A4A : Any Suggestions?

Would be nice to view/sort people by time last active. I always try to view nearby people in hopes of a quick random hook up but there’s no telling if the person is just logged in but not really at their computer.

i’d really love when i blocked someone, their profile wasn’t viewable on my side anymore. it bothers me when i see someone over and over in my city that i’d just rather not be there. i also think it’s odd this web-site informs other users when you’ve blocked them, but that’s not really that big of a deal. it’s more of an observation than a complaint.

i think it would be pretty cool if we could make signs or something to prove we’re actually the people behind the profiles. i know of another web-site that allows this functionality. it might would help spot potential fakers.

OPTIONS:
-“Spiritual” as an scene option
-Make ‘Looking for’ more relevant. When members login ask that question. Then have all there searches include matches. Limit ‘Looking for’ to 1 option only.
-Use pics more effectively. Require a face pic for everyone, a dick pic for Tops, and Ass pic for bottoms, vers can do either. (all of them can be private but they should be required)
-STI status date. Its easy to get checked so for all of them at once so there’s no reason not to have a date listed. Also have the site automatically delete to date after a few months, encouraging members to keep getting checked regularly.
-Dealbreaker list. When searching or being searched have an option where you can list dealbreakers for you. Then those profiles don’t come up in your searches and you don’t appear in theirs. “Most” queens have NO idea what they want but they can give you a laundry list of what they don’t want. lol
-Add a “Passions and Pass times” pull down screen for profiles. Allow members to search people by how they spend there time. 1) Working- ‘I have a job that requires long hours’ 2) Family – “I’m always doing something with/for my relatives. Sports – “I’m either playing or watching the game. 4) Arts – “I love the theatre/ museums/ Art galleries.’ Spiritual – “ I spend time in meditation, worship/ etc.”
DESIGN /COLOR: I like it!
Easy to use. Thanx!
FAV OPTIONS:
A4A vs other sites? Because its free andA4A doesn’t lure you in then charge to use features later. I delete my account immediately when I see that’s how sites work.
ADD: Require members to have a pic and fill out their profile. No one wants to chat/fuck someone they don’t know anything about. Those profiles just waste space and time.

REMOVE:
-Porn ads. They make the site look trashy. I was letting a girl friend of mine read some great messages I had gotten on my phone but the she scrolled down and saw all the porn and she was like “What the hell??” Makes you embarrassed to let people know you use A4A.
-Automatically delete all profiles that haven’t been logged into after a few months.
Iphone app: It’s ok. Not very useful unless you live in a heavy gay populated area.
The biggest problem with A4A is that’s its set up like a Fuck site. People will find someone to fuck but people need and want community and to feel safe. Open the site up. Encourage people to connect rather than just fuck. Then you can do ads for gay friendly products not just porn.

I know this is a FREE – HOOK UP SITE, but I notice a lot DO NOT want to hook up, but looking for L.T.R.:

How about you add:

– Voice Profiles, lets people know what they sound like. It cuts “straight” to the point of whether they would be attracted by listening to them (intelligent conversation).

– H.I.V. Status more NOTICEABLE. Something for men to see first if they are less educated or scared or just prefer POZ./NEG. men. Maybe make it flash or a different color.

– Last Check In’s, let’s guys know where you frequent for possible encounters.

– Alert Profiles, a resource for men to WARN about a particular person/profile of suspicious activities from others experiences (thefts, gay bashing, intentional infections, etc.)

– Room selections, something in the beginning, after you log in; choosing of what you are looking for. FRIENDLY CHAT, SEEK AND FUCK, LOOKING FOR LOVE. Helps people at the current moment of emotion not sift through the profiles and constantly updating one’s own profile and current preference.

– Blind Date Night, how about people sign up for blind dates in their neighborhoods and meet in a public place. I know you have “PARTY/EVENTS” tab, but half the time, there just for orgies… don’t get me wrong, sex is fun, but I’m sure you have loyal fans of your site who wants a clear and clean fun time out on the town with someone knew, possible L.T.R.

– Marketing/Sales, some guys on here have an artistic side, why not feature members and their artwork to be sold (consignment). A4A keeps 10%

– Fun Homoscopes, astrology for those who are finding lust/love in the stars.

– Different Ads, I agree with Aja_2, sex sells, everyone loves sex, but couldn’t we have more educated ads for Condoms, Testing, Restaurant Recommendations for Dates or Hookups.

– Dictionary, for obvious reasons or to know what is H.M.U., V.G.L., etc. I noticed that some guys use some of the weirdest ones along with their very vague description of themselves. Would love to have a window that describes of what the hell these guys are talking about!?

– Main Photo Requirement, it’s sad that most guys have to write, “won’t respond, unless you have a photo…” If people are going to hookup, of course your face is bound to be seen, why not put it up in the first place and stop wasting time our time. PHOTO APPROVAL TOO, too many guys with VAGUE MAIN PHOTOS, very misleading.

– I’m not into politics, but it would be cool to have some kind of window/tab for sign up supports. Maybe some of your members are trying to get things approved, denied or funded for the LGBT community and need A4A member’s help.

– MUSIC, I love music, why not have a chat room with music or a variety channel or music box on profiles to let others know what we like to listen to.

– Update the background please, orange, black and grey can last for so long before it starts to get boring or predictive, it’s getting there if not already there.

– LGBT Movie Trailer Previews ( CLEANER ads), gives guys what to look out for entertainment or dating ideas.

– First Date Ideas, something to indicate what kind of date you would like on the bottom profile or on a different tab.

– Multiple tab profile, where our profiles have different tabs for General Info, Pics, Sex Ideas, Date Ideas, Toys we have, etc.

– Success Stories of the Month, lets guys know that A4A, as amazing as it is, is just Not for Hookups but for Dating too…

– Fun Sex Facts, they can be very FUN and EDUCATING.

I’m out of ideas… :-/

LoL

I hope this helps, thanks!

-J.

I think it would be nice to be able to click from a person’s profile page to a list of ‘recent conversations’ you’ve had with them. Sometimes you get a lot of messages and lose track, and then it becomes a lot of work to go back through the pages of messages to see where you were with someone….

Hey Dave,

As I stated on the facial blog, I think a regular place to let users drop a hint or suggestion as to what they wood like to see on this site would be quite useful for you and the boys. Just remember you can’t make everyone happy, but it’s fun to try.

If I had a second wish I’d be this…I travel from Portsmouth Nh to Boston Ma everyday and there is a lot of cock and ass along the way that I’d love to meet. You already have a scrollable list of city’s but when you get towards a place like Boston, there are so many different ways to search. If there was a “check list” of frequently viewed or traveled city’s along a travelers route that would be kick ass!!! Never seen it on any other site (but why would I go to another site). Think how easy it would be to plan a road trip with a smile at each end and along the way.

One more thing…Pride season is coming up, I like to see an A4A booth or you guys sponsor an event. You could bring in funds for your site, spread the word and hand out monogrammed condoms and cock rings for advertising (write offs).

It’s a great site and can only get better with everyone’s help. If you aren’t a big fan of the site…they have given you a chance to voice your opinions…use it! You have no excuse after today.

One thing I DISlike a lot is the endless streams of African “Lets fall in love” from teenagers that I receive They are distasteful and if other members like that fluff and foolishness and enjoy being husseled, then at least develop a setting where those phony approaches can be blocked or turned off.
Also when I did report a problem involving someone with some potential illegal activity your oversee-ers never even bothered to get in touch with me for more details, so either this is a haven for scam artists, or you really do no show any concern about the well-being of your members

would be nice if the email function opened in a different window, instead of opening on the same page. i hate “losing my place” so to speak when i receive a message.

My only suggestion would be, as mentioned a few times already, would be that when another Member is Blocked, they cannot see you online at all. That’s a great feature that one of your competitor sites has available.

their schould be a button you can push to make this site G rated So I can Cruize for Dick and Ass in front of loved ones or church.

Great site! Better if you had a category for what people are looking for that is searchable… e.g.: searching for younger, or older, or chub, etc…

No photo, then you can’t create a profile, period. Main photo must be visible, period. Once a profile has been blocked, I agree not to be able to see them viewing yours constantly over and over again, just to annoy you. Also, be able to block all profiles with escort/massage referenced in them. A4A is so much better than other websites (ie; manhunt).

I would like to see the ability to unlock only certain pics. Sometimes I only want to unlock my face or body pic without showing everything else right off the bat. I also wouldn’t be opposed to a new color scheme either. Thanks!

First off, THANK YOU for all the great features and fun you offer for free. Very nice that you’re always trying to improve the experience. The porn ads get pretty nasty and there’s one to offend just about everyone, but I don’t suppose gay-friendly advertisers (as suggested above) would be interested as long as the primary focus of the site is sex. Anyhow, the only extra feature I’d really enjoy is just something like a temporary “hide” feature, where a user could be online “invisibly” and temporarily. Sometimes I come online just to read email or take a quick peek at the blog – and get hit with a lot of messages right away, then additional messages demanding why I’m not answering. I’m not a big blocker, I only save those for people who really really cross a line. But sometimes I just want a little time on the site without being seen even by the people and friends I enjoy most here. I’d never block friends, but hate ignoring messages only to know I’ll be dealing later with “hey I saw you were on, why didn’t you speak?” Small price to pay for a great free site though, so just a (hopefully) constructive suggestion. Thanks!

My major beef with this site is the general use of the BLOCK feature. I’ve only blocked one guy here; he was truly an ass. What the hell is up with having a decent conversation with someone and the next time you’re on they have blocked you? What the hell is up with their not having the basic balls to tell a guy that you don’t think there’s a match and leave it at that? The block button, used casually, is spineless. And for sure indicates a guy is not a gentleman you’d like to get to know better. If the guy is a stalker or an ass, fine. But to just block a guy because he’s not out of the chutes Mr. Perfect is crap.

Look at one of the greatest features of becomming a member here … it’s bigger and better blocking. What’s up with that? Are guys here to meet? Between the ridiculous requirements many guys seem to lay on who they’ll meet and their stupid use of the BLOCK feature, it sure seems like meeting and getting to know guys better is the last thing many members here want.

And then they bitch there’s no good guys out there. Go figure.

First thing, program the site to block the “save picture as” feature and disable the click and drag, that’ll possibly put a stop to the “pic pirates”. Next, create some A4A sister sites for the ones not looking to hook up,example: “a4afriends.com” for the “friends only” crowd, and some type of a4a dating/relationship site, cause I see a lot of confused knuckleheads on this site saying “not into hook ups”, “friends only”, etc. and look at the top of the profile and it says “1on1 sex, 3sums/group sex. And another thing, I haven’t seen so many overly measured cocks in my life.

Recent changes to the location options for USA -> Texas – Fort Worth do not allow you to actually be in the city of Fort Worth unless you choose “Other in: Fort Worth”.

More locations need to be added under Fort Worth, or you should revert to the previous location choices.

I sent an e-mail message about this problem and never got a response.

Other wishes:
1. Purge profiles of people who have not signed within the last year or two.
2. Allow people to change their user name. Hopefully this would cut down on the number of people who delete their account and immediately create a new one.
3. As somebody else mentioned, show how long people have been members.
4. Show in profiles when a person last signed on. Currently, the only way to see this is to locate a person’s profile in the member directory.
5. Allow profiles longer than 550 characters.
6. I don’t like how all of the information in profiles runs together. The various fields should be displayed on multiple lines.
7. Make the “looking for” section optional for when we are not actually looking for anything.

I would like to see members automatically logged off after, say, 30 minutes of inactivity. There are lots of guys in here that never log off. That way, we can at least talk, or message, only members that are activity online

A “last seen” or “last logged in” by their pic. Right now you have to goto the members directory and then click the first letter of their user name. Lets say you email someone, they never seem to be on, well just click their name and it will tell you when they were last on. If they’ve been on since you sent them your email, you can move on and know they may not be interested, if they haven’t been on since you emailed them, they haven’t seen it or know you’ve email, then there’s a lil more hope. As for ads, I don’t see any ads when I’m using a computer, on mobile I do tho.

listen to what these guys tell they want, unlike another site that seems to have just lost more than half of their members

Blocking feature: If you block a profile, make it so he doesn’t see you online. This is done on another major site–blocking and he doesn’t see you online or you see his profile. Seems like a simple fix.

I like the site as it is. I think it’s well structured and still leaves room for each person to make his own choices as to what to share and who to respond to.

To all the guys who think a pic should be mandatory please remember that we don’t all live in an urban gay mecca and some of us can be open to friends and family, but still have to protect our jobs (yes they can’t fire you for being gay, but once they find out they can come up with all kinds of excuses) or just want to keep our lives to ourselves.

If pictures are mandatory right clicks should be disabled. I met a guy that had downloaded every pic from guys he had talked to on adam4adam and created dossiers on them. It’s why I refuse to upload a face pic to this site.

That being said if you’re going to allow picture uploads they should at least be of a view-able size.

How about options in the ‘name/character’ search function. Searching for a user without a location variable (and/or other options) can be nearly pointless. I don’t need results 2000 miles from me!

I agree about the block feature. I want to be able to block people and actually not be seen still. There are a few guys out there who get extremely upset and offended that you’ve ended communication because of something they’ve done and continue to make new screen names because they see you’re still active and keep harassing you. If I block someone I want to be done with them!

Add a distance search so we can search also by amount of miles to or within distance. How does a city or town get added to state. Would like to see additional local towns added to PA, Mansfield an Wellsboro, maybe counties like in NY state

1. MEMBER SINCE (…) IN SMALL TEXT ON A PROFILE.

2. A LAST LOGGED IN STATUS ON A PROFILE (LET’S OTHERS KNOW HOW ACTIVE YOU ARE (AND LET’S YOU SEE FOR YOURSELF IF YOUR PROFILE HAS BEEN HACKED).

3. SECURITY MEASURE THAT ALLOWS YOU TO REGISTER YOUR COMPUTER AT LOGIN (LIKE A BANKING WEBSITE) AND NOTIFIES YOU OF A LOGIN FROM A COMPUTER OTHER THAN THE ONE THAT IS REGISTERED.

4. A 3 STRIKES SYSTEM (3 TIMES IN VIOLATION OF WEBSITE TERMS MEANS ACCOUNT SUSPENSION). THE MARKS SHOULD BE IN SMALL PRINT ON THE PROFILE.

5. CHANGE THE FONT OF ADAM4ADAM.COM TO A MORE MODERN FONT (MAYBE 2-3 FONTS USED THROUGHOUT THE WEBSITE I.E. TITLES, ALERTS, MARKS, STATUS, STIKES, LAST LOGIN, MEMBER SINCE ETC.).

6. BY DEFAULT NO LOCATION SHARING WHEN NEW PROFILE IS MADE (VIOLATION OF PRIVACY IF NOT EXPLICITLY STATED THAT LOCATION WILL BE SHARED WITH OTHER MEMBERS UPON COMPLETION OF NEW PROFILE).

7. LIVE CITY ROOM “WALLS”. MEMBERS USERNAME (MAYBE A LITTLE THUMBNAIL PICTURE) APPEARS NEXT TO COMMENTS. CAN BE USEFUL FOR SPONTANEOUS PARTIES, LOCAL EVENTS, OPINIONS, NEWS ETC.

8. PROFILE STAR RATING SYSTEM AND REVIEWS FOR PRO ADS.

9. PROFILE “LIKES” AND “DISLIKES” IN SMALL TEXT ON PROFILE (LIKE YOUTUBE), WITH A THUMBS UP OR DOWN COUNT, OR A COLOR CODED (RED AND GREEN) SYSTEM WITH COUNTS.

10. ADD A POP-UP “PROFILE STATUS AND INFORMATION” BOX. CAN PUT ALL AFFOREMENTIONED INFORMATION OF SUGGESTIONS (IN THE BOX, AND STATUS CAN BE VIEWED IN A POP-UP WINDOW WHEN CLICKED.

11. ADD A “REPORT FOR VERIFICATION” BUTTON FOR SUSPECTED FAKE PROFILES. MEMBERS MUST FILE A COMPLAINT WITH ADAM4ADAM.COM LIKED TO THEIR PROFILE (TO CUT DOWN ON FRIVOLOUS COMPLAINTS) AND IF ENOUGH COMPLAINTS ARE MADE THE PERSON WITH THE PROFILE IN QUESTION MUST EMAIL A COPY OF I.D. TO PROVE IT’S THEM.

12. ADD “UNDETECTABLE” STATUS TO PROFILE HIV STATUS OPTION.

13. LINK PROFILES TO BLOG COMMENTS ONCE AND FOR ALL.

14. VIDEO CHAT BUTTON OPTION.

15. FOR EACH CITY ROOM PUT A “SPOTLIGHT” (MAYBE A YELLOW OUTLINE WITH YELLOW BACKGROUND) ON PROFILE WITH THE MOST VIEWS, AND LIKES AT ANY GIVEN TIME.

16. HEPATITIS STATUS AS A “DISEASE STATUS” NEGATIVE, POSITIVE, VACCINATED.

17. IN SMALL TEXT IN PROFILE LIST IF ANY KIND OF FILTER STATUS IS ON OR OFF (WILL GIVE SOME KIND OF NOTICE TO THE PEOPLE WE’RE FILTERING OUT THAT OUR FILTER IS ON- DOESN’T NECESSARILY HAVE TO SAY WHAT WE ARE FILTERING).

18. STAY TRUE TO THE COLOR SCHEME OF ORANGE, BLACK, WHITE, RED. MAYBE A BLACK BACKGROUND (MODERN & CLASSY).

19. A PERSONAL TIMER THAT ONLY YOU CAN SEE TO ALLOW YOU TO SEE HOW LONG YOU HAVE BEEN ON.

20. A “LET’S MEETUP” BUTTON WITH THE OPTION TO DECLINE (CUTS DOWN ON ENDLESS EMAILS AND GETS STRAIGHT TO THE POINT).

21. OPTION TO SEND 30 SECOND “VOICE NOTES”.

22. DELETION OF NON-ACTIVE PROFILES (I’VE SEEN MANY PROFILES STILL UP THAT WERE CREATED IN 2004). IF THE PERSON PASSES LAST MEMORIES SHOULDN’T BE HIS PROFILE PROCLAIMING “LOOKING TO GET BANGED WITH A HUGE DICK AND AFTER TAKING A LOAD ON MY FACE”. RESPECT THE DEAD.

23. WHEN A PROFILE IS BLOCKED PICTURES CANNOT BE SEEN (AT ALL), AND VIEWING THE PROFILE IS RESTRICTED (“YOU HAVE BEEN BLOCKED BY THIS MEMBER” SHOULD POP UP INSTEAD OF THE ENTIRE BLOCKED PROFILE).

PLEASE TAKE THESE SUGGESTIONS SERIOUSLY, AND CONSIDER IMPLEMENTATION. IT WOULD MAKE THE ADAM4ADAM.COM EXPERIENCE BETTER BY FAR!

I would like to be able to post some pictures of me with me sucking a cock are getting fucked in the ass or both

I would like to see anything goes be removed. I would like to have members check mark or pledge as part of being a member to not do bb sex. Stand up against the very behaviors that created a health crisis and do more than just talk about it, make it part of the site over and over.

You should be able to search for guys by top or bottom and search for guys that use “looking for now” as a status.

You should also ad a looking for now timer so the status shuts off, so a guy that put it up a week ago is not pissed when you message him.

Also a spot to list if your host and if you can or can not travel.

Being that this is a social site, it bothers me that the overwhelming majority of guys cant even respond to a “hello how are you” If we as a community cant even treat eachother with dignity and respect how do we expect the world at large to respect us and treat us as a part of the population.
As adults we should understand that everbody has a “TYPE”, And just because somebody answers your message doesnt mean they want to jump into a sexual situation with you. Ive been on both ends of the spectrum where ive been rejected, as well as having a guy that cant accept “no thanx” as a viable response
I really think there should be a way for people to gather asshole points, after a certain amount they would have a suspension, for a period of time….it should be able to be monitored, so people couldnt get away with just being vindictive cause they were given asshole points. Some offenses should be, ignoring a message, being asked to pay for sex. Racist,age,size and neg/pos discrimination (EX: “no Whites/Blacks” “no body over 30” “no Pos” “no body over a 32 Waist”)Its really shameful in the gay community to have such blatent remarks……that being said EVERYBODY should be aware EVERYBODY has their likes and dislikes….in the same respect i think people should be able to gather Angel points as well that way there could be a running viewable way for us to see who treats people good and who doesnt. As a reward for gathering a certain amount of Angel points your profile gets featured as a person worth checking out.
Color coded frames for top/bottom would be helpful.

Maybe even a checklist to show what your into, FF, WS, BDSM, CBT ETC.!!!!

In General to all guys why put Versital as your position when in fact when it comes down to it your a bottom? Cant count how many “VERS” guys i send a message too and then they say oh im a bottom too. No shame in your game to say your a bottom!!!!

ADAM4ADAM overall is a great site and love the fact its like no other as far as being free to use….great job guys!!! THANX

You need to put someone’s sexual status on here. It would be nice to weed out those that like anything goes or those are positive. Also not too crazy about your a4a store.

this site is fuckbook, not facebook. any attempts at a g-rated, work-safe friends only option should be relegated to another site.

do not add a ‘frown’ button. delete ‘smile’ and replace it with ‘cruise.’

i agree that when you block someone you should disappear from their screen, and you from theirs. at the very least, show ‘blocked you’ just like ‘you blocked’ is shown.

a baseline compatability percentage using profile boxes checked would be cool. so would a zipcode feature and different lock/unlock pic options.

and it really is past time to add ‘undetectable’ as an option.

and how about instead of wasting space showing if a guy is on mobile, wi-fi or desktop, you use that line to indicate top/bottom/vers, gay/bi/het, wrapped/raw, and so on?

I sat down and read over all the comments on here and some I can agree with totally.

Yes different colors would be awesome, or let us pick from a palette for our own custom colors, I would like a nice blue or dark green.

G-rated log in would be nice. If I log in to check my messages when I am at school I make sure to activate firefox’s adblock add-on so all the porn ads are hid. All I would need is to be looking to see if I got a message and the right person walks by at the right time and see an ad for a crazy-mad orgy site for the shit to hit the fan.

Non-porn ads: I like that idea too, I know another site I am on has their own store for gear and toys and whatnot, maybe a4a should try that as well. A4A is all about hookups, but I am not.

Scene: Ok more of these or explanations would be nice. I live in WV and if we have any scenes around here it would be closet, bookstore/cruising, gay bar, or homebody. I know a4a was made with larger cities in mind but even larger cities give way to smaller areas with less to do. And like someone else said before, around here you will find dozens more churches than gay bars and bookstores combined.

Looking for: Ok me I looks for friends, but some people think friends mean friends with benefits, so I get messages from guys wanting to benefit so they act friendly. Why not add “Friends with benefits” to that list

Dick details: If you going to have dick length, why not girth like this other site has? Also why not a checklist for other features like piercings and the different types or piercings someone might have, if I had a fetish for prince alberts I might like to look around just for that, but if I didn’t like them I might want a heads up before I start chatting a guy up. The same thing could apply to hypospadias, phimosis, people with cock mods, or even something as simple as the amount of foreskin they have. Some people are into these things and some people are NOT.

Out: So the answer is yes or no? how about “to some people” or “to friends/family only” or maybe just “to friends, not family”. I am not in the closet but I don’t walk in pride parades. My nearest and dearest friends know but I keep the rest in the dark and if I told anyone in my family I would tell my mom but none of the rest. My mom is cool, its not my brothers or aunt’s or uncle’s business. Translation I don’t hide it but I don’t walk down the street screaming it out either.

PROFILE LENGTH: Some sites give you TONS of space to type out what you like, on this one I have learned to make some creative edits. But even then I find I either have to go with an all or nothing approach to what I want to post. Like I don’t mind an attractive older guy who takes care of himself, its rare but its out there; but if I have to cut the words down I will post “guys near my age” instead because explaining why I might not be interested in all older men properly takes up too much space.

Locations: Ok like I said before I live in WV, not a large number of guys are actively gay (there more here than most people think they just don’t let people know) So the number of location to choose from are LOUSY. There are 22 cities and Other… if I plot those cities on a map are they positioned well enough to cover all the areas in-between? Can’t it be made to where you punch in your zip code and it does the work from there? Then you don’t need cities, you automatically have it entered. And if I look for people on here, someone might have picked other but be someone who is too far away to be in my town but too close enough to consider.

ABSOLUTE BLOCK: YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES!
If you block someone it should block them ABSOLUTELY. All notice of them should disappear off my screen and all notice of me should disappear off theirs. Maybe add a place to see who is blocking me/who am I blocking but if anything you can see what you posted when you blocked someone to remind you why.

Selective Unlock: Yeah unlocking some pictures for someone and not ALL would be better. If I have my face pic and my cock on lock on here I might want to show someone my face but that doesn’t mean I want to show my dick also.

Paid Features: On one site I am on it is totally free, just a handful of ads. It offers large profiles, photo views, lockable photos, blogs, videos, groups, chat, IM and thats just a start. Their paid members are in the form of donations. If I get the cash to burn I am going to donate. But make the really basic features that are the basic site fuctions free like profiles, messages and message history, views and IM and pics. Make stuff like cam rooms and chat a member benefit. You know fun stuff free, or make it to where they get benefits like credits or coupons at an adult toy site or porn site or free/reduced membership at a porn site.

View/Message history on profile: If I checked out someone’s profile, send them a message and they choose not to reply it would be nice to know I viewed them, sent them a message, and they didn’t reply instead of a month or 2 later I forget about them they change their profile or post a pic, I see them, think they are cool again, send them another message and repeat the whole thing over. It wouldn’t have to be much, you could have “You viewed this profile on ##/##/##” or something.

Popularity: Instead of winks or kisses or pointless stuff that basically amounts to saying hi with the click of a button, why not have it where people can click “like” or “hot” or both on a profile. Then you could list something like “20 out of 24 guys in your area “like” your profile, 85 people total “like” it” (based off location), or 5 out of 12 in your area think your “hot”, 300 total think your “hot”. Or you could do a pic ranking section, kinda like hot or not or rate a rod use to do (are they still doing that?).

Message Passing: You reply to a post on craigslist, and it acts like a intermediary between you and whoever so unless you swap numbers or e-mail addresses you don’t know each others. Why not have it to where you can set up a4a to do the same? Checking my gmail on my phone and replying is better for me than an app or logging on via computer where I might have someone notice me unless I am at home, and if anything it would make a decent paid feature since it adds extra convenience .

I think I will stop here lol I can’t think of anything else at the moment lol.

Two quick suggestions, both mentioned before by others.

1). Stop all information on Blocked people. The blocked/blocker should not be able to see each other profile.

2). A way to notify others of “fake” profiles and pictures. A few days ago I noticed a guy with pictures of someone I know posted online in several locations(cities/states)at the same time. When I asked how could that be, he sent me an “LOL” and changed pics. Problem? They were fake too. When confronted about this, he said he was a hustler trying to make money. He changed pics again, probably not his. A way to warn others might save someone from being harmed or “gamed”.

a video chat room

yes TOO many gay ads!

On the mobile app, please remove the ad bar at the top or move the envelope to open the mailbox, because every time you press the envelope, an ad opens.

i like a4a because it is free and does a good job of accommodating men with very different needs and interests. one way it could better accommodate both guys (like me) who share face pics readily, and others who do not want to share, is to allow searching to be limited to “only guys that have a public face pic”. if you do this, you will need to add criteria for judging what is a legitimate face pic. from the mouth down? i dont think so. sunglasses and hat so you cant really figure out what someone looks like? nah… blurry or tiny or dark? ixnay. the good news is that there are well defined international standards for face pics (“passport qualiy”), and probably even some programs that can be run on .jpeg files to determine automatically if they are passport-quality. make it optional to upload one of these, but allow searching that is resticted to those profiles that have one. allowing options keeps more people happy…

Perhaps dropping the option for HIV status. Many people are dishonest about it and the truth is its a question that should be asked if one finds it important. Just a thought

It seems you post what you want and continue to block my post here WTD

I agree with what Forth Worth Area User said (I’m also in the Fort Worth area) about lumping too many cities into the same searching area. Please separate them or just keep close areas together. For instance putting all of the mid cities together makes sense, but putting places together, such as Burleson and Hurst, that take a minimum of half an hour to get to is not helpful. It is frustrating to search Fort Worth and get back results for people who aren’t close enough for spontaneous encounters. Also it’d be great if you could take Denton out of the Dallas search area since it is 45min-1hr away and has an entire county between them. I’d also like the ability to choose which photos to unlock instead of all or nothing. Other than that I love using A4A.

I would like to see the search function add the option of a “near me” results list. You can choose by city or state, but when you live in s amaller town, it would be really useful to put in what you want, and the choose near me, so you can see everyone close to you (by distance) that matches what you want.

The Near Me is not accurate. Have contacted people who are not as close as the site indicates.

A mutual unlock feature would be awesome. Like where when you select unlock it doesn’t show until the other person agrees and then you can’t lock back until it’s actually been viewed. Keep the traditional unlock too though cause I know that was something really important when I was still a young gay stuck in the closet. LOL

Get rid of the ability to post your age as 69. It is not funny, informative or cute. It is tired and stupid.

How about when both parties have selected “add to my friends” the system automatically unlocks pvt pix for both parties.

Ok so I came back to see what else got posted after I did. I haven’t gotten through everything yet but I saw somethings that I wanted to comment on before I re-post, sadly to say the things I was going to type got bumped out of mind by something I read.

FORCED Pics: Someone said something about REQUIRING pics, that it was 2013 and everyone should have one, and there is no good excuse not to. Now I am going to spout off some personal opinion.

IF ANY WEBSITE REQUIRED ME TO EXPOSE MYSELF TO HUNDREDS OF STRANGERS, EVEN POTENTIALLY (meaning if someone with the proper skills could hack into my account and gain access to my pictures and I know I have heard of several cases of people getting hacked on adam4adam) THEN I WOULD ABSOLUTELY REFUSE TO APPLY FOR MEMBERSHIP, IF I HAD MEMBERSHIP ON THE SITE AND THIS WAS A NEW POLICY THEN I WOULD IMMEDIATELY CANCEL MY ACCOUNT. FURTHERMORE I WOULD REFER TO THE SITE NEGATIVELY WHENEVER I WOULD TALK TO ANYONE ELSE ABOUT MY EXPERIENCES WITH ONLINE GAY SOCIAL SITES BECAUSE I WOULD MENTION HOW OTHER SITES, DO NOT FORCE ME TO DO THINGS AGAINST MY WILL.

In other words it would cost that site my patronage PERMANENTLY, and would impact their reputation and I doubt it would be positively.

Consider this a warning and not an opinion that’s open for re-consideration .

If a4a wanted to do something like that then they should make it a requirement for a special section of the site only. But if it was required for basic usage, don’t be surprised if it bites someone on the butt.

Ethnicity: Now someone else mentioned not making ethnicity required. I can agree with that. HOWEVER I also will say it would be good to know before getting involved with someone (oh now I look bad but wait there is more) Personally I am really not attracted to any asian guys I have seen, I have never seen anyone who was strongly of native american decent (I myself have some relation but its many many many generations back as to make no difference) and I have to say my tastes in black men are particular to say the least.

If someone wanted to share it right away that would be fine, if they didn’t thats also fine. Honestly I will say that more people probably discriminate than they should. I stated some details about me on the topic but I will say that I am also someone who won’t dismiss someone offhand.

BUT I do think A4A should make it into a group of check boxes instead of a drop down list. “Mixed” is very ambiguous. Why not have it where someone can check off that “mixed” means instead of leaving it vague?

I saw something where someone suggested dividing up a4a between social and hookup profiles. LOVE THAT. It would be so nice if I could look through profiles of guys who wanted to make friends instead of having to pick through the list of guys who want to get off, zip up, and go home.

DUAL Unlock/ Pic trade: I liked that idea, if someone wants someone to unlock a pic then they should be able to use a “trade pics” option, and if they do then the pics unlock only if the other party also unlocks, and both parties pics remain available to each other, either for a set amount of time and/or as long as both members keep their pics unlocked for each other. So you can’t unlock, peek, then re-lock before the other person.

I did like the “popularity” thing someone mentioned having a ranking based off the number of views and “likes” your profile gets. Having it set up between your area, state, and period would be cool. Imagine knowing your number one locally, in the top ten for your state and in the top 1,000 for your country (ok country is a bit much and people would get retarded trying to be high ranked on that scale.)

Ok I am stalled up again. Will be back if I think of more.

so, Blog..
..are there any suggestions here that pique your interest?

(i know i have seen some that i can corroborate, and some others that i dissent for {and not just because they don’t fall within the scope of the purpose of adam4adam, or within the scope of a site that is, indeed, supported by ADs, and a few paid subscriptions})

i’d also love to know what ideas you guys originally had for adding to (or subtracting from) adam4adam