Gay Stuff : Looking For Love
Subscribers to Adam4Adam have similar and dissimilar interests when it comes to “making out.” Some guys clearly don’t want anything approaching LOVE, not even kissing one another—while other guys want passionate, lengthy foreplay with every possible element of love-making. I recall one comment, “you can kiss me anywhere below my neck.”
Profiles can get better results and consume less time chasing squirrels up trees—if you provide statements about your own foreplay and affection desires. Some guys want to “bust a nut” and in minutes move on to something other than sex—while others want a more relaxed event exploring each other’s body, cuddling, massaging and enjoying lots of intimacy. The latter may include “pillow talk” and learning what you have in common. You may actually find your soul mate!
Since posting the article about bisexuality, I have discovered from subscriber blogs that my initial conclusion was on target regarding the significance of str8 marriage reinforced by sexual fulfillment with male partners! One married guy (age 35) reported that he has weekly and occasional fuck buddies because he likes to fuck his wife and also get fucked by a guy with a thick cock! He enjoys his wife and doesn’t need affection from his male playmates—he just wants a thick cock! (Thus the scenario: Tops with wife—bottoms with guy.)
This married male feels the sexual activity with his wife is stronger and more fulfilling when it is embellished by having cocks in his ass frequently. He especially noted the fact that a thick cock against his prostate most often causes him to climax without stroking. He has no plans to give up his wife or fuck buddies.
Having elaborated above on a bisexual male, let’s also consider the male couple who are committed to each other and maintaining a monogamous relationship. They, like many str8 couples, are expressing their love and devotion to each other without getting into someone else’s bed.
So, do you enjoy your sexual adventures with playmates, fuck buddies, friends with benefits, OR do you limit yourself to your monogamous partner?
David M in Texas
Thank you for helpfull info There is so much Id like to ask but rarely find another who can take the time to consider the details of looking for ? ILL know what it Is when I find what I’M seeking
Vince north Cal bay area
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I am fortunate that an incredible man loves me, fulfills me on an emotional level I didn’t know could happen, gives me intellectual stimulation and challenge and still bangs my brains out on a regular basis.
That being said I have a much strong sex drive than he does. I’d like it everyday & 3x on Saturday & Sunday in a perfect world.
I’m lucky that he lets me have playmates on the side as often as I want as long as he’s getting what he wants at home. I give him that same latitude.
I’ve kind of run the whole gamut of side relationships over the years. I’ve enjoyed one night stands that remain memorable to this day (some not as much), fuck buddies I get together with on occasions when it’s right, a couple of boyfriend types at times and more than once that’s led to some incredible 3 ways over the years. One of those turned into us all being a triad for quite awhile.
We’re both happy with our relationship and confident in how we feel about each other. Being truthful, honest and open about our needs has allowed us the freedom to be open to the possibilities that the world presents us. We don’t feel like we’re required to side step someone elses attention that we’re enjoying because of some antiquated notion that doing so is somehow a violation of the sanctity of what defines our relationship to each other.
Men by nature are not designed to be monogamous all their lives, that’s more of a female imperative for the propagation of desirable genetic characteristics. By not buying into that hetero relationship more we allow ourselves to be truthful about our wants and desires. Sure there have been times where we’ve been exclusive with each other over the years and conversely we’ve both had outside relationships at others.
Where friends run into problems is when they’re not being truthful and open about their desires and then the other one feels betrayed when they find out after the fact instead of beforehand.
This story has too many dimensions. It depnds on the mood. I’ve met a guy and made hot passionate lengthy love that we both liked. Met the same guy second time, didn’t even feel like kissing him… it was dry and bland. I fucked a married guy 3 or 4 times with no emotions (he started off with I don’t kiss bla bla bla..)…the fourth fuck was nothing less than lovemaking session; he cried–as i fucked him–from the intense feeling.. there was kissing all over, lasted more than 2 hours, he clearly broke down.. it depends on the mood
We spend a lot of time talking about Black men on the DL.
I’m thoroughly incensed by the number of White men in heterosexual relationships who feel empowered and justified in exploring their sexual curiosity (it’s not curiosity) with men simultaneously.
I spent years fighting for the rights of Queer people. Our forefathers and drag mothers fought for us to have the space in our spheres for forums like A4A so that we could seek romantic and sexual connections. And when these… cowards… these duplicitous fucks decide to figure their shit out while someone is waiting for them to come home, I’m enraged.
I was born into this struggle and I sought to create space for little Queerdos to feel empowered to come out. Not to facilitate infidelity among closet cases.
THE RESPONSE HERE IS ABT WHAT I EXPECTED STRICTLY NSA SOCIETY PREVAILS. IM NO PRIZE NOR ANGEL SO IT’S NEARLY IMPOSSIBLE TO FIND ANOTHER FIT LOVING DUDE TO DATE. MY PROFILE LISTS RELATIONSHIP AS PURPOSE AND I ADHERE TO BEHAVIOR PURSUANT TO THAT END MAKING LIKELY LESSENING INTEREST OF CRUISERS
romance seems to be dead. really anymore most guys just want sex, long or short, fast or slow, sex seems all that matters anymore. I’m happy to be a out gay man, but there are times that make me wish i wasn’t, that id have better luck finding someone if i was straight. is it so bad anymore that gay man wish they were straight to find love,instead of the other way around? really what happened to wanting to cuddle, to talk, to just laugh with each other? gay men go thru so much, that finding someone they could call at least a partner is almost impossible seems like a slap to the face. sorry if i sound like a pessimist, that’s what happens when a romantic goes so long without finding anyone.
We all know we can’t find it. I’ve been searching for 36 years with no luck. Of course we all have way too high of expectations anyway. When I have come close, or actually fell in love, they either died, left me for some one else, or said nothing and disappeared. I used to work in the Gay bars down town and knew 1000’s of people during the 80’s and lost 1000’s of friends, 5 expected partners at different times, and even my own Gay Brother. Believe me I know what depression and loneliness is. I had uncontrollable drinking to a gallon of vodka a day my last three years of drinking. I didn’t want to say good bye to my loved ones,friends,partners,gay Brothers and Sisters. I’m now 15 years sober and still have had at least 6 near death experiences too. I tell God,” either take or leave me the f… alone! I hate these trials and tribulations. So I ever was really happy and not “looking” for love. I felt if I found it they would die too. It turns out I was dying inside all of this time. Now I’m not looking but am more aware of Men flirting with me, rather than turning and ignoring them. I met a Man, str8, new to the scene, and hopefully we’ll see what happens. I never get my expectations up too high, so as not to get too disappointed if all fails. So wish me, and all others out there looking for love, don’t, it will find you. My blessingd and love to all of you! xxxooo
It seems like for me, I get bored and restless when I’m in a relationship and lonely when single, my balancing act is having hobbies and on sex vacations.