Hot or Not : Androgynous Men

I’m attraced to both masculine and feminine looking guys. I can’t say there is one specific type that I’m most attracted to. Although, if I look back at all the guys I’ve been with, I end up choosing the feminine looking guy who has a masculine personality

Interesting question: Yeah Ive been told Im too FEM even by pictures too. For some reason I dont get along with gay guys at all. I DONT have gay friends. They tell me Im too FEM. But anyways to answer the question no Im not attracted to FEM guys. Most STRAIGHT, BI-CURIOUS, MARRIED guys love FEM boys for their first time. I GET them a lot but I turn all of them down. I DONT like being used as a sex toy!

I dont like them. If I want a fem I would be with a woman. Not a man.

I love em, I mostly bc of their sexy ads moans , nd beside if they look good being feminine so b it, besides they havr the best bodys

I am attracted to guys who are comfortable with who they are, whether masculine, feminine, or a happy medium. I am not attracted to anyone who intentionally overdoes it for purposes of maintaining an image.

And while we’re on the subject of being comfortable with who you are: allegedly “straight” guys who try to have sex with men are NOT hot at all. They are cowards, afraid to be associated with us gays. Yes, there is such as thing as experimenting, being bi-curious, and even being gay4pay, but if you looking to get a dick in your ass for the fourth or fifth time, you are lying only to yourself.

I like femme men. They are good in bed.

Not, but each his own. In my experince, most “fems” tend to be restricted in their sexual interests, ie, bottoms only. I compare overly fems to cds or tvs. Even if they are verse or masc in bed it’s a huge turn off if they are overly fem.

I think Andrej rings the epitome of what the blog post is about!
(have you seen the pics of him and Rick Genest?)

I’m not sure if i fit the descriptive bill but i can easily go from one extreme to the other. I click very well with heterosexual guys.. Until, that fine line becomes so blurred that the “WTF!?” look on their face becomes apparent; There can be a very nice bond til certain thoughts begin to surface.. Once that happens, usually they pull away very confused, even if we were just being bromantic.

It’s a fine line.

It’s not just “androgyny”, it’s also the twinky archetype that people interpret along with it that i think Andrej shows very well! When it comes to my personal dating life, that has probably gotta be the biggest nuisance.

If i “let my hair down”, i find myself coming across those ex-married guy’s. The “daddy’s”.. It works for me because that’s the type that i’m mostly attracted to but then, things don’t begin to add up once i’m not that “boy” that they expected me to be.

There’s generally a sumbmissive demeanor that is expected from one while on that side of the fence. I’m not always there, though.. I used to train with boxers.. I entertained a temporary interest that i once had in jiu jitsu.. 

Submission is not necessarily something that i’m keen on.

It certainly makes things interesting because once i switch sides, i either intimidate the crap out of everyone (except women) and find myself surrounded by those “submissive” types (and also the women) that the daddy’s expected, or, i get those über masculine one’s that crush beer cans on their forehead.

I’m shopping now for a train ticket to paradise because, man… Both sides are equally me but i’m constantly weighing in while meeting people because of these expectations that they project and seem to have.

If Rick Genest were single, i’d maybe try my luck and click a lot easier with him but then again, i only have about 3 or 4 small tattoo’s… What’s he going to think!?!?!???!!!!

I’m no wuss…

And i’m certainly no square..

Once i get to paradise, i’m getting a huge piece done on my back. It’s going to say: “Rare and Radiant”.

Beneath it: “Lenore”

No, Androgynous Men don’t do it at all for me,I l kike masculine hairy men..as I am bi. If a guy is fem I am a turned off and also if he is young and it shows. But to each his own, I do not hate then either.

For me it depends on the guy, although I think statistically I’ve had sex with more “masculine” men than feminine. But then again, I currently have a huge crush on a guy who’d be feminine by usual definition. So yeah, it depends on the guy. As for straight or curious men, a lot of them are married with kids and yet love my dick up their backsides. I’m told I’m very masculine, so I guess a lot of straight men do like masculine men.

I’m a very masculine guy and throughout high school I have been attracted to very masculine guys. My second gay experience was with a fem guy…..too prissy…too girly. Was a total turnoff for me. I’ve got friends who like that type….nothing wrong with it. Just not my preference.

I fucked a feminine guy for a long time because every time I fucked his bubble butt ass he would moan like a little school girl, as for a partner, I want a masculine man with a hairy chest and a big cut cock to fuck my hot tight latino ass and a nice cut cock for me to suck like crazy, fem guys are a great fuck but that’s all.

im andergenious guy my self and yess i do find them verry hot that to be icould care less if a guy looklikea guy or a lady that tis verry true that andergenoious guys get alot shit inthe gay cominity sadly the are portared as not baing macline witbh the are shure met some some who are masaine then foot jock that ever btuch game would go for

Can we please Define what “masculine” is? I’ve never understood how I may be termed “fem.” Yes I dye my hair and paint my nails. I used to be a drag queen and I’m a hairstylist. I can act very flamboyant at times. But I also fix cars, like to watch college sports, play pool and have a beer every now and then. How does that fact that just because I do these things with a manicure make me less masculine. All men are masculine. We all have a cock, we all can use a urinal. Just because someone’s personal style of dress may not be what society terms “normal” for a man it makes them effeminate. I think the saddest thing is all these guys out there saying ‘he’s to gay’ or ‘he’s not manly enough.’ are the ones who don’t have the balls to show their face on a gay site like A4A. It takes balls to be a man and most of the ‘fem’ guys show how big their balls are everyday they step out the front door and be proud of who they are.

Who is the Boi in that Pic Dave???

All of you have made very good points. But my question is why do I see the same guys every time I visit a room in various cities. I think that if everyone who claims they want masculinity in a man, someone would step up to the plate, find their mate and disappear. My point is that most of us who is requesting that their dream mate must be musculine is living in dreamland. Most of us aren’t going to find it. we will ultimately miss the boat.

I thought the whole point of being gay was being with a man… for me men who act like women defeat my attraction to men…

Wondercookie69 – That’s kind of the point. There is no “A guy. Period.”

What you think of as “a guy,” somebody else might think of as fem. What you think of as fem, somebody else may think of as a guy.

I think its stupid how most of the gay community looks down upon fem guys. If you ever looked into the thought that in the past alot of gay couples were a mix of fem and a masc guy. Now adays men struggle with their masculinity and what it means to be masculine so they figure they need another masc guy to keep them in line with their masculinity because they might have mixed thoughts of what ways they show their manliness. Also it seems as though most “Manly” or “Masc” guys are more of a bottom then a fem guy is! why is that? its because there is some feminine qualities in them to make them want to be the receiver in the relationship. You have to remember in a straight relationship the masculine guy would not want to be a receiver to his wife because what would be the point of being the man figure?. But back to the question i feel i am one beautiful guy i appeal to both sexes, men like me for my thin lean figure and women like me because of my exotic features but i feel androgynous men are hot because you take on the appearance of both sexes and still put it off well enough so its a blessing plus your mostly one of a kind so be happy cause no one wants to be a clone of the fake gay society! signed a 19yr old androgynous man

I personally am attracted to men that can exibit both qualities, both masculine and feminine. I mean isn’t that the definition of androgynous? I find nothing more stimulating than a man who is strong AND sensitive, a man who has a “switch” in his walk simply because it’s better for your hips, a man who openly opposes gender roles and doesn’t put on a front to be seen in a certain light. Sadly, most of the men I currently know who fit into my personal view of a sexy androgynous man are heterosexual. And since I’m not going down THAT road…again…..come on, all of us have done it….I’ll just keep waiting, making sure I’m as good or BETTER than the man of my dreams. 😉

I like guys like myself conserative,gentlemen in the street an a man in private who can allow the softer side of me hence forth in a sudtle manner more so if being penerated sometimes it comes out of me when moaning or whinning feeling submissive not fem. Maybe because my voice is deep . So some guys like a masc. man who can be bitch out sexually yet still masc. in and out of bed. I LIKE BEING HANDLE ROUGH, PASSIVE/AGGRESSIVE HERE LIKING MASC.ALPHA MALES,
THEN I LIKE GUYS LIKE ME ALSO not fem. No makeup,fem. clothes a turn off.
I wear fur coats during winter SOME TIMES,some guys think men don’t wear fur. I do have many of them . Masc.classy does not make you an screaming gay in my opinion. Martini glass in hand does that may you look fem. that would be crazy if someone thought so. AGAIN IT IS HOW YOU CARRY YOURSELF. Just be yourself and let others do the same both line. Thank God we are all different, luv the spirit of a good hearted person fem. or not.

Iam a gay men , shit no doubts about it , i any men that is confortable with his sexuality , i like both fem or not but the fems ive dated the fem part comes out natural , but someone that act fem or to masculine it is just that an act and like any other act it has and end , so i gotta tell everyone hey just be you be confortable with who u are allways, or you could end up alone and full of yourself.

Iam a gay men , shit no doubts about it , i love any men that is confortable with his sexuality , i like both fem or not but the fems ive dated the fem part comes out natural , but someone that act fem or to masculine it is just that an act and like any other act it has and end , so i gotta tell everyone hey just be you be confortable with who u are allways, or you could end up alone and full of yourself.

my word guess i get to be the new take on things well here we go. I fucking hate masculine men or should i say i hate masculinity ( in all most any and every from of it). It i find it serves no purpose. whether we are talking a one night thing or fwb or even a LTR. i am a fem top ( more like butch queen damn i cant believe i just admit to that shit)that greatly prefers fem btms or fem vers. I am so fucking tired of ” why dont you just date girls then” well i have one for them “if i wanted a masculine man i will fuck a gorilla” cause in reality there is not much difference. but then again a men that is fem proves everyday he is more manly then the average openly gay masculine man or str8 (downlow men as well) for that matter,just by walking out side his home .

Ha and yet people ( gay or str8) call us the punks yeah fucking right.

This debate has always puzzled me… I understand preferences, but this false sense of a gay hierarchy is crazy to me. We all suck cock. There’s no way to be “straight acting” with a cock in your mouth or one up your ass. I hate to be so graphic, but it helps the point I’m making. I am attracted to men; fem, masc and all things in between. This idea that the greater your ability to be perceived as straight is harmful to the advancement of gay rights. If you don’t like wearing makeup or dresses, then don’t, but please let’s stop with this perception that it makes those who do less of a man. WE ALL ARE MEN, but we don’t all have to express our manhood the same way!

I don’t think your post addresses the idea of the androgynous man at all. The concept of androgyny, particularly in the setting of the Bem conceptualization of masculinity and femininity (which you’ve linked to in your post), is that a man could have characteristics of both the masculine and feminine. For Bem this would mean, for example, being both aggressive and nurturing, both sensitive and independent, both competitive and warm, both forceful and affectionate, and so on. Traditionally, psychologists in the area of gender roles have thought of this as being ideal because it means that when aggression is the appropriate response, for example, the person can respond aggressively (it’s a personality trait they possess), but when that same person needs to be nurturing, they can easily call that into service (they possess that trait as well), in other words, there is a balance of traits that in excess might lead to problematic responses.
What you seem to be writing about is the idea of feminine men, or ‘gender atypical men’, which have been the topic of much research, but are certainly not androgynous.

Androgynous women can be hot. I like my men to be men

I love that comment up there from RICKY. I can second that, only there are 5 guys in some prison yard in Texas with my name on it haha.

@ Josh(Blackwater)

I have nothing against ftm, androgynous or fem men. I simply stated the truth and my opinion. I’m not attracted them…so apparently according to you my attraction prevents guys like you from being happy.

Now, I know this is copout statement but yes I do have fem friends and when I went to my nearest lgbtq center for younger guys I just so happened to meet a ftm who I became friends with and still to this day talk to. My fem friends are still my friends and we talk. I have no shame with walking around with them.

All I’ve said is that if you were to ask 100 gay men if they would date a ftm (heck I discreetly proposed a simliar question to the gay and bi guys of my organization) and as thought, most wouldn’t.

I prefer masculine men not because a fem guy would embarrass me, but because the personality traits that I look for (ideally) cannot be found in feminine men. Plus, I hang out with many women already. If I’m going to spend my time with someone they can’t behave like them lol I’ll go crazy. Hence why I have my pool of guys I hang out with.

Stop trying to make it seem as if everyone is against you. You’re just being dramatic.

I agree if i want to get with a woman i would be with one…. Masculine is a part of the male DNA I believe

When men talk about labeling or defining what people are, that is the first problem. Yes, there maybe some truth to every stereotype, but the only labeling people should “see” or define you is your perosnal name or nickname. Besides that, the classification system is all based upon looks and not what you do or what you like…Thus, limiting a person to an A-man or Fem-man is rediculous and disabling. All in all, people need to find what certain trais you are attracted to or not, accept what you are not, quit being offended and offensive, move on, make mistakes, and enjoy. Thus, this is all my opinion and this is what I have learned.

I don’t like the term straight acting because it infers that gay men cannot be masculine. I have a real problem with that word. I would say I am in between both and it varies. I like pop music like Rihanna and Madonna. However, I don’t care for fashion, I don’t read Vogue, and I don’t have fashion sense. I like wearing jeans, t shirts, baseball caps and I love sports.

I do prefer masculine men but I don’t think feminine gay men should be put down or criticized. I also notice another side of the gay community which I think is a joke those muscle bound gay guys. I never see these muscle bound queens any other time of the year except at gay pride. And I think the muscle bound gay men are trying to overcompensate for their perception or belief of what masculinity means which is having a perfect toned body.

Oh hell NO

Not for me, thank you. I mean don’t get me wrong, twinks are great, but I want a man, especially one who knows he’s a man. I’m not a psychotherapist, I can’t help these emos, or lady gaga wannabes, or whatever else you want to call them, figure out what they want to be when/if they decide to grow up. And god help me if I hear one of these say they’re a top… really? Wanna wrestle me for it? I’m a fat lazy bastard, and even I can kick your butt… what makes you think you deserve the right to even try getting into mine. I’m gay, I want a man, that is all.

As a same gender loving man, I do not understand why the gay standard of beauty is feminine. As same gender loving men we go thru HELL for being who we are. Yet what is constantly show down our throats is be skinny, be feminine, shun masculinity at all costs. Ironically, women have learn a similiar lesson already. Women stop accepting the lie that you can only be sexy if you are under 30, skinny, blonde, six feet tall and 120 pounds. To my same gender loving brothers STOP buying into the nonsense. You will be happier in the long run.

I could care less if they’re feminine or masculine, androgynous or obvious. I don’t like being discriminated against, so I wouldn’t do it to anyone else, UNLIKE what some of the guys HERE are doing. To each his own. If you remove the clothes, what do you have? A MAN!!!!! MANY different characteristics can make a man.