Hot or Not : Long Hair

Now that I”m 60 and grey, I have grown my hair past my shoulders. It is in part for a role in a play (The Ghost of Christmas Past in a Christmas Carol) and partly because I thin long grey hair is beautiful. All my fuck buddies like my hair this way, so I don’t think I’ll be cutting it any time soon.

I started Growing out my hair about a Year ago and it’s starting to get Long. I Love it and Want to Grow it as long as I can. I do admit sometimes I Feel Like a Chick with a Dick. LOL That’s some Funny Shit! Hi Dave.

Depends on how long you’re calling “long hair” when I read the caption (before the pic) I had tragic thoughts of fabio, billy ray cyrus, and that dang saxophonist who’s name I can’t remember from the mid 90’s. /shudder… Pause to vomit. So the “hairspray” bands of the 80’s… So not my thing. This guy, he has a nice body, but I’d still (probably) pick someone else over him as the bar was closing. (Not that either would have me, but that’s another story.)

Deal breaker…long hair is not attractive on a guy to me at all.

It’s the body man
It’s ALWAYS the body
Unless of course they have acne breakouts everywhere!!!

Tom: you hit the nail on the head… right on.

The question was not what everyone should like or if this particular guy is hot. The question was “Hot or Not : Long Hair”. And of course the answer is a matter of perspective. I consider hair long when it’s beyond 2 inches yet some guys can carry longer hair well while others in my eyes do not.

If the hair is clean and the man masculine, I don’t see a problem. I think Dave has some other issues here. I keep my hair executive length out of habit but have in the past had shoulder length hair. A lot depends on the styling of the hair also. Shoulder length frizz isn’t attractive on men or women. I find a mans faced framed by his hair falling forward over me is quite a turn on, especially if he is brushing my chest with the hair.

I personally prefer guys with long hair. The guy in the pic made me pop a boner as soon as I saw him! I have a fantasy about plowing a guy with long hair doggystyle and using his hair to help my thrusts

Not hot…I like guys that look like guys. The shorter, the better

I’m not attracted to long hair. Yes, I do associate it with femininity. But even if the guy is undeniably “masc” I’m still not interested in getting any of it in my mouth (which has happened) or all over my pillows-n-sheets, or in the drains. I’m done with long haired types.

I have effeminate friends with whom i would never consider fucking. But, that’s because there are feminine traits that I am not attracted to (i.e. lip gloss, waxed eyebrows, long gelled hair, any kind of face make-up, even music taste can be a turn-off). But for some reason, long hair (in my opinion) enhances a face frame when worn right. If it looks healthy and looks product-free, I’ll go for it. To me, it’s a sign of adventurousness: it’s like a sign that the male in question can take care of his attributes, keep himself clean, is virile (:D) and- if it looks healthy- he has good genes. To each his own though.

Love long hair! Always had a bit of a “sexy Jesus” fantasy, lol.

The guy in the photograph is very attractive, but it’s not the long hair that defines him being sexy in my opinion. He just is, in a male model sort of way, the long hair just adds some appeal. I personally don’t prefer guys with long hair because it’s just not what I like in a man. It gets in the way and becomes annoying. A nice low cut or shaved head will suffice.

I think this guy is hot…I don’t particularly like long haired guys, and this guy has a hot looking face as well…BUT there are guys that are not necessarily considered all that attractive, but I think are incredibly hot! It’s all a matter of opinion, which is what you asked…So in this case: HOT! Some long haired guys are so not hot!

AMEN Dave! All the way!

I agree with Original post and your response to Tom.

The only way i can imagine overlooking the long hair is if guy at least smells like a man… in every way ;o).

But Dave its right, Its not gonna change. Its a life. Just cant get hung up on guys that dont like u back because they know what they want… cant let it get you down. Just have to learn to respect it and move on.

Tom, “internalized homophobia” is spot on. And you are NOT deciding what others should think. You merely are making an insightful observation.

Long hair is hot … but bald, shaved, styled, short, or buzzed can be too … it really depends on the guy. As long as the hair is clean, not too much product, a comb-over, or dyed some weird-ass color, then I’m likely okay with it.

Regarding the post from “Tom” and your reply; you’re being a little too dismissive of a viable argument: I think there are far too many men who get locked into “I must have [INSERT SPECIFIC ATTRIBUTE HERE]; anyone without that won’t do.” It feeds right into your recent blog about fetishes and a question I posted there about when does something “desirable” cross over into a fetish. We fetishize what might otherwise simply be an attractive quality — like long hair, for example — to the degree that we exclude any other possibility. For instance, I really, REALLY like facial hair, but I’ll give a guy without it a chance (cuz, well, I can always demand he grow a mustache later).

For me I am not into long hair guys because my brother has long hair so i guess its a mental thing for me but the guy is good looking but I do agree needs more meat on him

I have st8 brothers with long hair and are very masc. I would not mind a man with long hair. But he would have to have it in a pony so it wasn’t in my face. Tho I prefer a guy with short hair I would not discriminate. If he’s hot he’s hot.

The hair depends on the guy. Its the only way. It can’t must be one or the other

You’re so right Dave. Long hair is for girls. I want a MAN. Granted there are sexy men with long hair, but just think how sexy they would be with a shaved head or buzz cut. If a dude has long hair don’t be ALL into your hair either-it’s not appealing.

Tom, I agree with you, that gay men will always be internally homophobic, because they feel like being even a little bit fem will give them away, and I agree that 95% of the time, when a gay man comes out people are not suprised, yet they think it is some huge deal, EVERY gay man has a little fem in them, and every lesbian has a little butch, it is just the way it is.
That being said, long hair, short hair, smooth, hairy, fat, thin, muscular, black, asian, white….we all have a “type”. I just feel like we have to give up the ideals that have been hammered into us about what is masc and what is fem. What is beautiful and what is not, everyone is attractive so someone. All this “well, if I wanted to have sex with a woman I would” is a big lie…if you are having sex with a guy whether he is a big butch football player or waspy thin with a lisp HE IS STILL A DUDE! get over yourself already.
I do think that the blogger on this site seems to be VERY judgemental in every way whether its a guy has long hair, or is too smooth, or if he is a little over weight, or posting about justin bieber, you seem really judgemental and sarcastic.

no no on that guytis look kind of wired and stuff , if the guy was yongerandsrtuff then he migth look hot like said i dont thing this guy that hot that iahveto agree with ever thing tom said heis corect about gay men

When I was a teen loved long hair on other teen guys. Right now close cropped hair is the style and signifies youth and all the sexuality that goes with that. When an older guy sports longer hair remonds me of Fabio. No thanks.
But I do also dislike when a young guy with a good head of hair shaves it clean or covers it up with a cap. When he is older he will wish he had hair to shave or cover up!

I have always found men with long or shaggy hair to be very sexy. To me it to defies the stereotype of man versus women. All of us contain some masculine and some feminine traits. Some of us feel more comfortable in expressing them…. while others feel they must hide them. I personally would love to be fucked buy a man with gorgeous long hair. I would also love to make love to a beautiful long haired bottom boy. I also like men with short hair or shaved heads. Guess I see beauty there I see it… and the length of someone’s hair is just an interesting factet to the multiplicity of beauty of men

I think Tom has a point. Sure, you can have your preferences with regard to long hair vs. short hair, etc., but it’s definitely true that (1) there’s a general tendency in the gay community, at least in the US, to “worship the classic model of masculinity” and (2) to make derogatory remarks about effeminate men. I don’t think Tom was trying to question people’s tastes (de gustibus non est disputandum) but pointing out certain tendencies that may have the potential to harm us as a community.

I think (1) is unsurprising, given that most men are straight and most of us grew up around women who constantly idolized “the classic model of (straight) masculinity,” so to an extent perhaps many of us have been socially conditioned to be drawn to certain traits. (2) is problematic, in my opinion. A gay man who has an inexplicable natural inclination against effeminate men (and I’m not necessarily excluding myself from that category) should at least think about why that is and ask himself whether it’s truly “just a preference” or whether it has roots in the homophobic societies most if not all of us grew up in. In the latter case, it should at least be recognized as a problem and efforts should be made to counter it.

Does that count as an amen? :-p

i have long hair, and i think it fits me better. some buys look much better with long hair and some guys look better with short or shaved. some guys can even do both looks and it makes no difference. for me, as long as it’s well kept up, and not stringy and thin, than i say it hott. 😀

Depends on your age & must be clean

I’d be on my knees with my face in his crotch in a heart beat. He can Top me ANY TIME!!!

I agree with the ‘hot is hot’ comments, the rest falls into place. Having said that I find SOME men hot with long hair, but just having long hair doesn’t mean they are hot.

As for it being fem, I guess for me hair is hair. Looking at that guy posted above, he seems all man to me. now if he had a different build and mannerisms it might be different.

And I love running my fingers through a guy’s hair while cuddling, and I’d have no problem dealing with his hair as he fucked me 🙂

With a body and face like that, who gives a damn if his hair is long. A man can be sexy/hot/fuckable regardless of his hair length. But thats a whole other conversation. This guy in the picture is just HOT

Kevin Sorbo ( Hercules, TV series) has long hair and was one of the most masculine, attractive men at the time, but looked equally hot with short hair. I don’t think it’s the hair, its the man.

Wow. I’d love to look like this guy. It’s amazing too see him many people on here talk about his flaws…long hair, too skinny, etc. What??! So you could have sex only if never looking above his neck?!! Seriously? You all must be perfectly chiseled Davids with a bevy of twins to chose from. This guy is perfect, even with the long hair. You know what, he’d be perfect with short hair too. You all remind me of Chandler from Friends, finding fault in everyone. andHow about everyone with a negative connect post a pic standing in the same pose. We can put it side-by-side with this guy’s and and ask “who is hotter?”

First of all… AMEN Tom!

We guys need to get it right. Just be yourself. There is someone out there for everyone. Why limit yourself based of dumb insignificant options you probably will never use anyway? A relationship with another human being is not the same as purchasing a Mercedes. Your boyfriend/lover should not come with options and features. You are entitled to have your “TASTES”, Dave. All Tom was saying was to open your mind up a little more. My preference is an awesome guy who’s good outweighs the bad. Physical or no. Millions of people screaming for marriage equality, yet the homosexual population still for some reason hasn’t mastered the art of dating and courtship.

As for the snippy bitchy-ness that goes on in the community… That is the BIGGEST turn off of them all. Some people find humor in it… My answer to that is some people also laugh at racist jokes. That doesn’t make them any more funny or worthy of my attention.

I shock everyone that finds out I’m gay, Tom. I get constantly accused of “playing too straight.” I just recently took a str8 friend with me to the mall because i can’t be trusted to pick out clothes for myself. He teased me the entire time about it.

IMHO, why don’t we stop having the psychobabble conversation. what do I think is hot? The guy in the pic is hot, but I usually go for short guys with short hair. Do i care if the guy is effeminate? Does he know the gay lingo? Can he say “meanwhile,” and know the other meaning? Does he love me more than his luggage? Who cares. Learning his lexicon and teaching him mine is the way to go. My boyfriend is short, loves his hair blue, shops like the White Queen, and plays DND. He’s awesome. I don’t quantify him. I just love him and wait for the next chapter. The more we act “typically gay” the more we call attention to it.

I casually mention my sweetie all the time. It’s how people ask the question “you talk about him a lot, don’t you” and my response is usually “of course. You talk about her all the time….” I treat myself in public like everything i am is normal. Strangely, I get treated that way. I think we need to wean ourselves off the “i just came out in high school” act. I taught middle school for a bit, and the world is changing my friends. I have stories that shock me, make me jealous I’m not a gay kid NOW, and make my friends tell these stories of hope to others. The coming generation is going to wonder why all the bull [email protected] Focus on the positive. Thoughts are things. Let us wade in positivity.

Hell yes. this guy is hot with lon, short or none hair. Send himm to my home for the holidays!!!!

Some guys do look hott with longer hair but personally I prefer scruffy men with. Shorter hair. Or bald .. the most important thing to me is attitude. .ive seen many men with long hair that have made me go Holy fuck !
I attracted to both masc and fem guys. .. some guys look better with short hair some look better with long hair …

Tase is one thing, BUT tastes can be overcome. That is one way that psychologists differentiate tastes from conditions or syndromes. If the REST of a person (muscles, personality, face, etc.) cannot overcome a single taste (long hair, race, etc.), at least in some cases, then that is probably not a taste, but a psychological compunction.

Quite often, in the last 20 years, gay males have a problem with men with longer hair. This quality far outstrips the number of women who avoid men with longer hair. This points to it being less of a taste issue and more or a condition.

Tom, you’ll get an “Amen” from me, damn it! Haha.

But seriously, I agree with your point, specifically the last one you made. At the end of the day, it’s just hair. Yes, some men may prefer hair length to be on the short or long end of the spectrum (both on their body and the hair on top of their heads). But look at a few men who have gone through both extremes of it: Hugh Jackman, Brad Pitt and Lenny Kravitz. They’ve each had their share of lengthy lion’s manes, buzz cuts, full beards and so forth. These men are smoking hot, and I seriously doubt that ANYONE would deny having a good time with them just because their hair was long enough to touch the bottom of their neck at one point…

And really, I have to take a bit of offense at some of these people who automatically assume that a man with long hair is only good enough to lie on his back and get fucked. My hair comes past my shoulder blades, so that means I can’t give a man some dick in the ass? Ridiculous…

Yes, yes, yes! Short hair or no hair.

Absolutely NOT HOT at all

NOT

HOT! & it’s served me WELL over the years!

Why generalize when you’re already in a minority group? Straight men have long hair as well; does that also make them retroactively effeminate like the stereotypes that I am reading here?

I don’t care how long your hair is as long as it’s real.

I was in my teens and also a young man during the 1960s when longer hair and also being a hippie was in as was wearing fake fur and having a shoulder bag.None if these things made a man less a man or a fem. as this was the style of the times.I still wear my hair long in keeping with my hippie roots.When it comes to long hair,short hair,shaved head,a beard or whatever it all comes down to the man and how he looks with what ever look he has.Some men look very hot with long hair,some do not.A shaved head can look hot but that for me depends on the shape of the mans head.Myself I do not think my head looks good shaved because of its shape.I also think because of the shape of my face I look better with facial hair.We all have our likes and dislikes.

long hair or short, if the guys is a romantic guy that know how to kiss an dmake love who cares? I used to be really turned on with a man with a hairy chest, but have been with smooth guys that know what they are doing and wow!!! so it depends on the guy

i like it on tall slender guys. straight acting vers bottom..

As a child of the sixties, we didn’t much of a choice. The people who thought long hair looked effeminate were bigoted rednecks. To this day, give me a man with long locks. Your model up top is absolutely hot

What makes the length of a man’s hair determine if he is effeminate or masculine?

this is the most beautiful man I have ever seen

well, i would like to take partial credit for this popularity of this blog topic. And to the gentlemen who thinks I’m in my twenties. I look like I’m in my twenties, but I’m nearly 40 ;-P AMEM!

Who cares about the long hair, with a body like that he could be bald with a mountain man beard and I’d still ride him like a carnival ride.

i love long hair on a really hot guy. i myself have very long hair. it has never caused me any down falls in life.

Long hair is a real deal breaker for me. A guy can be hot and muscular or slim & twinkish but add long hair and it feminizes them for me. So short hair, full hair, styled hair, any hair color, or bald it does not matter. However add the long hair & I totally loose interest.

So…..What about Jesus? I mean I wasn’t around but I think he and the other biblical figures like Samson (strength was in his hair)would feel kind of disrespected right about now lol .not to mention the Roman and Greek warriors ..n last but not least Native Americans who associate their hair with strength…n no I’m not trying to discuss religion too much , those examples just came to mind … As a 20-something man of color with what ppl consider long hair I am double fucked lol …Im masculine discreet and private , not a pretty boi..I enjoy working with my hands building things and fixing cars, but I’m smart too and headed to medical school .. grow my hair out every now and then but because my hair grows quick and as a busy guy and a student I have more important things to think about n i don’t feel like cutting it myself or going to the barber to pay him, I like the way I look and it fits my personality because I always switch up , I am a rough and rugged type of guy but i am neat, I dress professioally and speak intelligently..its boring to me to keep the same look all the time. Certain people don’t think I will be successful being a man of color with long hair but thats another reason I keep it ..I graduated from a great school , present myself well and it hasn’t hurt me at all..certain men like it as do certain women..those who don’t I don’t care really ..probably jealous that they don’t look right with longer hair ir the balls to rock it!

I don’t like men with long hair I agree with Dave it just seems to feminine to me and is a real turn off. I prefer men who look masculine and manly.

Hot is hot, not is not. I see hot as a combination of factors that can include long hair. I like long hair, I have had long hair, I don’t want to have it again.
I do not exclude or include a Man for one single reason.

Long hair can be very hot and isn’t necessarily effeminate (though it can be). But done right, it’s more like a barbarian who doesn’t give a shit about style and is willing to be himself. All those wrestlers and NFL guys are definitely NOT effeminate! And on black guys…oh yeah!

It all depends on the guy and how it’s kept. I’d take the 1990’s Gavin Rosdale over now. He was so sexy with his hair laying in his face. Also depends on how long. Anything longer than the guy in the picture is a bit too much. Personally I like a guy with hair a bit shorter in the back but laying lazily in his face. Yummy!

Long hair is hot

Wow, extremely sexy!!!
I don’t really have a specific type, but id have to say I know a sexy guy when I see one. This is one sexy ass man with amazing hair!

Long hair IA turn off! Seriously! I don’t get it! Guys with long hair! Not my things! Bold is better!

Long hair on a guy is not attractive to me at all. Masculine and long hair on a guy just don’t mix.

To Tom’s psychoanalysis of the poll:

Jungian psychology teaches us that what we find offensive in others is invariably aspects of ourselves that we dont like, and externalize it by projecting it onto others, and ridiculing them for it. He has a famous quote something along the lines of “we learn much about ourselves through that which annoys us of others.”

So I submit, Tom, that perhaps you’re struggling with some of these issues yourself (“internalized homophobia” to use your term) and need to examine that and how you feel about it. Because the question is very simple and does not carry the inherent complexity that you project on to it.

And I cant even begin to speak to your remarks about needing to learn to love other gay men. Huh? Attraction is not a choice. I would think the gay community would know that more than anyone, as its been the party line in defense of the ludicrous accusation that gay is a choice. If someone likes masc guys, or straight guys, or fem guys, or fat guys, or whatever, lets let them do so, ok?

Now, to answer the question, I hate long hair on a guy. lol. I dont see it as feminine, I see it as sleazy and trashy. The 90’s Fabio thing. yuck. I think it ruins a guy’s whole appearance.

i had long hair (about 2/3 down my back) and since i got it cut i’m gettin’ a lot more cock! who is the guy in the picture? i want to see more of him!

I don’t have a lot of criteria. However long hair is a total deal breaker! It’s an erection killer.

Grow up, Terrence. How very 1950s of you.

I have very well conditioned and clean taken care of shoulder length light brown curly hair..Also have a neatly trimmed beard and moustache,never shave any body parts,and have the tatts, also…I am 100% man..i just love to suck cock,though..There is NOTHING effiminate about long hair on a guy at all…I look absoultely ridiculous with short hair and a shaved face…Some guys look better with short hair,but i am really sick and tired of the shaved head look.It’s just as bad as the “Christopher Street clones” of the 1980″s!..Variety is the spice of life.I personally love to run my fingers thru a guys hair and give him a neck massage when i am getting blown…..

▔▁(ヅ )▁/▔ Long Hair Don’t Care!.. Masculine dudes dat have the balls to pull off a long hair, and their swagg and style match.. are fukin dope! Top Line!

Sorry – guys are supposed to have short hair. If you have a pony tail, expect me to be behind you with a pair of scissors.