Gay Stuff : “I’m Straight”
Let’s get this “straight”, if you slept with a man before, got sucked by a man, fucked a man or have a regular male fuck buddy, you are not straight. You are at least bisexual.
I’m a bit tired of seeing guys online saying “straight dude with GF looking for tops” ! Is it only me but I can’t understand that. I mean if you eat steak, you are not vegetarian right? Isn’t it the same when it comes to sexual preferences?
I’d like to know what you guys think?
Dave
There is no such thing as a straight man.
Honestly, who cares? If some guys want to live in a state of denial, then just let them. What’s the big deal?
Not straight. The definition of a bisexual is “a person who has both male and female organs or is sexually attracted to both men and women”. Clear to me if they do not have male and female sexual organs, and they are giving it to, or getting it from the same sex, they are bisexual. 🙂
YAWN !!
If you have sex with men you are not straight . I’m a proud HOMO , masculine , male , COCK focused MAN . The fact that I have sex with MEN not women makes me more of a MAN not less . A dude who is trying to hook up with me is immediately disqualified if he pulls that “straight ” bullshit . Men that worship MEN , that’s a turn on !
I personally don’t get why this is a controversy – it’s none of my business or anyone’s – what someone chooses to identify as. It’s called Self-identification for a reason. It’s going to take time for anyone to admit or accept their orientation. The gay community is so backwards – against judgement yet constantly judging
I think you folks forget what it’s like being in the closet once you’re out
I think a guy is bi if he can be in a serious non discreet relationship with either sex. If he only has relationships with just but has sex with women and men he is just a nympho
I agree with you, I think some guys just have a hard time admitting the truth to themselves let alone to other people. But on this site I don’t see the big deal, I myself am bi I mostly date women, But i do have a FWB and have hooked up with other men even have met a couple on this site and I’m open with the men I meet about being bi but not to my circle of friends, family or women I date…there are times I wish I did have the courage to be honest with everyone but then I feel that most people would not understand and just label me as gay, and I honestly do enjoy women also…
And I want to add I think it’s harder for a man to be accepted as bi than it is for women I have a couple bi girlfriends and it seems to be socially acceptable for them but if I even hint or joke about me they are grossed out..anyway just my thoughts on the subject…
I don’t disagree with anything you say, but I don’t let it bother me either: lots of guys need to come out at their own pace, and if they want to say they’re straight it’s no skin off my back. If they’re sucking on my cock, then they are not straight.
It’s the same thing with “bi” – there are legitimate bisexuals and then there a lot of guys who don’t want to say they’re gay
Sexuality isn’t black or white – it’s a continuum and where aren’t all that many 100% gay or 100% straight men out there.
Also bear in mind that going from “I want to have sex with another man” to “I want to fall in love with another man” is a very big step, one that many men never actually cross.
I asked my straight brother about this question and he put it like this, he would play with a man about as fast as I would play with a woman. Well that will never happen. That’s why I consider my self GAY not bi, I love men the smell, feel and taste their is nothing like it.
I agree with you I hate when guys want to be DL and say they straight acting and only fuck with guys on the low so stupid make gay people look bad just because they don’t know how to accept themselves
For a group that has been on the wrong end of others’ judgment for so long, it’s kind of amusing to see the pre-occupation with labels. So a dude likes to have sex with another dude. I really don’t care how he does or doesn’t self-identify.
If a man has any form if sexual relations with another man he is not straight! Have known a few guys for years that love getting sucked by a dude, but won’t do anything else.
What is it with married guys that love to get fucked, but won’t top another guy? I could never understand that.
Or someone that’s married and wants to have a relationship with you, but doesn’t want you to see anyone else! Fuck that they go home to someone every night.
If you just did it once you may be straight, if your doing it because you like it and want to then your not.
If you read a little bit about human sexuality, you will understand that it is not binary: it is not straight vs. gay, but rather a continuous gradient. Gender, sexuality and biological sex are intertwined and form one aspect of how every person ultimately perceives themselves. Straight can mean different things to different people, and we should all accept it. When asked about my sexuality, i say i’m purple 🙂
Yes! Dave about time you voiced your opinion on something.. If you messed with a man in any way, YOU ARE GAY!! Now I will say this, but theres no such thing as being Bisexual.. You either gay or not. No other species of animals try to “swing” both ways.. Humans do that and that the biggest crock if (fill in the blank) I have ever heard.. Bisexuals are not but gay men lying to themselves and others saying that they can be straight whenever the want. You mess with dick, you are gay.. Short, simple, and straight to the point.. No straight man would mess with another man unless he’s gay.. If i had a dollar everytime a guy says he’s bi and was actually gay, I would have my chantaue in France and I be out in the sun in my yacht in St.Tropaz… No such thing as gay for pay either.. Either you are gay or not and if you are, own being gay, just don’t portray the gay stereotypes.. Thats just me and I’m sure I’m not the inly one who feels the same..
I think guys who r DL you know those who want to uphold their public image as the str8 male by it’s coat tails have issues to deal with. I think it’s funny how diluted they are yet it’s frustrating as well. Trying to converse with these types are like pulling teeth for many reasons they seem to have a reputation to protect while trying have their cake and eat it, too. I can understand that but by the same token, it brings unnecessary drama when trying to connect w/ someone. Many are attractive to these types, it brings on the fantasy of turning a str8 guy and the risk of getting caught heightens the fantasy. I’m guilty of only wanting to hookup with “straight” guys bc I was once on the DL dating girls. In the meantime, they will tap girls while they bend over for the next guy! Lol
self delusion is a powerful thing. you can say your anything you want but you can’t fool yourself.
Ugh. Why are people so obsessed with trying to find some kind of label for others in regard to sexuality?
Let people sleep with and call themselves whatever they want.
Not too many folks are going to comment on this… people dobt like being called out on their bullshit! But i too dont understand how can one only like sucking dick and getting railed in the ass, and can consider themselves straight?… i mean if you like anal play? get an aneros, dildo, or butt plug… but if you just have the urge to take dick deep inside you, and nothing else will do the trick… or to suck dick like your life depends on it… dont hit me with the line… ” im straight, BUT there is jus something about dick that gets me hot! ” that sounds like denial and i thought was only a river in egypt! because i was told after but comes the bullshit! im a taurus and i see comin a mile away! So stop kidding yourself MAN up and admit youre attracted to men a little bit, or at least enough to let them touch you in a sexual manner. No Real Straight Man, will allow any male to touch them in a sexual manner! and all of you know it!!! #ColdHardFacts
I agree with you. Particularly if it’s about me.
However I think everyone has a right to identify their own sexual identity, for their own peace of mind. Only when people have difficulty reconciling it to themselves would I say there is an issue. People really should worry less about how we all identify.
It really shouldn’t matter what my status says I am. It’s no one else’s business. Stating that you’re gay or bi implies lifestyle and most straight and bi guys usually always fuck women. In this instance, it’s more about getting off than living the lifestyle. In other words Advanced Assisted Masturbation. Most of these guys if not all would rather be inside of a woman and either have trouble hooking up with them, have gotten bored with sex with women and want to try something more uninhibited (there’s less judgment on the sex and there is a mutual understanding among men with this), or they just want to get off. I.e. It’s not as good as sex with a woman but is better than a hand or fleshlight. It’s hot knowing someone wants to let you just go nuts and ravage them blind. On top of that a I among the many others in this category like to fantasize about women when fucking and usually are turned off by kissing another man. It’s about stimulation and sex not lifestyle.
This kind of inhibition is difficult to find in 95% of women and just the opposite for men. You’ll NEVER see a woman post “Anon cumdump for nsa fun walk in find me bent over shoot and go”
It has been my experience that a guy can have all of the sexual contact and still maintain (in his mind) that he is 100% straight IF any of the following criteria or met:
1) He only gets hard when he sees a woman.
2) He doesn’t touch another mans cock
3) Doesnt take ANYTHING up his own ass, esp by another guy.
We know better but if it makes him feel better to think that way and we still get to enjoy him, doesn’t bother me.
Then there are the guys that think it is somehow safer to play with straight or bi guys, rather than gay guys
As far as I am concerned, they can call themselves whatever they want if it is just a sexual relationship. If they’re dating me, they’re at least bi.
If a man is truly straight he has no interest in dick or men! If there is interest to any degree, he is not straight!!!
As someone who had a relationship with a “straight” guy for 3 years, it would annoy the fuck out of me that he would say he was straight all the while sucking my dick or fucking me like crazy. I feel that after a certain point it’s not experimenting or being curious. Let’s just call a spade a spade and say these guys are bisexual, at the least.
100% on the money! Seriously, no straight man let’s another man touch him in a sexual manner (even BJ’s). You are at least bisexual our a closeted queen! And I’m amazed at the “straight” men (and married) who have helium heels before you even get them undressed.
yes exactly, I was bi now gay n loving it,just wish I had started with men SOONER….. Dean
I’ve never understood it either, but I think it has to do with guys that can’t admit to themselves what they really are. I have a good friend that has started wearing women’s clothes (at the request of one dude). He started dressing up and placing ads and it’s amazing how many incredibly hot guys want the crossdresser vs. him as himself. I think it has to do with this level of “machoism” that many of us see and want in a sexual partner.
With as much variation as there is in sexual choice, how would it be possible to cram 7 BILLION people into just 3 sexualities – gay, straight, or bisexual? Right, not hardly.
The noted sex researcher, Alfred Kinsey, devised a scale of 7 points, from 0 – representing predominate heterosexuality – up to 6 – denoting predominate homosexuality – with 3 being predominate bisexuality.
So, a 0 would be straight.
A 1 would be a person who was mainly straight, but had “incidental” homosexual encounter(s).
A 2 would be mainly straight, but had “more than incidental” homosexual encounters.
A 3, as stated, would be bisexual, with no preference between homosexual or heterosexual.
A 4 would identify as gay but have “more than incidental” heterosexual encounters.
A 5 would have “incidental” heterosexual encounters.
And a 6, as stated, would be homosexual.
I go a different route. I uncouple sexual preference from sexual identity. Not gender identity, but sexual identity, or how a person sees himself, whether gay or mostly-gay or bi or mostly-straight or straight, or any of the myriad of grey scales in between. So, a person may prefer to have sex with men, or perhaps be equally attracted to both genders, while still perceiving himself as completely straight. Conversely, a gay man might occasionally have sex with a female, but in his mind, be perfectly gay, because he sees his sexual identity as separate from his sexual preference, or even his sexual “I’ll take whatever’s available”.
The terminology – gay, straight, bisexual, homosexual, heterosexual – are all great for filling out forms because it keeps things nice and sortable, but in reality, humanity is a far messier process than that; we don’t sort so easily.
“If you slept with a man before”… at all? once? that doesn’t make a person gay or even bi. that’s a skewed argument by the professional Gay Lobby. now if it’s habit, that’s something else.
I guess I would call a guy straight if he has never been with a man or had been with one and didn’t like it I mean you might have the question of “maybe I am” otherwise like you said if it’s a normal thing your bi or gay but it is a hot role play
Easy, if you’re on this sight then you are not straight, you are atleast bisexual.
I don’t know. There’s got to be limits of some sort. For example, if a guy has actively sought out male companionship more than once then he’s definitely AT LEAST bi. I say “more than once” because everyone is entitled to a little curiosity at some point in my opinion.
If however there was one night during college when he was hanging out in his social circle and in a drunk and horny moment allowed a friend who was gay to take the initiative and suck him off…well i’d be willing to call that guy straight so long as he never sought it out again.
Not trying to make excuses for anyone haha. Just my humble opinion.
I wouldn’t say they’re bi, if that were the case then gay guys who have one-off flings with women (which happens A LOT more frequently than we’re comfortable admitting) would need to call themselves bi as well. At the end of the day the label describes what the person sees as their dominant identity.
Yes I agree 100% with you Dave, and I’ve always said that to friends who thought they were straight but wanted me to FUCK THEM IN ASS MOUTH EAR LOL
Vincent
I agree, they are bisexual, and if they say they are straight, I reply back: yeah, your straight alright, straight to the dick.
Preach it Brother Dave! Preach it!
If you like cock, you ain’t straight!
Gosh I wish I had a dollar for every guy that after we had sex told me he was ‘Straight’. I almost laughed in their faces. Same way with the ones who clam up and will not talk after sex. Never have understood that one either. Guys think that if they just stand there and let you give them a blow or hand job that does not make them gay. Same with guys who want to fuck me from behind and watch straight porn. I have even had guys ask me to wear a ladies nightgown while they were fucking me from behind. Crazy the way guys can act. I agree with you any male to male contact is gay or Bi.
I know what you mean. I love it when they say “I;m straight but every now and then I like to suck cock”. Who do they think they are kidding???
Here’s what I think:
The lines aren’t as solid as you’d like to believe they are. They’re much more blurred.
The problem with many in the gay community is that they’ve spent a good part of their lives building up their gayness to the level of a subculture where you either “are” or aren’t with no wiggle room in between. These types identify with rainbow flags, drag queens on parade floats and in-your-face activism.
There are many men who are attracted to other men in subtle ways that may have wives, families and girlfriends and just want the raw and awesome power of an occasional male sexual encounter. These men aren’t interested in wearing rainbows, dressing in drag or parading down Main Street every June.
These men exist in large numbers and almost none of them are turned on by the in-your-face flamboyance of the gay community.
Don’t hate me, I’m just the messenger.
Well im going to tell a story about my friend. Me and my friend worked together for five years. I have heard girls say that he has a real big black dick and he loves getting his dick sucked. He always came to work with his pants half way off his ass. I would sometimes look at his ass and my dick would get hard. One day at work his cellphone fell out his pocket and I saw the a4a pop up on his phone. It freaked me out because no one at work knows im gay. The whole day it scared me to be outed at work. Then I started to clam down because if he tell anyone about me he be telling on homself. Then over the nest few days I started talking to him without showing a picture of myself. I asked him for a pic and he sent me one with him in a towl. When I saw the picture I was like damn he really does have a big dick. We started talking for a month and he kept asking me to meet up at my house I kept telling him I had to work. He kept asking me for another month could he meet me snd hang out? I told him I was moving and when I get my place fixed up he could come over. Then one month later he asked me and I gave him my address. He asked me what days was I off and I told him sunday nite at ten. My landlord me and my friend all worked at the same place. He told me that James showed up and he who lives here. Then he told him it was Mike lives here. Then when I got off from work his car was in my parking space. He came in my house with a bottle of wine. He told me that some of my co workers was talking about where I moved to. The only one who knew where I lived and I begged him not to tell anyone.
once a fag always a fag LOL
I completely agree…in fact I sent a copy of this link to one of my “straight” friends
All subject to perception. Make an occasional racial joke? You a racist? Same goes for masculinity and femininity. Change a tire make you masculine?
While I do find it kind of annoying calling yourself straight but shouldn’t be my problem if you cannot tell yourself the truth of yourself.
Annoying? Ya.
my problem? No.
whatever gets you off people have their reasons
My co worker asked me if I wanted some wine to drink? I told him that he knows I dont drink and he said please. Then I said Ok one drink. He gave me a big glass and he took a small glass. We started drinking and he kept giving me wine to drink. Next thing I knew I was passed out on my couch. He woke me up and he asked me if I was gay? I wanted to say no but I said yes. I told him I was tried and he kept asking me to drink with him and I did. Then after a hour he asked me if I wanted him and I said yes. Then he asked me if I ever had sex with a guy and I said yes. Then he asked if I wanted to have sex with him and I said yes. Then i pulled put a picture of him in a towl and I asked him if that was him? He told me no. I started laughing and I said it looks just like you? He told me it was not him and I passed out. Then I heard him scream my name and I jumped up and I asked him where are you? He told me that he was on my bed. I asked him what is he doing on my bed? He told me to come here. When I got close he was nude. He asked me to do what I do to other guys. I flipped him over and I started rimming him. He started to moaning. Then he turned over and he stuck his dick in my mouth. He started to hump my face. He started going faster and faster deeper and deeper in my mouth. I told him he better not cum in my mouth. He kept humping my face. I grab his dick and right when stop sucking his dick he busted his nut all over my face. I fell a sleep and woke up the next day I thought it was all a dream. Then I went to the bathroom and I had dry cum on my face. The first thing I sai. Was OMG this really did happen.
I’m sorry but I highly disagree. I’ve been with girls quite a few actually. That does mean I’m bisexuals. I’m 100% gay. Being heterosexual is the sexual preference to the opposite sex. Bi sexual is having no preference so they’re both the same. A man can have encounters with another man it doesn’t matter if it’s a once in a while thing or a one time thing. If they’re preference is women they’re straight. The problem comes when people try and apply labels to everything. Next thing you know a bottom whose topped twice is vers….except it doesn’t work that way. Relax And people do what they want and stop trying to put everyone into a mold or a cookie cutter
I don’t think one homosexual encounter makes you gay or even bi! But, multiple encounters (which suggest you enjoy it), knowledge of the lingo, and preference for a any position other than top is very bi at the very least!
For one month after that he would not talk to me at all. Then one Sunday morning he called me and said that he wanted to talk to me about what happend last month? I told him ok sure come over. Not even two mins later he showed up at my house. I told him I had to take a shower and get dress. When I came out the shower I looked on the couch he was gone. I went to my room to get dressed and he was nude and he told me he wanted me to suck him and rim him again. This went on for a five months. He told me that he wasnt gay but I told him he was turned on he was. Then he stop talking to to me for a year. Then one day he called me and he asked me what I was doing? I told him that I was busy with a guy I met online and I hung up. Then he called me back and I told him again I was busy. Then he asked me what I was doing and I told him I was having sex with this married mexican guy. He fold me to asked him if he would be willing to suck him off? The guy said yes and my friend came over. Next thig I knew we was having a hot threesome.
Laughing..im sure you’re gonna get alot of input on this one for sure!! Yea..definitely agree Dave..if they suck cock ,fuck, or have any kind of sexual interaction with a guy..then yea..I concider them gay or bi.. but I also believe that if a guy even lusts for a man even though he never acted on it is..but in a political correct world we call it “gay tendencies” lol..and usually act on it later.. I know many real straight guys!! Those who except me as a man but knew I was gay..those who..knowing I was gay and never confided hidden gay tendencies while being drunk off there ass and asking for advice and are comfortable with me..are straight. .they are secure in there sexuality as straight men..make sense? I like the homophobic ones the best..they’re the 1st to bend over..Lol.. 😉
I do not believe in gay or straight. I believe this “you only get to choose who you are with not who you fall in love with”.
I can see where you’re coming from, but I don’t agree. Try this on for size: “I’m a vegetarian, but I hate to make a big deal about it or make life difficult for my friends, so if somebody serves me a steak dinner, I’ll eat it.” I’m totally cool with them calling themselves a vegetarian.
Some guy’s slept with a guy before, or even less of a big deal, been sucked by one? “Yea, I’m straight. I think girls are sexy and that’s what turns me on. On the other hand, I don’t have a girlfriend right now, and sometimes I just wanna get off with *somebody*. So, yea, I have sex with guys some times. I’m not attracted to them, but I’m not disgusted by them either, and if it’s a choice between getting blown by a guy, or not getting blown, sometimes I’ll choose A.”
Maybe to you, a ‘straight’ isn’t one that’s attracted to women, but one that’s grossed out by the idea of touching a guy. Use whatever definition you want to. My definition is more about “who am I really turned on by,” mixed in with “who do I like to spend time with?” and less about who I don’t like or can’t stand the thought of being touched by.
Oh, there’s no question that there are guys who are into being fucked now and then, or even frequently. But what happens if you like being a bottom, but you’re attracted to women, and strap-ons just aren’t doing it for you? If you’re that guy, you’re kinda stuck; you might not find guys sexy, but they’re the only ones with the equipment to give you want you like most. Damn.
Now, if I hook up with a ‘straight’ guy and before I know it he’s pulling my pants down so he can start sucking me off, THEN I can’t help but think that this guy probably has some issues that he’s trying to ignore. Even if you won’t get wood if you see me in a Speedo, if my male parts are getting you excited, you have definitely crossed outside my limits for what I’ll consider straight.
But that’s okay. If you want to self-identify as straight, go right ahead. I’m not going to give you a hard time about that. And if you keep your attention on what you’re doing, you won’t even have to see me roll my eyes.
I understand the annoyance, but it puts us as gay men into a bit of a bind. We seem to understand sexual fluidity only so long as its flowing into the LGBT gate. Nobody would say that an out gay man who slept with a girl once as a teenager was “straight”
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100% agree. If you like dick, you’re not straight. Many guys just will not admit to themselves what they are.
I don’t think it has to mean this or that. I consider myself pan-sexual, though I guess that is beside the point. However, I personally think you can be straight and have sex with am man. Sex is easy, so if you are a guy that just needs to get laid…and we all know it’s easier to find a guy online than a girl. I think a guy could do that without ever feeling emotionally attracted to a man in his life. Which to me, would make him straight. Just my opinion.
A little presumptuous of you to judge someone’s sexuality
“Gay” and “straight” are just buzz words
I don’t care about what they call themselves. It is possible for people to experience a situation without changing their entire identity. If they are romantically, emotionally, and physically attracted to the opposite sex and not the same sex, as well as want to identify as a heterosexual it is their privilege to do so. They know themselves better than we do. I wouldn’t call a gay guy who has kissed a girl passionately before, straight. I have the same standard for straight people 🙂
Unfortunately being gay to the str8t world means being fem, I mean think about it, whenever our parades are shown on the evening news it shows the fem boys acting and dressed like girls, so who can blame the str8t world for there stereotyping our culture.
I refuse to participate in the fetishizing of heterosexual men, or the internalized homophobia that ‘str8 acting’ is better than admitting you’re gay.
Straight-acting is still acting, and if you can’t live I the truth of who and what you are, you won’t be visiting my bed.
I have a few ‘straight’ buds that used to suck me off on a regular basis… all swallowed, one turned into a FANTASTIC rimmer!!
I totally agree. They are bi. I just cannot wrap my brain around that statement. Its one thing to be straight and have gay friends, I have lots. But once a dick enters your asshole or your enters a mans hole, you are bi. Unless they tried it once and hated it. But if they keep going back for more, get off your high horse and say you are bi.
I agree completely. I think a lot of guys are too caught up in their ego to see that they simply enjoy sex. Period. It is great, whether with another guy or a gal, its great. I especially find it silly when its guys on sites like this who are unable to admit that having sexual encounters with another guy means you’re not straight, like nearly every other guy on the planet. I think we’d live in a much more pleasant world if we could stop judging ourselves and others and accept what is. 🙂
I’m sorry but I don’t agree. I think sexual shit is completely different from emotional. I honestly think it only makes you bisexual if you have feelings for another guy. Sex does not make you gay. At least in my own personal opinion.
🙂
If it’s someone else, then it’s none of my business, and I really don’t care…
Why is it, that it’s said, “If he does it one time he’s gay?” Isn’t that the same as saying, “If he had sex with the opposite sex one time, then he’s straight?”
Either way, I think people get to make their own definitions, and I’ll make my own, thank you very much!
I try to be pretty liberal thinking when it comes to how other people perceive themselves and identify. Especially if it’s done in a healthy way. I know there are a lot of comments in profiles busting the bois who are straight-acting gays like that makes them better gays or different gays. I got so mad one night after some not so nice response from some of the bois that I actually changed my profile to say ‘Let’s see how straight acting you are with my dick in your mouth.” I took it down the next day but it was funny.
I agree with you. I am bisexual and love it. I enjoy the best from both sex. I think it I s easier for a guy to say he is straight then to come to terms with the fact he enjoys sexual activity with men and label himself either or.
Dave, it is not as simple as you say. Gay, bi, str8 is a label. I am a married bi guy. Some realize or act on stuff when they are ready. A str8 guy who needs release will get a bj from a walnut if that will do. Getting a bj definately does not make you gay or bi. Is a need that is satisfied. To get fucked and less so to top is another matter. For that to happen and it has, you are at least bi. C’mon, just understand us bi guys. We like both. I would guess most are truly transitional str8 to gay and yet to accept themselves. But, some, like me, are truly both.
Same with guys who say they are bored or horny and looking for action but never commit. Talk is cheap.
Hey, here’s a thought, don’t worry about what other people do, especially when it comes to their sexuality! You’d think most gay men would understand that. Straight, bisexual, gay- they’re just labels. Some straight people have homosexual sex but they don’t identify (to themselves or others) as bisexual or gay. Weird, huh? Some “straight” people have gay fantasies, but never act on them. A person’s sexuality is theirs to feel and express as they wish. So even if you snicker at someone looking for gay sex and identifying as straight, take a minute to step back and remember that A.) it’s none of your business and B.) people struggle, experiment, and act out in their sexual lives.
To that end, I believe honesty is the best policy– But hey, ever notice how many gay guys there are looking for straight men? Why would a “gay” man ask for sex with a “straight” man? Food for thought. Cheers
I believe you can fuck a guy or get sucked by a guy and still be straight. It depends on the circumstance Take prison for example. If you’re locked up for five years, you probably will get tired of your hand. Elsewhere, suppose a guy is super horny, as our gender typically is, but his girl isn’t putting out and a guy is. He can get sucked or fuck in the park really quick just to get off. No emotional involvement, just the primal need to get off. That guy in prison or the one in the park might prefer a girl, but there aren’t any around spreading their legs, so he has to improvise.
I however find it difficult for a guy to actively seek out other guys to fuck him and still be straight.
Thanks for bringing this topic up.
You know who i BLAME for this phenomenoa?
GAY MEN.
Faggots that cruise craigslist (and this site) looking for “straight / married men.”
Oh, go fuck yourselves with your self-loathing homophophic fantasies. Go see a psychiatrist.
You’re a bunch of fucked-up, emotionally-retared infants that will be the first to cry “homophobia” without ever showing your face in your profiles.
It’s about time gay men started loving GAY MEN.
Cmon give them a break, you and i know they are not “str8”, but its something they have to do to convince them selves. I remember i had a hard time admitting i was gay and started out as Str8 , then i was Bi then eventually gay. they are in what i call transition. It could also be a cultural thing, a religous thing or are stuck in a marriage. What evet the reason , we shouldnt force them to admitt anything or to come out. That is a personal decision. Like i said you and i and all other gay guys know they are NOT str8, but ee go slong with it cause it is kind of hot and fun 🙂
Dave. Sexuality isnt that simple for everyone. The way I look at it is if u fall in love with men sure ur gay. But if ur man who has a gf but can be sexually active with other guys but never had a relationship or feel nothing other then the excitement in the moment then the person isnt gay. Sure they r bi. But its all about trying to put labels on people who may not agree. Live and let live…why be hung up on trying to tell ppl who they r. Its not really any of your buiness or mine. When im asked “are you gay?” I respond with “what do u need to know for, u tryin to fight me or fuck me”
Im very sarcastic but in all due respect whomever a person brings to bed is their business. I dont wear my sexuality on my sleeve and im upset that some gay men have to push it in peoples faces.
I just hope and pray for the day that theres a genuine acceptance not just a tolerance of the issue.
Why does it bother you so much what other people say/think? About themselves, much less.
Never could figure out those “str8” bottoms. Looking for a good blow job, yes. As we know, dudes suck cock best. But I certainly won’t pass up a piece of “str8” ass or a DL str8 dude looking for a bro for workouts after the gym.
Agreed. I fucked around with a married guy for 18 months. He said he just had an “itch”. The last few times we were together, I saw something different in his eyes and heard something different in his voice. I could see he was falling for me. Straight with an itch? Hmmm…you keep telling yourself that, buddy. My prediction? Divorce within 5 years.
I agree with you Dave.
If you have a girl friend or wife but you suck dick, or fuck male ass or if you get your dick sucked by a man and have a man to fuck your ass then you are definitely gay or at the least a bi male who like to have sex with men or women
Yeh… and what really gets to me is all the men who ‘say’ they’re straight… and play on A4A… when you meet up with them… first thing is… they’re legs go up to Jesus… is that they envy what they’re wives are getting, or is it that they ‘say’ they’re straight, meaning they are not ‘out’ in the gay world and use that as an excuse to not be available until they get horny for dick… Oh well, all you can do is find ’em, fuck ’em… and leave ’em…
There is a tremendous preoccupation with labels. We are people, and we like who and what we like. Why worry SO much about what we call it. Labels may be good to try to describe generally, but they are not definitions.
Let me put the shoe on the other foot. I’ve basically known since I was 5 years old that I was gay. Yet, I married and have two kids. I don’t think of myself as bi; I think of myself as gay. I’ve had sex with only one woman, which stopped sometime ago (been there, done that). My male partners number, well, I’ve lost count. So, am I fooling myself? Maybe on a spectrum of 0 (straight) to 10 (gay) I’m “only” a 9 (if only that were applicable to another measurement of mine LOL), but I still think I’m gay. I don’t even feel bi. In the end (oh, yes!) I suspect all this gay / bi / straight stuff is quite subjective.
Some people live in denial I guess.. I am a closeted bi guy and I know a guy I meet every so often who says he is straight. And we have had a couple 3 ways with women whrre we did nothing with each other… But alone, he is one of the best cock suckers around and loves to be fingered when sucked… If he wants to say he is straight for his own sake…. No sweat.. I know better…
i agree with you 100%. you can NOT be straight if you have sex with a man. trannies are also men so they are included too. biology is what it is. i do not know why some men have a problem calling themselves bi. this one cracks me up-see this on craigslist all the time. STRAIGHT MAN SEEKS TS FOR GOOD TIME. then they still think they are straight? no way. LOL
I dont care, they all look the same in 420. Simple for me: “straight hole” = “gay hole”= ✨
I think it kinda like how girls who get drunk and make out with girls say their “bisexual”(yeah right).
Yeah, because straight males are exactly like spaghetti, right?
I’ve never seen an ad for a straight guy looking for a top.
I guess by identifying with straight, they consider themselves “normal” by society standards. After all, haven’t we been conditioned to think its bad to be gay? That something must be “wrong” with you? OR They figures out that man on man is SO MUCH BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I agree with you 100%. Like The time I was watching a talk show and this drag queen says “my boyfriend is straight”. I said to myself “if you have a boyfriend that is voluntariy having sex with you then he is not straight”. Its comments like that that make the stereotype of gay people being immature fantasy world living in need of therapy seem oh so true to the moral majority types. He maybe closeted, in denial or something but a guy who has a sexua attraction to other guys is not straight. Wake up people – don’t you know what the term HETEROSEXUAL means? Attracted to the opposite sex not the same.
that i totally agree, if you willingly been with a man in any shape or form you are at least bisexual, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
You’re tired of how other people describe themselves because it doesn’t meet your definition??? Really? Perhaps these confused men who don’t know what they are should check with you to see how they should properly label themselves, because we all know it’s only gays who dislike being labeled and defined by others. Hypocrite!
Humans have sex for a lot of different reasons. Accept that. What you define as “gay”, “bi”, or “straight” is not necessarily what they next person believes. How about you live your life and define yourself the way you choose, and give everyone else the opportunity to do the same? Then, in that rare instance when you come across someone who has a different opinion than you, you can continue living your life the way you choose, and wish them well as they do the same.
Perhaps you could start a movement celebrating sexual diversity. You could call it “Pride” and encourage everyone of all orientations to be a part of it. I even have a cool idea for a flag you can use.
Live and let live, brother!
Now I do think that “straight men” say they straight is because they are on the DL, and very insecure of there sensuality
Firstly, most vegetarians have eaten meat before they became vegetarians. Moreover, being vegetarian is a lifestyle choice that can easily change. Some people are vegetarian but drool over the engaging l of meat. They don’t eat the meat, the same way an obese dieter stops eating doughnuts; it’s a little thing called WILLPOWER.
Who you have sex with is a mere indicator of your sexual orientation. Afterall, how can a “gay man” be gay after marrying a woman and having children.
We all have a set of unchosen preferences (things that are brain responds positively to + or negatively to -. In other words are behaviour is our choice but not how we feel (which is part of the context of our choices) If a man is truly straight. There would be a low probability of him having gay sex over straight sex. It’s not impossible, just illogical if you’re straight. Akin (for most people) to choosing to be tortured instead of getting a message given the choice.
I have no problem meeting with a guy that says he is straight. Even they need attention.
Its just a label, which only attempt to compartmentalize something that is very fluid and tends to change over time.
Just insecure fools that can never get real girls or real guys. I see bi in the profile,I move on.
I think sexuality is IMMENSELY complicated. The human being is very adaptable, but adaptation isn’t always classification. When I think about sexuality I usually narrow it down to “if a guy will date or marry another guy then this exhibits romantic feelings and therefore he is gay. If a guy will date or marry another guy OR a girl this is bisexuality. If a guy will date or marry a girl only then this is heterosexuality” – the sexuality is dependent on romantic and life-partner compatibility.
This is where gay guys get shafted (forgive the pun) because sex itself is not really an indicator of sexuality. You can get off in a number of ways; another person, a toy, your hand, rubbing against your jeans, etc. and these things don’t really have anything to do with a person’s sexuality. They’re just ways to have an orgasm. I’ve fucked girls. I’ve fucked guys. Am I bisexual? No…because my romantic compatibility is restricted to men.
Straight guys having sex with other men can be found all throughout history but these instances of soldiers having male lovers, prison inmates having sex with each other, etc. aren’t sexuality indicators – they’re just getting off in these ways because it’s a closed environment. Soldiers who fuck other guys would then go home to their wives and families after the war. Prison inmates who fuck their cell mates would inevitably date women once they were released. I think straight guys enjoy getting off with other guys because it’s less complicated and there aren’t emotional attachments (at least from the straight guy – gay guys are built to desire and be romantic with other guys so they are DEFINITELY invested emotionally and this usually causes the frustration)
So…those are my thoughts. I’ve fucked straight guys before. I live in a military town so they’re always looking for dick. But if you look at the statistics of soldiers in same-sex relationships that actually last…it’s pretty dismal.
No it’s not the same. It’s like bringing a gun to a sword fight! Point intended.
I totally agree with you, it’s like saying I speak no English yet using the English language. What makes me laugh is the type who are looking to be ploughed and claim to be straight! Come on now!!!!!!!! But I guess it’s true you can’t rob a person of their imagination!
I totally agree with you, it’s like saying I speak no English yet using the English language. What makes me laugh is the type who are looking to be ploughed and claim to be straight! Come on now!!!!!!!! But I guess it’s true you can’t rob a person of their imagination!
The very thing that defines us as gay is having sex with other men. That’s what homosexual means. A dictionary can resolve that debate. The bigger point is why guys say they are straight. Sure, for some it’s insecurity and the inability to own their truth. That is a shame but not the bigger problem. I think that far too many gay guys think getting with a straight guy is a true conquest. It’s such a turn on for some of them that guys are using it as a pick up tool. Some guys act as though straight is more desirable, as though they are somehow better than the rest. It is a damaging mindset. Have sex with dudes, not straight. Think that straight guys are in any way superior, not cool.
Sexual “Hetro” identification is a survival game played by any man (married or otherwise) who simply is unable to accept that hi sucking a dick, or getting his sucked) makes him any less “straight”
In my universe, and to me, this is THEIR problem I do not need to name your sexuality, as I am simply content to enjoy the fun. How the other person deals with the joy, the fun and the fear or identity is simply up to them
Sooo, let the games begin because, you know (wink wink) Lord knows we are all really “straight” underneath (wink wink)
I can only assume that when they are eating pussy, they also need to think of themselves as lesbian
“I’m straight”
Doesn’t that just mean the guy lives what appears on the outside to be a straight life? He might be married to a woman, might have children, might be active in sports, might go hunting and fishing with male friends (without any Broke Back Mountain escapades), might drive a truck, might have only publicly dated women, and might have done an array of things generally attributed to straight guys. Ask his family, friends or coworkers about his sexuality, and they’ll most likely say “Gay? Him? No.”
But on the inside, he plays with men. Discreetly. Privately. Not publicly. And no one in his everyday life knows or suspects he does.
He knows he’s not straight, but by using that label, he clears up what appears to be an incongruity when looking for playmates. “I live a straight guy’s life in the open, but play with men in private.”
There’s a lot of gray area here, just as there are a lot of gray areas in male sexuality. When we try to draw hard, fast lines and apply labels, things blur.
Perhaps some guys are so conditioned to present themselves as straight when in public that they forget that they don’t have to maintain that illusion in here. Does that make this site the “closet”?
I think a guy could still be straight and get a bj from another guy, but once you start to give bj’s , get fucked, your at very least bi.
People need to educate themselves about the full, varied and nuanced spectrum of human sexuality. There are concepts being introduced now that I think clarifies things we don’t understand and lessen the dismissal, discrimination and outright bigotry against things that don’t fit our own personal preferences and experiences. Consider the terms “heteroflexibility” and “homoflexibility.” Articles cited below:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heteroflexibility
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joe-kort-phd/are-heteroflexible-and-homoflexible-shades-of-bisexual_b_4549126.html
I have personally encountered too many guys who truly cannot be categorized as being gay or even bisexual. And most of them are not on A4A, understandably. They all have GFs or wives. They genuinely are not turned on by other guys. They don’t watch gay porn, don’t look at naked guys to jack off to and would never ever consider dating other guys. They are not necessarily attracted to other guys physically but to the ACT of doing something sexually with another guy. That is where the huge difference is between them and guys like most of us who could readily be categorized as being gay or bisexual.
I actually have a regular fuck buddy who definitely should be called heteroflexible. First of all, before we met, he never even asked for my stats, let alone ask for any pictures. He just didn’t care. What gay guy does that? He has a GF, too, of course. He just wanted to have a massage. We ended up doing more but he never kisses or sucks dick. He loves getting sucked, rimmed and to fuck, WHILE watching straight and girl on girl porn, mostly the latter. Most gay guys I know would be disgusted by straight porn, let alone girl/girl porn.
I myself would probably consider myself a “homoflexible” in that I’m the reverse of the guy I described above. I’m predominantly homosexual but fantasize about straight sex and wouldn’t be opposed to threesomes involving a guy and girl. I don’t think I could consider having a romantic relationship with a girl so that discounts me being a true bisexual.
Let us just please discourage this culture within the gay community of being dismissive of bisexuals (and straight/heteroflexible guys who just like having occasional men on men sexual experiences) in the same way homophobic straight (or closeted homosexuals) have been disdainful or us. We of all people should understand more than others the bigotry that we ourselves experience in our lives and should not do the exact same thing to others that don’t fit our limited definitions just so we would feel better about ourselves.
Dave:
I honestly don’t think that’s the case anymore. Sexuality isnt as black and white as it used to be. There’s a very large grey area. I feel like if a man suxks dick or romantically kisses another man, he shouldn’t consider himself heterosexual, but taking it up the butt is just anal stimulation.
-Kevin in Chicago
I agree with you. It’s a joke once you have been with a guy you are no longer straight.
I don’t believe I agree with you. For a people that have been the subject of various forms of discrimination, we seem to be ones that love to dish it out. Human sexuality is complex. It doesn’t really stick to one or the other. Not everybody is straight, bi, or gay. It varies within the labels and everyday it can switch up. If somebody says theyre straight, let them be. Does it really affect YOUR life what THEY label themselves?
I think most guys want to try being with a guy just to see what it is all about. Some find out they enjoy it more with a guy than a woman and then they got to decided which way they want to go. because of society most will go back to the girl but will always have that desire to go back with a guy once in a while. I went through that and decides that i want to spend the rest of my life with a man.
*disdainful OF us.
I don’t know that there are many people who are 100% straight or 100% gay. I don’t know that I’d consider any guy who ever experimented once with another guy to not be straight, nor would I consider the many, many gay men who have had sex with women to not be gay. I don’t generally think of someone as “bisexual” unless the claim a somewhat significant attraction to both genders. But yeah, most “str8 guy with gf looking for tops” are probably bisexual (at least). You don’t really go set up an account on a website and spend time looking for something that is just a passing experiment.
I think we live in an age where we’re free to define who we are and our sexuality. If I’m balls deep inside a guy and he still considers himself straight, that’s his choice and I’m cool with that.
It typically refers to a guy living st8…not out. Lots of gay guys love the idea of scoring the str8 guy….lol. Who cares about labels anyway…gay, bi, st8. If we playing, call yourself whatever you want.
There are relatively few “gold star” gays (though I’m one) who have never had sex with a woman at some point, and similarly, there are relatively few “gold star” straights who have never had a sexual experience with a member of the same sex.
Having one or two experiences with another man doesn’t make you ‘bisexual’ or ‘gay.’ Most str8 men (and women) experiment with the same sex at some time or another. That’s all part of being a mature sexual being. Most straight guys have jerked of with another guy, done some oral/anal at some point in their life (usually when younger and exploring who they are and what they like, sexually).
That said you regularly have or seek out sex with another man, then you’re either bi or gay. Some guys post in ads that they are str8 (when they know that they are not) because they know that there is a certain contingent of the gay population that loves idea of “breaking in” a str8 guy. Some guys don’t want more than a quick romp, and putting “str8” in an ad/profile is an indicator that they don’t want an indicator or repeat performance. At that point, it’s a little fantasy/role play, and there’s no harm in it.
When we put straight means we are married or mostly we like straight sex, you are right we are more bisexual, but we like man that look like man, so I guess we should put straight acting guy only. I see attractive, straight acting man and I get turn on. But if I see a girly boy I get turn off. And in my case I act like a man and I will do it like a man does but not like a girl. Does it make sense? I hope it does.
The one on top is just as queer as the one on bottom…. just my opinion….
Having sex with the same sex DOES NOT make you gay. One’s sexual activity does not equal one’s sexual orientation. Being gay doesn’t just mean you have sex with someone of the same sex but also you can develop romantic feelings for the person as well. A gay man having sex and marrying a woman doesn’t make him straight so a straight man who has sex with another man doesn’t make him gay or bisexual.
Great question, I’m really anxious to see what people have to say about this.
Here’s my take: I think a straight guy can get a blowjob or handjob by another guy and actually be straight. I think that getting sucked, or an HJ is passive. A straight guy doesn’t really have an active role and can be doing it just for the pleasure he receives. I’m going to stick by that opinion even if others present a good case against it. That’s cause for me there’s no better pleasure than servicing a straight guy..not that it happens much, damn.
All the other scenarios would define someone as gay, or at least bi.I guess there are gay guys who mostly enjoy just being serviced, but I’m guessing they’ve had their moments on the pitchers mound as well. If you like cock and guys cum, touching, sucking it, whatever, you’re at least bi…..oops, guilty…..
If you have had a dick other than your own in your hand, mouth or ass, or been sucked by a guy, you’re NOT straight LOL! I think all of us fit on a continuum from totally straight to totally gay. You may lean more toward the straight side of the equation, but if the above applies, you’re bi, not straight.
I mostly agree Dave, but I do grant some exceptions. I don’t think that just because you got sucked by another dude it means your bi or gay. Many guys try some guy-on-guy stuff, don’t like it and don’t go back for more. Performance of a gay sexual act doesn’t define your sexual orientation, your sexual desires do. To your point Dave, I have met many married masculine guys claiming “I’m straight, I just like to get fucked in the ass once in a while.” Who am I to judge what they call themselves, so I just give them what they want and move on.
I think you (and the collective we) should mind our own business and not worry about what people choose to label or not label themselves. We live in a complicated world and sexuality is not as straight forward for some as it is for others. Give grace if you want grace.
Im bi and proud of it
And yet, women can sleep with another woman once or twice but not be told they’re lesbians forever. Perhaps we could drop the double standard for men? Obviously if you’re hooking up with other guys regularly, you’re not straight, and I’m in no way excusing being closeted, because there’s no excuse for remaining a child forever. But they should be allowed one or two experiments. It’s only fair.
Think of it this way: before I came out I slept with women many times, but no one calls me straight as a result.
Labels and titles. Such a waste of time.
Hum. Do I look gay with my buds cock in my mouth.
You are whatever you self identify as regardless of ones actions. I love having sex with men and have had more sex with men that women (given my friend base etc) but I still consider myself bisexual as I love women as well and could marry one if the right one comes around…..could I marry a man…..meh probably not even if it were legal in the state of Florida.
The underlying problem is…we’re being bratty about sexuality. Because gay people have had to fight to be recognized as equal (and continue to do so) this is OUR fight. “OUR fight! Gay people! Stop infringing on our territory! this fight is OURS!”
so we get very territorial and offended when people bend their sexuality a little or dip into the same-sex pool to try it out and don’t pick up the “label” on the way out. How dare you do [what we consider to be] gay stuff and then not call yourself gay!!! Then we insist on telling them that they’re gay so we can feel better about ourselves.
What we started to do way back in the 1960s was pave the way for people to express their sexuality freely, in the context (for us) of homosexuality…but what ended up happening is we paved a wide road for people to travel down so now we’re upset because people aren’t fitting into our categories and labels. In our mind guys having sex with guys means they are gay or at least a little bit “bi” but when they don’t conform to that then we get irately upset.
I think we get upset because they’re cashing in on the goods without having to fight the fight, so we feel like they’re cheating in some way and shouldn’t reap the benefits of what we fight for, which essentially is a selfish motivation for fighting for equality in the first place. “I fight because it’s MINE” not “I fight because it’s just wrong to judge someone for how they express their sexuality”.
So I think it’s a deeper, underlying issue within gay men. We want our cake, want to eat it, too…and don’t want to share it with people who didn’t take the time to help us bake it.
I think like in everything there are shades of grey, nothing is black and white. I’m a male who is not attracted to the male body. I don’t have fantasies about it or any hidden desires. Yes most of you will argue with this fact but only I know the truth. I have been in the past and will in the future be pleasured by a man. Usually in a massage setting with the ending we all expect. I have no problems with receiving pleasure from someone that is willing to impart it no matter there sex. I have no interest at all in imparting pleasure to anyone who is not a female. Am I bisexual or am I just easy?
I think its some place in between stuck in one shade of gray.
Labels stand in the way of understanding. Who cares. We’re all human beings looking for ways to live our life as complete people. The biggest mistake in winning the right to work or right to marry is seeing these as “gay” issues. These are about basic human rights.
I agree about the fucking and giving oral but not receiving head. I love blowing a straight man through a glory hole while he watches straight porn. I can be whoever you want me to be as long as I get that nut. I’ve blown a few friends who are totally straight. One is married and his wife won’t do it. It’s a release we both benefit from. Very hot.
I have set with both men and women. I have been married and have emotional serial and social connections to women. But I like the way men give head…..so what am I? Btw
I don’t care what others think About it. I am who I am. Why judge me.
CRANKYD – well said Brother
MECOCKLOVER- GOLD STAR HOMO here and very proud !
Why do gay guys think everyone must be just like them. If a guy walks into a gay bar and sees nothing but a pack of fruit loops skipping around and squealing like girls. Swishing and flitting all over the place with drag queens. And he can’t identify with that at all. But walks into a straight bar and sees a place full of people that he feels at home and part of. Which “label” do you think he’s going to claim? Duh. And you think the fact that he and his wife like to share a cock sometimes is supposed to change that? Just because some gay guys say so?
Gays are the most judgmental and narrow minded people on the planet.
“straight” men with g/f’s are my preference anyway.. they are animals in bed
Hey Jon. You are dumber than a box of rocks. a bisexual person is not a person with both sex organs. That is a hermaphrodite.
Does it matter if he identifies as straight? Not really, it is his life and it is just a label. Personally I don’t like labels. People can like what they like and that doesn’t make them any different than anyone else. Let’s get over the fact that he labels himself as straight, let’s stop judging and start accepting.
The problem is most of you guys try reiterate that it’s “shameful” to be gay and we should ALL be pussies who stay in the closet forever.
But if no one ever came OUT a site like this would never be “allowed” to exist.
Most closet cases want all the benefits of social progress but none of the burdens.
So U R A Pussy.
when they are having sex with me they are gay when they leave I could care less
There is no pressure to be gay – so it’s not an “experiment” if you choose to sleep with another guy (like when a gay man’s forced to marry a woman b/c of social duty) it’s just desire manifesting itself.
At fifty-something I have a perspective that has proven to me that my gay brothers are so very judgemental. In a day in which we SAY we long for the kind of openness that allows for all sorts of “sexuality” or “identity”, we practice something very different. Perhaps that from being so closeted for so long, but NOW we must BE that change. We need to be much more clear and open-hearted. Maybe that “straight” person really needs YOU to ask some questions and let him ask some as well and move out of the total realm of FEAR. Be the change.
I eat pussy and suck cock.
I fuck pussy and face but not ass (male or female).
Anyone can suck my cock and rim my ass.
I am Bi
To who ever says bisexuality isn’t real,would it make sense if a guy said he was gay but still had feelings or wanted to fuck girls?
I don’t believed BI words
In science for human body number , we can not divide 50/50 . Something else too…it will be is the relative number , not perfect 50/50 … If . It ‘s be come 52/48 you are gay . For excactly 52/48 in your mind think a bout men , or women when u in bed with then . It’s draw in u . Mean you are GAY or other
Also even if there in the closet, whose elses business is it but theirs? For some coming out really is a matter of life or death. Get over yourselves.
As a happily-married (28 years to my wife) completely closeted and homosexually active guy, I can comment here. I think the blogger makes a totally valid point. But that said, we who love women but need men in bed on the side are admittedly in denial. I’m completely hidden in the closet. Nobody knows I am a total animal in bed with guys and that aside from my wife I have no interest whatsoever in any other women. And I have all I can do to get hard in bed with my wife! But labeling myself gay or bi isn’t easy. For one, I could never fall in love or have any sort of relationship other than a strictly sexual one with another guy. I didn’t want to turn out this way (no offense to openly gay guys), but there’s something inside me that started developing very early during puberty and it is what it is. So I’m not gay, I’m definitely bi, but it still pains me to say I’m anything other than straight.
I AM STRAIGHT!…err straight to the next cock that is 🙂
Most women fool around with other women, but only a handful of them identify as bisexual. Why is it that a man must be gay as soon as crosses the heterosexual line? Sexuality is fluid, and therefore can’t be measured by a few titles . Some guys only have sex with women, but would let another man suck his dick, not because he is sexually attracted to him, but because it’s a power trip. In a case like that the dude is not bisexual, because he is not interested in the man’s genitals. Now if a so called straight guy likes to suck cock, and take it up the ass, then he’s bisexual, and in denial about it. Lastly, the LGBT community is so fucking intolerant of bisexual men, that I’m not surprised that so called straight guys don’t wanna be a part of it.
What does it matter? Gay people are just as close minded as straight people when it comes to sexuality & sexual preferences.people can call themselves what they want. mind your business!
The question posed is as old as humanity, although we didn’t have the luxury of dealing with it during those perilous, ancient times of bare survival of the species. In modern times, we do have a number of gay men who will agree with Dave’s comment. I can’t fault that belief. Indeed, many in the psychological field believe that everyone is attracted to each gender to some degree.
I believe that our interest in labelling and quantifying tends to skew reality. It leads to the belief some gay men have, that they can “turn” some straight guy or other. The reality, in my personal opinion, is that we must always look at the aspects of attraction and interaction. Truthfully, “sex” was once called “sexual intercourse” for a reason: it described the intimate connection of gender-specific organs of the two genders. The intercourse was the mechanical copulation of male organ with female organ. Sexuality, on the other hand, was the manifestation of one’s identity through demonstration of qualities expressible through one’s gender body. The man, bigger and stronger, toiled and fought. The woman, smaller and weaker, tended and supported. All of these were mechanical and hormonal, ignoring the emotional and spiritual. Of necessity, men bonded with the unity and loyalty necessary in risking individual safety for mutual survival. Stress-bonds were quite strong. Privacy could be fatal. Men got close, with all the endorphine responses that achievement produced. They thought nothing of sleeping side by side, or of being nude together. Rivalry occurred when the matter of passing on scionage arose. Competition was, naturally, sexually motivated. In that regard, sexual energy accompanied male contests. Through intervening generations, as the pressures of survival lessened, the presence of sexual energy got examined more by individuals, and dealt with in different ways. Some felt it and went to women to express it. Some went to the man who aroused it, and expressed it (unless killed). Some fled from it frantically, denying it in sex with women.
Ultimately, everyone feels some stronger connection to certain individuals than others, emotionally, spiritually, socially, sexually. A man who doesn’t generally feel sexual toward men may feel a sexual pull to a specific one. A man who generally doesn’t feel sexual toward women may feel a pull toward one. Neither is changed from his general gender attraction. A homely stranger wouldn’t attract him away from his general orientation. Even the presence of feelings won’t necessarily bring action. A convocation of desire, complicity, understanding, energy, and fulfillment make the experience occur, and satisfaction depends on circumstance and self-awareness. If a man gets with his friend, does it, enjoys it, and never does it again; or if he does it several times, but derives his principal satisfaction from the other gender, that other gender is his principal orientation. He has some “gay feelings” and even occasional “gay expression”, but he isn’t gay. And we have no right to pressure him to assume the identity. I have gotten on the basketball court, but I’m not a ball player. I’ve made things of wood, but I’m not a carpenter. I’ve gone meatless from time to time, but I’m not a vegetarian. Humans, being complex, tend to trends with variances, but cannot be defined by our insistence. One speeding ticket doesn’t make one a criminal. Wanting to punch somebody doesn’t make one a felon. The guy isn’t gay, he’s just a self-aware and open-minded straight guy. Just as I am self-aware–and gay.
Does it really matter? If you are fucking me does it really matter whether I am gay, straight or bi? Are there guys out there that fuck only straight men or only fuck gay men. Personally, I don’t care if the guy fucking me is straight, gay or bi as long as his dick feels good in my ass.
I’m convinced all these labels represent various people’s agendas rather than describing real human differences. Does a preference for asparagus over broccoli really make one into a different kind of animal? But all these labels are a bit specious at best. It’s not like straights have a sliding scale of hatred and violence. We live in a diseased culture. Folks aren’t born homophobes but they’re taught that by a process of hetero identity formation predicated on homophobia. There are, no doubt, some folks who are totally grossed out by notions of same sex contact as there are some folks who are grossed out by the notion of the opposite. But I’d bet the vast majority of folks are capable of lovingly affectionate, physically pleasurable sexual contact with each other because as a general rule humans are lovingly affectionate, pleasure seeking, sexual beasts. If who you fuck determines who/what you are, then I’m straighter than all of my straight friends but there is no denying my dick sucking, hairy assed fucking enthusiasm. You can label me whatever you please but I often find it somewhat painful to have my wild and rough edges clipped to neatly fit the square, neat, pigeon holes of folks agendas, expectations, phobias, prejudices, etc.
It really is pathetic that something this petty is a problem. It doesn’t matter. I’m one of your “annoying straight guys” and that means that fucking a guy is a means to an end. In other words I would much much MUCH rather be with a woman. I have absolutely no interest in a relationship with another man, and once I find a woman to be with I won’t need another outlet. Until then I’ll make do. Just remember that there’s a difference between what is wanted and what’s available and that this is a hook up site. This is no case of denial as you are just a human fleshlight as far as I’m concerned. Get over it. Being a pretentious douche is unbecoming!!
I agree if you are a guy if you have set with men and say you are straight then you are only fooling your self.
Huh, All these years and I thought they were describing their cocks-straight as opposed to having a curve. I’ll be damned!
A male that claims he is straight but has done sexual activity with another male it is to help him cope with the idea of being gay. Being labled as gay for “straight” man is to date a str8 man in reality its all the same. It just allows them to cope with it and be in denial. But as for as im concerned everyone is bisexual as we drawn in. By sexual desire. Im writing a book called the the male influence. And it talks bout this.
The world is not as neatly black and white as we would like it to be. Our culture supports : left , right, conservative, liberal, straight , gay. But, the world doesn’t work like that. There are shades of grey and sometimes the labels just don’t work.
hey Sraight And Not Afraid- are you saying all of us who posted here are douchebags? look in the mirror guy
All these comments are only opinions, and my opinion is, a person is who they say they are””” Damn is trying to make me who you want me to be,,, If I suck dick, so what”” If I eat pussy, so what””” my label is still as I was born,, A male””” If I want children, I go fuck a woman” If I want an adventure, I go fuck a man”””””” Which ever one, I just fuck~!!!
You all need to leave people alone and let people explore life in there own terms and pick on your own self for messing with people. Lonely people sure do cause problems don’t they****
I find it odd that gay men have such a strong opinion about straight men that are willing to have sex with men. The truth is there are many reason why a straight guy would have gay sex. My personal reason for not considering myself gay is because I could care less what man I’m with. The only thing that I care about is my own orgasm if they had a good time makes no difference to me. I don’t get turned on by men but I can make myself horny enough to have sex with men. With women on the other hand my urge for them is far more dominante. I actively check them out. I want to please them more than myself and I feel accomplished when I do. Also I want an emotional attachment with women. I don’t like nonsexual contact with men but I do with women. So for me I am only willing to have sexual fun with guys but could only form a relationship with a woman. Would I suck dick and bottom? Why not? But i don’t want to kiss or hear about feelings or hold hands with a guy. To call myself gay or even bi feels inaccurate.
Sex is sex man or woman.it’s who you choose to give your heart to men say they’re straight cause they dont see them self in a relationship with a man but will easily have sex with one
This is one blog I can agree with 100% and I don’t even entertain the stupidity of that whole situation. If a guy comes to me with that he’s straight bullshit, I just delete his message without even reading it and move on to the next. This 2014 for crying out loud, so that particular nonsense I have ZERO patience for.
I consider myself straight because I enjoy great sex but I don’t enjoy the “gay lifestyle”.
What really pisses me off about a statement like this is how it perpetuates bad information about what it is to be gay. Being gay is NOT about just the sexual acts. That is a result of the affection attraction and love two same sex people have for each other. The fact that men were designed to be horny, makes ‘gay sex’ very easy to find. But being gay is about the person you want to spend your time with and care for and happens to be of the same sex. I’m gay and knew early on after multiple relationships with women that I was attracted to them sexually but emotionally would never fall in love with one. Confirmed when I fell head over heels in love with a man and stayed with him for 23 years. I’m NOT bisexual, I’m gay and happen to not be offended by sex with a woman, but I don’t seek it out because I want the comfort of a man. Same thing could easily apply for a straight man. He had experiences with guys he liked, realized its fun but not what he wants for the rest of his life and falls in love with a woman. I’ve known guys like this and respect that they are in touch with themselves enough to self define and not tie themselves to some opinionated, labeled, definition of their sexuality, which anyone reading this should understand is unique to each person. If it wasn’t, why would this article have even been written?
And its worth saying that I only got through the first ~10 responses before I got annoyed enough to comment, but just happened to read the comment from “Straight And Not Afraid To Admit It. I Like Steak But I’m Not A Butcher.” above mine and I’m loving him right ow for being an example of exactly what my point is…
Get OVER the labeling… you don’t know more about anyone else than they do so stop telling them who they are… All it does is continue the right wing argument that being gay is all about who you CHOOSE to have sex with… Everyone is different and if you’re gay and don’t already know that from you’re own experiences with being discriminated against yourself, then you’re a sad idiot who continues to give being gay a bad name
I’ve been with several “straight” guys and I could care less how they want to identify themselves. Sure they’d rather be with a woman but as long as they’re cute and can keep their dick hard it doesn’t bother me one bit. Like the Straight guy who likes steak said in his posting, we’re both means to an end…and you’re a human dildo as far as I’m concerned.
Self deception, and the need to fit into labels and definitions of other people’s interpretations of what words mean. People need to find their clique, and it’s just like High School, all over again. Who is better or worse at it, is just too competitive and pointless.
The gay “Community”, which is so splintered, compartmentalized, treats itself far worse than the “outside” does.
If a “straight” married man, wants to have sex with another man, that’s fine in and of itself, but he’d be lying to himself, then his wife, and it’s more of an assumption, he’d lie to anyone. This fantasy bubble is just self-deception, no matter what label you feel the need to fit into, and promote. As this blog attests, no one can agree 100% on the topic. It’s a dirty gray area, at best. People blame society, and separate themselves from society at the same time. People just seem to love chaos.
What bothers me the most is the “straight” ones, like the gay4pay crap. In a time where there are hateful people trying to pull as much crap as they can to make homosexuality and bisexuality to seem a horrible lifestyle choice rather than natural, these gay4pay models are seemingly choosing to have sex with someone of the same sex for money, and then just gong back to their “straight” life. Gay4pay could fuel so much hatred and bigotry, because of the nature of it, how “straight” men just go gay for the camera, then they are all of a sudden magically straight again once the cameras stop rolling and they get their pay. Haters could argue, they have sex with guys and chose to be straight, why can’t you do the same? Nothing against straight guys, but if you have sex with another guy, paid or not, you are not straight, and the more you tell everyone otherwise, the more you hurt others. (yes, I am looking at all of you gay4pay porn models too, Johnny Rapid, Paul Canon, just to name a few closet cases).
Ah, the recurring theme from that agenda-loving militant gay sector who insist on labeling others until they’re blue in the balls. Shut the fuck up already with your bitching!
Remember when we told our legislatures that what we do in the bedroom is none of their business as we fought for equal rights? Well, neither is it our place to butt (no pun intended) our noses into other people’s bedrooms; including men who identify as bi. The B in LGBT remains firmly intact…nothing to see here, so move along and for fuck’s sake, live and enjoy your life.
Why does it matter what they call themselves? How does it affect you?
For me it’s a role play thing. Especially if he’s super hot, you got that scenario where the guy is “Straight” (notice the quotations) and he plays hard to get and then the next thing you know he’s got you bent over the bed banging you like his cheating slutty ex gf.
I love to eat pussy. i love to fuck pussy. i think tits are hot. I’m not romantically into women, and i fuck men. What am i?…You’d probably say bi. I say I’m gay because socially and romantically i prefer men. Now aren’t straight guys allowed the same flexibility?
Just wanted to comment on the “gay for pay” thing..it seems to be firing up everywhere these days..mostly college students..some married men..just want to start of with the “straight” married type. .I know a guy personally who tricks himself out to supliment his income for his family because its quicker than a second job and he already works full time..he shared this info I guess because were friends and he knows im gay..so I asked him if he enjoys being with men..he said not at all..he sometimes feels grossed out but the money is too good..so to correct myself from my early post..I do know some straight exceptions..but the married men who do it for enjoyment. .thats bi to me..college students do it also to help pay tuition. .always have..no different then female’s doing porn for the same..prostitution has been around for thousands of years gay and straight alike..thats humanity for ya 😉
Definately agree with you and it sounds like there is general agreement on this. I’ve said the same thing several times and commented on what some guys say in their profile about being straight. The only exception I would make is if a straight guy tries sex ONCE with another guy, doesn’t like it and doesn’t try it again – ok, he can be called “straight”. Anything else is at least “bi” –let’s have fun and not get hung up on labels, but your statement and distinctions are very clear. You either like having sex with guys or you don’t. It’s not complicated. There is not much worse than being dishonest with your sexuality and sexual interests.
They could be heteroflexible, meaning he’s straight, but if a dude he’s into comes along he wouldn’t mind.