimes those are “no one over 30” or “prefer guys over 60”. As different as men are is how different their preferences can be.
A few months back, when I reached out to a late 20s guy with no age preference in his profile, he swiftly responded with “I don’t do old creepy guys”. My thought was “remember that in a couple of decades from now when you find yourself lonely and bitter” but I simply responded. “Thanks. Good luck with your search.”
I’ve had young guys chase me as often as I’ve had them reject me. I’ve had older guys chase me as often as I’ve had them reject me. Age is just another factor that may or may not be brought into play in mansex. Just like preferences for smooth/hairy, muscular/twink, heavy/thin, average/hung cocks, etc.
A truth that all too often comes to light is … the very guys who complain the most that they can’t find quality men are those who place blanket restrictions, such as age, on their search. For a while now, I’ve been having more frequent and better sex than I ever had in my younger years. Most of it is with guys generally 5 years or so on either side of my age, of course. But some of it as well comes from a couple of guys much younger and much older.
Age … it is what you chose to make of it.
Okay, so I’m 27, soon to be 28. I have always been interested in men that were a few years older than me. I’ve been called “an old soul” and been told that I’m “wise beyond my years” quite literally my whole life… even as a toddler, according to my mother. So, it has always been easier for me to relate to people older than myself. However, I never really sought out relationships with guys that were more than 8 – 10 years older than me.
My ex-partner is a year younger than me, and we were together for over 3.5 years. It didn’t work out because of the drama and nonsense that comes along with being young. That was the only relationship that I have ever had with a guy who wasn’t at least 4 years older than me.
My current partner is 17 years my senior, and we’ve been together for 2.5 years. I never sought out a relationship with him, but it happened, and he’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me lol. I have a lot of medical problems, primarily related to my military service, and he does what he can to help me and take care of me, but I’ve never asked him for anything… except maybe a good pounding every now and then lol. But because I was willing to give it a chance, I have a loving relationship… and hopefully a ring soon.
I find that younger men are often attracted to me. I’m 37 and most guys who hit on me tend to be under 25, which is great from the standpoint of physical attractiveness; however, I have unfortunately found that in almost all cases, subtracting 10 years from their actual age usually reveals their maturity level.
I joined this site when I was in my 30’s and got very little attention from younger or older men. But when I hit my 40’s and posted an updated pic of myself, it seemed like a door opened. Suddenly, I was getting hits from both younger and older. For me, age really isn’t an issue. If you can keep up with the physical part of sex and there’s chemistry, your age isn’t a problem. Now that I’m in my late 40’s, 3/4 of the time, I’m hit on by 20 something guys. I tell them up front I’m not paying for anything, and most continue talking to me. Yes, I’m a dom top, and yes, most of the guys want to be “trained” or they have a daddy complex. I’m not complaining, lol. That said, I’m pretty sure if I were looking for someone to sit across the breakfast table EVERY morning, it would be someone my age or slightly older. There’s something to be said for common history and life experience when it comes to living outside the bedroom.
Well nobody is mentioning the large drug culture permeating gay communities across the country. T. X. G. Black. I am not even going to include 420. As an older connected thug type “daddy” I get all the dick I want, older,younger, or same. Drugs seem to be the great equalizer when it comes to age and appearance inhibitions. Reality, drug enhanced or otherwise is still real.
I find younger guys seeking expeirienced men like me very attractive. I mentor and can be generous on my terms.I have had one meaningful live in relationship. He was 19 when we met and it was and is a unique and powerful connection. We have been seperated for 2 years but are still involved in each others lives. I am actively seeking more of this kind of relationship and have just become involved with another 19 yo after a year looking. We both bring something to the table, both work and live well. Spring is in the air and there is a bounce to my step and his. Life is good. Enjoying drugs doesnt make you a bad person. Dont limit yourself. Live your life.
I am a 46 years old black male. I been told by my many people that I do not look my age. I get hit on by guys younger than me all the time. But I have nothing in common with guys younger than me. I have always preferred guys around my age or older.
IMO, saying age is just a number is like saying the age of a home is just a number. You can’t ignore the implications of age on the roof, wiring, plumbing, etc. Newer homes may appear solid, but are untested against time; older homes have weathered numerous seasons and contain a wealth of history. Either can sag or crumble if not maintained. For me personally, being with someone significantly younger or older is like having my home out of place in a given neighborhood.
My preference is for someone my own age; granted, the older I get, the fewer there are. I’ve dated significantly younger (mid 20s to mid 30s); it’s frustrating making a reference to an actor, comedian, song, or movie … only to hear, “who/what is that?” Time and time again, my experience has been that anyone under 35 lacks the experience, maturity, and long range goals to be a viable longterm partner in life.
I did not come out until I was 26 (now 59). The first couple years I only played with guys around my age. Then I discovered “daddies” and how amazing sex could be. I learned a lot and went from “top only” to versatile. Now I love it when younger guys hit me up. I like to think I can give them an “experience” they might not have had otherwise. My favorite is showing them sex in a sling, whether it is laying them back and filling their hole or letting them get wild and crazy topping mine.
I’ve had long-term relationships (longest 14 years – he was 20 years younger) with guys many years younger than myself. In 3 cases it was never about $. In one case which lasted over 5 years I gave because I was helping to support us as a couple, not paying for sex. There can be real love between May/December guys. Unfortunately, I was deluded about a relationship during the past 2 years. He was 25 years younger than me but sadly addicted and he died of an overdose. I found out that the man I was dating for 2 years was really STR8 and had a very long criminal record. I guess the key is check out the person you’re with before you get involved in something emotionally and/or physically.
@Greg – Amen!
I have to call BULLSHIT. When I was younger I used to turn heads, now not so much. Those were the days when you went out and Physically put yourself in the store window for all to see, none of this computer/ cell phone crap. You saw the guy, conversed in person, decided wether or not to go home with them. And yes There were times that I did go home with guys my age , and some older too. But as I got older(in my 50’s) I noticed that most guys aren’t interested, either the young ones ( they don’t need a daddy, grandpa) or ones my age, ( they want some young buck) want to get together. Most will not answer you when you try and chat with them, or they will block you right off the bat. Personally I feel that the online dating thing has made a lot of people lazy as far as dating. If you cannot say something witty, or try and figure out what that person is trying to convey, you get blocked. I also agree that physical attraction is one of the first things in a date, hookup, god forbid a relationship. But some older guys are not the hunks they were in their early years that is a fact of life. AS you get older so does your body, sometimes you are lucky to retain your boyish figure and your ripped abs. Most of the time gravity takes over and you have the gut which turns others off, or you have health issues which wreak havoc on the body. So most likely as you age, you lose some of the physical attributes that turn guys on. But it is a shame that the younger ones cannot get past that and see the older men for their wisdom, experience, and depth, only to think of them as fertilizer for their flower garden.
My first time with a guy was with an older guy, he was a junior, I was in 8th grade. From then on, it was older guys for me. In college, I was with 30, 40, 50 year olds. Even today on a4a, I’ll rarely chat with guys younger than myself. Age doesn’t matter… It’s the maturity, sexual experience, and passion. Ultimately it comes down to their physical appearance and personality.
I’m 55 yo iv been with the same younger exstreamly hot boy for dam near 4 years to the date , he is now 28 his parents ar like my best friend , we do a lot of family thing togeather , my son who is 31 and daughter who is 16. Both accept him as my ex wife as well , when I came out 4.5 years ago my children were the 1 st to know,and tell my son who lives 1800.miles from me , but do see 1 time a year but talk almost ever other day, as well as my daughter every day , and see most weekends and most all summer ,with a very level head said IDK ,dad you are my DAD and you have a live I love you and always will love you know matter what your preference is its all good (melt my heart,(TEARS) … Same with my daughter , sorry for the long. Bla bla bla letter , but we live togeather and had always. He works and I work, I’m due to retire in 2 years
Hmmm, I’m a 51 y/o bear/coach/daddy-type. Stocky build and very hairy. I’m a blue-collar man with a white-collar education/job. I never comb my hair and not fussy about my appearance. That being said, I tend to attract much younger guys. I’ve never been asked to lend financial assistance of any kind, nor lent any money or bought expensive “gifts” for any of my suitors-lol
I keep hearing that older men have nothing in common with younger guys. I suppose that depends on what you consider, “in common”. I like to eat out. I like weekend road trips, amusement parks, movies, the outdoors. Those are just a few of the wide range of things we can have in common. I think its the “differences” we tend to focus on. Politics, religion, MUSIC, clubs, porn and “lifelong” experience.
Give me a smooth, shorter, scruffy, dude of any age, that wants a monogamous relationship…ANY DAY!!!
older men are hot as hell to me. I will be 40 this year, not looking it of course… Lol and I still maintain a good weight. I’m liking myself more the older I get and I tend to lean toward the older guy when it comes to dating however I haven’t dated in eight years because I haven’t found anyone worthy. HahHa. Actually it’s the reason I’m writing. Weight is my issue. I like older, fit, daddies with “huge talents” if you get my drift. After all what is a good looking blond hair, blue eyed well endowed, with a hot ass to expect. I take care of myself you take care of yourself. It’s only fair. A4A forcing09 hit me up. And please. This is only an opinion. I mean no harm whatsoever.
I think we need to get over this idea that “everyone should be attracted to everyone.” People have preferences. If I see an age preference in a profile, I respect that. Honestly, I think A4A adding a “desired age range” wouldn’t be a bad thing.
I will say that I find a long list of “I won’t talk with you if you are x” to be a turn off. Most of the time I fit what they ARE looking for, but the list itself just screams self-centered and high-maintenance.
I think it would be good to find a guy who loves his cock and balls and giving them the good workouts they deserve.
Of any age.
I am 63 and frequently have guys 40 years younger than me in my bed. I am picky and not compatible with smokers, drug users or guys wanting payment. I am well endowed and almost always in better shape than my young companion. I find that many young bottoms crave energy, power and true intimacy. They also appreciate mature stamina which results in much longer sexual encounters than their peers can provide. While age is more than “just a number”, multi-generational relationships can be very exciting and fulfiling to both guys if they are compatible, bonded and respectful.
Youth and money are everything in the gay world. When you lose your youth if you don’t have the money you are gonna be not successful finding someone. That’s not me. I’m 58 and I’m the person i want to be. I don’t play games. Remember young guys you are gonna be my age one day if you live this long. Someones gonna reject you just because of your age. I don’t want to go back to my youth. Go all over those years again? No way.
most of you guys are lying. i made a few graphs of the age distribution in various metro areas and they ALL had peaks every 5 years with steep drops immediately after. ie, a ton of guys say they’re 40 while half that say they’re 41. if anyone wants to see them message me at ilikepotatoes
I’m 50+ and I do like younger guys. I like guys my age too. It depends on the guy. I do find guys much younger, 25 – 30 years younger, who will get together for sex but they seem to only want sex. Most of them have had a fantasy about simply being with an older guy and I’m happy to help them out. They are fun after all.
What’s been left out of the conversation so far are the older guys who wont have anything to do with guys their age because they ONLY like much younger guys. They can be just as rude as the younguns who say “no oldies.”
Another factor in my city is the huge number or military grunts. These guys are typically young and kept in great shape by our tax dollars. They have God complexes thinking they deserve only their pick of guys and that usually means another young “god” or an older guy who spends as much time in a gym as they do.
I had a guy tell me he wanted to get to know me. I was happy to find a guy. Then he asked me to pay his cell phone bill. He gave me a said story his wallet was stolen and he didn’t have the money to pay the bill. I told him to use WiFi and get magic jack. What the fuck wrong with people not wanting to work.
At 41 I ve not found it any harder to find guys interested. The min I turned 40 i became more of a “fetish” as being called a daddy started a d hasn’t stopped….I don’t seek younger guys but I ve always found guys my age not as interested in me as guys in their 20 s or 50 and above. Age is far more than a nbr as guys that young just don’t realize how immature they as as they only have what years they have as an example but once older u realize how immature you really were……some get mad I don’t meet them…others beg over and over which is childish. I also think being considered good looking helps regardless of ur age and good looking guys have no issue finding mates if they keep working out…a good looking man will always be good looking no matter how old if he keeps taking care of himself.
Just a quick note to express my appreciation for the positive response to my comments.
@Jeff – lighten up. It was a joke. Sheesh. At least I kept my sense of humor through the years!
CODY—your a fucktard
Age is nothing but a number I’m a 38 year old single male. I had younger lovers and they were awesome. Also, I had older lovers like 18 years older than me and they were awesome too. for me its the attractiveness of a guy and his features.
Older men get the trophy for all around best lovers, beyond any doubt.
-just for the record, i can get both.
About all the young dudes have is some fresh looks, and hormones.
you can have em.